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Jan 29, 2010
wannabyummymummy   Woman 34yrs
OK so i have a question for guys and girls out there, call me naive but i thought that giving a BJ was a natural talent that all women posses  but during some recent discussions with men it turns out that some women do not have a clue and in fact a women who can give a good one is a real find.

So tell me guys what make a good one verses a bad one exactly? i mean really it's not rocket science right?

And girls what are your thoughts? what feed back have you had on your method and is there a course out there somewhere that i am not aware of?

Is this one of those natural born talent things? you either have it or you don't?

i will be interested in the answers to this one 
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effswing   Couple Man 46yrs Woman 46yrs

blow jobs

i dont think there is a bad bj  lol
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crane10   Man 35yrs

Like a good kisser...

Some people are great kissers and some are great BJers! Good: - teasing before blowing so I REALLY want it - wet - lots of saliva - sexy eye contact - soft and gentle at first but building to faster and more energetic sucking - additionals: ball licking and sucking, gentle fingering, rimming...
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Shyboy75   Man 36yrs

Fellatio

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Fellatio, also called fellation,[1] is oral sex performed upon the penis. It may be performed to induce orgasm and ejaculation of semen, or it can be used as foreplay prior to vaginal or anal forms of intercourse.

Fellatio is commonly referred to as a blowjob.[2] Fellatio is also sometimes referred to as "giving head" or "going down," although these terms can also both be used for cunnilingus.[3] Other terms include "sucking dick", "sucking cock", or "sucking off".


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So as far as I am concerned all the woman I have been with have give me FANTASTIC blowjobs. It is like cunilngus (licking a pussy) you have to be aware of what the other person likes and keep doing it. Once you hit the pleasure point nothing keep going!! I think more men are rubbish at cunnilngus than woman at fellatio.


ciao

Hermes

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Stalky   Man 50yrs

Oh that's easy.

It all comes down to five things...

 

 

Real enthusiasm

No inhibitions

No gag reflexes

No teeth

One finger in my bum

 

Hugs

Stalky

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Stalky   Man 50yrs

Courses?

Courses are run once a month at Club Rub. :p

 

Hugs

Stalky

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roughfukr1

so many can get it wrong

We hear so often how so many men just don't know what they are doing when going down, but unfortunately it is the same for a lot of women.

There is no one single technique guaranteed to work on all guys, however there are a few pointers which do help.
These pointers can also be used for guys going down on women.

1. First of all is enthusiasm. If you don' absolutely love what you are doing, you are not going to give it your best.
    It's been said in the forums before, most guys would prefer to go without, tan to be mauled by someone who is
    merely going through  the motions.

2.Have Fun. Pretty much ties in with the enthusiasm bit. If you are not having fun, then you will just be going through
    the motions again

3.Learn the art of Tease. It can start heaps earlier in the day. Do what ever you can to build up the excitement. Then when you get down to business, tease a bit more.

These are my 3 pointers

Stalky has some good points there too, but if you tried to stick a finger up my date you're more likely to get propelled across the room. Jus not into it!

Thats just how i roll
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ElleDee

How do you really know?

If its good or bad.....just read a post on another thread where a man commented that they fib about the bj you give them being the best they've ever had!!
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Stalky   Man 50yrs

lol rough

True not all guys are into the old finger on the sphinkter trick! Also, not all guys have sensitive nipples, but playing with sensitive nipples while performing a BJ is also a reasonable approach.

 

BTW... One of her fingers in my bum while she is blowing you ~ is that ok, Rough? :p

 

Hugs

Stalky

 

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ffnfantasy

hmmmm love the sound of orgasm in the morning

Mr F here.    Some people are just gifted at doing things like going down.....no matter whether its on a male or female.   I've had some absolute knee tremblers and  I've also had some that just plain sucked (couldn't resist that pun).   

 

Its all about learning what your recipient likes and then catering specifically for it.  

 

You must enjoy it to excel at it or you're better doing something else.

 

There's nothing better than being someone's guinea pig that wants to learn =)

 

Stay beautiful!

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RippedRanga

keep the teeth away.

i completely agree with what roughfukr says.

but when it comes to actual technique, here's my opinion.

teeth: they shouldn't touch the dick at all, it just feels really weird even if it's very light contact.
hand: if you're gonna use a hand don't pull down too hard...
tounge: don't put it against the roof of your mouth to prevent gagging. it still feels kinda alright, but feels best when it's against the dick.

i've never had a complaint about a blow job once a girl has knocked those things were out of the way.


hope this helps yummymummy


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The_Seeker   Man 37yrs

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ROughFUkr got it right.. specially the art of tease part. ... Pretty much works like this: give what you want back. ;)
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Mynameonurlips   Woman 49yrs

who gives a 'toss' if they enjoy it or not?

Quoting 'ElleDee'
If its good or bad.....just read a post on another thread where a man commented that they fib about the bj you give them being the best they've ever had!!


G'day ElleDee!

