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is it fair do give bj

Feb 08, 2012
lisanjt
hey guys im wondering  if u guys think it fair thats when  you play you give and recieve?
for example; just say u were playing in a foursome would u exspect a guy to lick a female out if she doesnt give him a blow job in return?

do u guys think it fair
plz eb honst
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playfulminx   Woman 36yrs

Anything goes?

To be honest, with all the limbs and tongues that fly around in a foursome or moresome, it's really hard to keep score. Not sure anyone really sits there ensuring that oral goes around evenly? I suppose if you have played with the same couple a few times before and noticed that oral isn't forthcoming from one particular person then you might feel less likely to reciprocate over time? Hard to say, some people enjoy giving more than receiving in which case no one probably cares about things not being even.
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eagertongue4u   Man 52yrs

Not about being fair

Am I the only one who thinks all this playing is about MUTUAL pleasure ?

Giving and receiving doesn't have to be about "I do to you what you do to me".

My preference is to give the lady all she wants, pleasure her as much as I can because Karma is about giving and then getting back what you deserve based on the quality of your giving.

ET xox

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Stalky

Fair?

I think that if you consider going down is a chore you only do because you expect something in return,  then don't do it. You're going to eventually realize that you're not always going to get what you need from every interlude. Just say next. Hugs Stalky
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lisanjt

i know that

im sayign general this chick exspect it to happen
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mikeandshel  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

expect??wtf?

there should be no 'expectation' for anyone to do anything at all....to us its a case of doing what feels nicest, and what you are comfortable with.....as others said....keeping 'score' isnt in the spirit of play... and to make 'demands', or play with 'expectations'?...well....thats just not nice at all.....the only thing close to an expectation should be the desire to have fun..........
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SkinnyMinni   Man 38yrs

Keeping score

If your keeping score, then you're not having as much fun as you should be... Personally, I prefer my partner(s) to say/comment on whatever it is that they would like or think that they are missing out on...
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Harrisson68   Man 44yrs

No Sucking way !

Its allways nice to get back what you give.

There are those who do suck and those who dont, Just like swallowing.

I dont mind not getting a BJ back. I just love the taste and the look on her face.

As long as there is some interaction i think its all good.

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jamesnp  

Man 23yrs

Similar

to a previous thread...it shouldn't be about doing someone a favour (e.g. a blow job) to get something in return. Do it if you enjoy doing it, if not, don't do it :-)
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Stedy

Is it fair to not let them just cuase you don't want to reciprocate

I love giving women head, simple as that.

Whilst I also love recieving, I wouldn't want to forsake one for the other

Cutting off nose to spite the face anyone?
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nomadswingers   Couple Man 56yrs Woman 50yrs

Its not fair

We have noticed when playing, it occurs too regular the guys get too excited to give oral! they place their cock by the ladies mouth to receive then have sex and blow in a couple minutes.

Like if they feel the urge to cum, whats wrong with the guys pulling out and giving the lady oral?
So both are satisfied?
Don't the guys catch on the ladies are missing out?....duh?
Or they are just concerned about themselves getting off?
Or are they concerned about getting a STD / SDI if they give a lady oral?
Or are some just Duds in bed? 
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ChasingMidnight

...don't wake me.

If the foursome just happen to be me and three nubile adorables of the much fairer sex then I would do my very very best to be a gentleman and accommodate each and every one of them.  Really, I would...although odds are that I might just have a fair bit of help licking them all out, surely there would be at least one other all out licker in the mix?  That's fine with me...honestly it is, as I could end up looking like a beagle chasing rabbits with my tongue flapping out of the side of my mouth after something like that.  Ahhh we can dream...can't we?

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Just go with the flow and don't worry about any dumb ol' rule book...there isn't one, and you could issue "rain checks" just like they do at Target if anyone misses out.  Chances are you will all crawl away as happy little campers anyway...tongues flapping and tails wagging.

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  ...stop that, it could happen you know.

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Taipan12  

Man 46yrs

Share the load..

I think you get what you give..if there is a selfish lover involved then kick them off the team !
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ChasingMidnight

You and that bloody colon codicil...

 

Quoting 'ChasingChilli'
remember to include small print such as "If I fail to provide a service of cunnilingus to Ms Lisanjt, I hereby consent to her restraining me and giving it to me up the ass with a strap on, on the condition that she uses a sandpaper condom"

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...could make watching Judge Judy a hell of a lot more fun.  Maybe all those toothless hillbillies would quit fighting over who owned the Dust Buster when they will living together in the 14ft. long caravan being towed behind a stolen car!

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...I plead not guilty.  Want to sit across the table from me in court?

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Sharks...they leave the water when I swim both out of fear and professional courtesy.

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Handmaiden  

Woman 49yrs

Getting back what you put out?

If that is the case ET then karma has a whole heap of pleasure lined up just waiting for me.

Bring it on.

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DonnaBrett   Couple Man 50yrs Woman 44yrs

Go with the flow

It's all about fun isn't it?  There should be no expectations and demands or pressures put on anyone to do anything..but, that being said when there is a selfish lover who wants it all done to him or her and they just lay there expecting to be 'serviced' then that is a big turn off.  If everyone involved truly wants to be there...all the good stuff will come (no pun) naturally.
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jennylee1903   Woman 45yrs

Do what you enjoy doing

and if there's something you would like, ask for it. A lot of people appreciate a bit of direction.
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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

19yo Query

I guess at 19 you still consider whats fair and whats not fair. In the end it's a legal term defining what's 'Fair and Just' between two or more parties.

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The act of generosity, which is probably the issue here, is that the act of being generous to another without expectation.

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The act of receiving generous acts, is to accept them not with suspicion/obligation but believing in the good intention they are given.

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Don't feel obliged by offerings from others, but enjoy the freedom to offer others what you have to share.

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