Don't pick on the poor guy's english skills. It's almost certainly his second language and I'm sure most of us wouldn't even attempt to learn one of the asian languages.

onny2011, I do appologise but I did get a smile reading your profile. English is a bitch of a language, especially when writing.

As for your post, don't push your wife into anything, she will only resent you for it. 

i spent alot of time in asia , i had to try and learn local languages and customs.. let me tell you guys its damn hard.. when people there made jokes when i tried to speak , it made me feel really embarassed . after a while you just stop trying..

then people wonder why alot of foreigners stop trying to learn english here.. and if you ask me , i think asian people are much better at learning languages than aussies are.. most speak 3 languages .. how many languages can you guys speak?

The first step is a big one..

social/ peer/religious  pressure can make it scarey for girls and guys.

Keep it low key...go to a club for a lookie...chat to others...with no expectation to play.

Have fun, laugh and talk lots to each other about how you feel, what you thought, and what you expected :>

Go home have great sex...and talk again about what your next step could be..

B

agree with Kitty.

It can be frieghtning...i remember when my wife talked to me about it for the first time.......lmao

Seriously though....your wifes body is her temple (and it should be yours), take it very slowly, and remember interest starts at home!!!!! if it happens ,or when it happens, remember her body is her temple and she is in charge of it not you.

She decides who she gives it to and never takes one for the team.

And, remember this onny2011, if it doesn't happen ,,,,,this is as special as if it does.....your the man of her dreams......be that!!!

(Mr)

I can relate to you Mr xx.

The first time we interacted with another couple was a complete surprise to me. For a while I had shot my mouth off to my wife saying how wonderful it might be to play with another couple and have some fun times. Well, she called me on my bravado one night with some friends of ours. All I was told was that it was a black tie dinner with them at their house and it would be a fun night to let off some steam for the week. So, thinking nothing else of it, I got dressed up, as did she, and off we went to our friends place.

After arriving and letting ourselves in when invited, I instantly knew I was in trouble when our friends were standing there to great us with nothing else on but a black tie and a smile. I didn't know whether to run or pass out, but I knew instantly I missed all the signs from my wife, including her cheeky grin before we left home. After our initially hello and welcome, my wife casually stepped out of her dress to reveal that she had worn nothing underneath it, and now I was the only one fully dressed. For a cold night I was sweating badly. I reluctantly (frightened to death) slowly stripped and joined the other 3.

Dinner was great besides the fact I couldn't eat much by that time. I was also a little uncomfortable as I didn't know where to look. I felt that if I looked for too long at my friends wife that I'd be called a perve or he would become offended. What do you do? I'd never done this before and knew I was way out of my depth and comfort zone.

Anyway, the night went on and we ended up in the lounge area and things progreesed from there. For me it just wasn't working as I was now really out of my depth and my nerves were really taking their toll on me. Thankfully (mercifully) it was decided to call it a night and we went home with me still shellshocked.

After a good long chat with my lovely wife and our friends over the next few days, it was arranged that we'd try things again. Thankfully things went off better that time and they continued to get better as time went on. We were all sorry when it ended (we moved due to work), but it was fun while it lasted.

So the moral of the story is that if you're new to all of this, make time you friend and don't apply pressure to anyone to make things happen or do anything without first discussing the matter to ensure they are comfortable with the idea in the first place. If it is meant to be, it can be the best fun you can have, but if not, then walk away and just accept it as one of life's experiences. Better to enjoy your own relationship as it is than wreck it all just to have sex with someone else.

Mr SKF