that is so sad, i hope you helped a friend out

though i must say that i disagree on one point, the one thing i have learnt on here (and actually from this thread) is that it is NEVER too late to learn a new skill so i dont think she was a lost cause at 28.

The main thing with any relationship (not just in the sex dept) is open communication, if she wasnt doing things the way he likes then a little gentle guidance is required ie 'mmmm that's nice, a little firmer, slower, faster oh yeah!!' that kind of thing then the poor girl knows, either that or guide her to this post i notice plenty of technique tips and advice here lol

I do now realize that some ladies (and i suppose guys for that matter) have a natural talent for giving pleasure via oral sex but as each person is different it is still necessary for both parties to give and receive feed back, that also is a skill, being able to guide someone without sounding like a drill Sargent barking orders and to communicate without making the other person feel inadequate is i think one of the most important skills you could have in the bedroom.

I myself have experience guys who just LOVE to lick, suck and play with pussy and do it sooooooooooooo well while others seem to do it because they think it is what i want (FYI YES YES OH GOD YES I WANT IT) but i only want it if you are really into it and enjoy it otherwise it is just rather ordinary so i now get the fact that is why some women don't do so well with head jobs, because they are not passionate about their craft basic rule of thumb: be pasionate about what you do, LOVE what you do, have fun and focus on the things you ARE good at.

With all of the chat over the past 20 to 30 years about men being ordinary practitioners of oral sex, that women are only now discovering that they too are often not all that great when it comes to the return favor. Perhaps its mostly intent and effort as compared to any great technique that wins the day. For a woman to swallow a man is the ultimate sexual emotional validation for many to most men. It might be similar to the way a woman might feel if a give man is crap at providing genital joy, and thus he simply doesn't care as much as he might. Jordan

i have had some absolutely amazing ones and some less than average but not bad ones

At the tender age of 19 i would hope you haven't had time for any bad experiences.
Mrs GC

I think too many women do it only because their partner wants them to.  You have to genuinely enjoy doing it to do it well.  I never enjoyed it until a couple years ago.  Now I enjoy it and have been told numerous times that I give good head.  You can't just bob your head up and down like in the pornos.  Pathetic!  Treat it like it's your last meal.... savour every moment, every lick, every suck.  Use your hands, tongue, lips, cheeks.  Every guy is different - some like it rough and some don't.  I'm not rough and never would be because I don't enjoy that.  Just beware of teeth... can be very ouchy on the old fella.

Sweet

You poor deprived lad.  A girl knows she's done a damn decent "job" if she can get a guy to blow....besides I love the shocked look on their faces when I make them blow in my mouth.  Nothing more satisfying than that look.  Hope you get your wish soon.

Back in the day when I was a teenager I wanted to know how to approach giving my boyfriend a blowjob. This was in the days before the internet, before all this iPhone apps rubbish, there was only your mates or books and magazines.

I was super glad that Girlfriend magazine (don't know if it still exists??) did a sealed section and basically instructed how to give a BJ, among other things. I have always been eternally grateful for that little booklet as I would have NO clue what to do and my boyfriend was a virgin too when we started doing stuff.

I agree with stalky here, apart from the finger up the bum...that's optional and some guys get funny about that.

So let me reiterate... enthusiasm, lots of spit to lubricate, no teeth, no gag reflex, have fun!!!! Gives me a chance to get all right in there and give the testicles a good grope mmmm!

Best part is having cum in your mouth........mmmmmmm!!!!!

1. When she treats your cock as if it's a raw egg and you can't feel a damn thing!!

2. Raking your knob end on her back teeth! Ouch!

3. When it's just in out in out .......YAWN!

4. when ur foreskin splits and gets stuck

5. when your knob end splits and bleeds....

Shall I go on?

No, thought not!

When I was younger getting head was a bit of a time waster for me. It did not add to the experience. Also I think that I had trouble laying back and enjoying, and would feel guilty that I was doing so little at that point. Still when doing downstairs work myself, I was always happy to feel the pleasure of my partner, especially if I knew that that was what it took for them to climax.

As I have gotten older I have come to appreciate then more. Unfortunately my Ex was lousy, basically because she just did not enjoy the activity, and was not prepared to have a go for my pleasures sake.

So I have been stuck in-between the not appreciating, and appreciating but not getting. Now single again so will have to wait and see what the future holds.

Thanks for that comment made me giggle.

Yummy mummy,

Same goes for us guys....we wanna know when we get it right so we can keep doing it!!!  Nothing worse than a woman that is silent during sex, either oral or penetration!

its like anything i suppose, if like doing it, you'll usually be good at it. i had a bad one once, it was toothy i was making fists with my toes