This is one generalization that I believe I can get away with....

as previously mentioned, if the blowER is passionate about the

subject at mouth, employs a combination of gentle enthusiasm

soft sucking, tantalizing tongue roll, palate control, time mgt

& genuine sensuality

then its.....

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sexellence   Man 56yrs

Blow jobs

Some years ago after my wife and I went our separate ways and I got back on the dating treadmill, I was pleasently surprised at the number of women who in the heat of passion would perform oral sex on me. I really can't think of any that didn't go down on me, and I say surprised because my ex wasn't that keen and only performed when she lost a bet on some contentious issue or argument, which for me the winning prize was always a  BJ. (If you ask I"ll tell you what her requested prize was).

 

I don't recall ever having a "bad one" at all, as all blow jobs are fantastic. However quite often the difference between a BJ and a fantastic BJ is the degree of passion and enjoyment the person puts into it, in addition as to whetherthe person likes cum on their face or in their mouth. Probably by far the best BJ exponent was a lady who sucked my cock with such lusty fervour and passion and then hungrily devoured the juices that I shot my load in record time accompanied by a very intense orgasm. A BJ from her was a life altering experience.

 

I still think of her and reflect back on her prowess in that department, darn well wished I'd married her (not just because of her BJ expertise either).

 

Anyhow in more recent times I have been complimented in my oral skills by both male and females, and I think it is the fact that I enjoy performing oral and pleasing my partner and the passion that I display is as important as technique.

 

And as a final answer to the last part of the original question:  "is there a course out there?" Of course there is, and I am more than happy to give lessons, free of charge naturally. LOL!

 

Happy sucking everybody.

 

 

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MissBJ   Woman 41yrs

A good BJ versus a great one....



Most guys will happily let you suck their cock...even if you're not that great at it...
but I've learned the following...

Enthusiasm beats technique every time. Same with cunnilingus...if the recipient feels like you just can't get enough of them...it will be much more enjoyable for them as opposed to feeling like you're just going thru the motions.

Ask lots of questions...mmm...you like that, baby?....or listen for the sounds and movements that tell you you are hitting a sweet spot....keep doing what gets a positive reaction....skip over what doesn't.

Have fun...experiment. Try a mouthful of icy cold coke before slipping his cock in....or a mouthful of nice hot coffee (not too hot though!)...and hard sucking....soft licking....humming....blowing gently on spit wet skin....the list is endless!!

Some guys like the bum play...some don't. Tickle your finger down his crack...tease his hole...if he pushes towards it...you can be pretty sure he's willing to try more. If he doesn't...don't force the issue...just move on to something else.

Make sure you don't neglect his balls either. Firmly but gently...handling...sucking...unless he says otherwise.
I love sucking a guys balls...get them all nice and wet...then blow gently on them and watch the sac pucker...mmm

There is no BJ formula that fits everyone....the only thing the same for all of them is that you use your mouth!!


Just my opinion...

BJ
xxx



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DonnaBrett   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 43yrs

Good or bad?

The main thing (male speaking here) is that the woman in question MUST be wanting to do it....if her heart isn't in it..then neither is her mouth. Generally speaking though most BJ's I've encountered have been good...right up to awesome!  I can really only think of once where the girl really had no idea and to make it worse she was all teeth!!  Felt like a month full of razor blades...not good!  LOL
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BlackStilettoes   Woman 47yrs

Made a Guy faint once!

Interesting post, I have heard alot of guys say some women have no idea about giving a bj..

 

I, personally feel it is a natural and urging experience to do to my partner and love it...  You have to like it or love it to do it good....

 

Was giving a bj to a fukbuddy once and he liked it and told me to keep going, next minute he fainted lol....spose I was good...lol...was crazy at the time but scary also...

 

I have never had any complaints, only enthusiastics.. I personally love giving head, it's like kissing...adore it.

 

Mexican Wave to BJ's oh yeah...

 

xx

 

 

 

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floyd277   Man 52yrs

bj's

well in all my years I've never had a bad one but some are way better than others - missbj you should put together an instructional video 'cause you ARE the best! lol just my opinion.....
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sambre

omfg!

BJ,

 

I want to come visit you!

 

In essense, enthusiasm is the key and communication, be it via "you like that?" or pleasurable groans when you do something yummy is the key, like ass play, everyone is different.

 

I'd argue a bad blow job is one where the giver hasn't modified behaviour to suit the recipient. It is an art, everyone is different and practice makes perfect.

 

For the record, I love my balls sucked, cock stocked as its sucked, tongue licking under the head, rimming and prostate massage. Finish that with looking into her eyes and you see the look of pure lust and desire and I am a done monkey!

 

 

"A blow job from an ugly person and standing on a cliff have one thing in common. Don't look down!"

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sydneyboy3au   Man 32yrs

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Quoting 'stalky'
                                 

Courses are run once a month at Club Rub. :p

if that trick works I proclaim you King of the World ;)
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Stalky   Man 50yrs

hehe... Are you volunteering as a demonstration model?

lol..... Sydneyboy..  I wasnt ecpecting much response.. but at the very least I thought Jane would get a laugh out of the comment.... hehe.

 

Hugs

Gaz 

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