Hello all and i thank anyone in advance that can help me out.

The situaiton i have with my wife is that we have different sexual libidos (now), we used to have sex 4-5 times a week, now its 1 every 6-8 weeks, i have tried spicing things up but with no result. No i didnt try spicing thigns up that way a guy would, i tried room lite with candles, flowers, smelly stuff, organised baby sitters, wine and dine. NOthing works.

The second issue i have is that over the last 7 years together, all these things have slowly become "out of bounds" firstly touching and sucking her tits, then fingering her at all, then kissing, then rimming her, me getting head form her, i have not had my cock sucked by her in nearly a year now and lately she has allowed me to lick her but no actually sex or release on my behalf, something i am ok with so long as she allows me to lick her.

We are not getting along well, and i get the whole fighitng and not wanting sex with someone that your fighing with but even when we get along well??? ALso the kid factor is part of this but i work 60-70 hrs a week and then come home and do all i can to help out.

I dont know what i am actually asking i guess just keen on feedback if anyone has been through this or has ideas to help.

I have a very very high sex drive and its killing me going without that long....