Honey, you're not alone, a lot of women can't get over the edge by just sex alone. I have to be already crazy lust drunk to get there. You just need a more experienced lover and they aren't easy to find. Or try another girlie, we have the owners manual y'know. Although she can't help you in the willy department unless she brings her goodie bag. I don't think it will be long until you find some-one to "help you out."

Have fun

Have you tried being on top for a while and just swirling around and trying different movements? That's how I had my first intercourse-al O.

I'd been having sex for a year or so before experiencing an O from regular intercourse. I was just sitting on top of my partner and it started tingling and before I knew it I was spasming and feeling rushes. It took a while to get there though. Lots of patience and no expectations. Since then I've learnt how to get there much quicker.

Best of luck to you hun xox

...that you can't or don't, what you take to bed with you in thought will be exactly what happens.  Don't focus on I will as an alternative either...these are all self-defeating and self-fulling by nature.  Simply relax each time, disregard the past, think about a maybe and experiment as it can or will happen once you let it.  When, who knows...you will, but you have to change your self-talk.  It works that way in almost everything we do unless you have a medical condition that might prevent it.

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Uh-oh...you're not allergic to having an orgasm, are you? 

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Now I'd cover the odds that if you laughed even a little bit...you may be closer than you think.  Everything that occurs in or to your body...is an expression of the mind.

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Good luck on your journey and enjoy the benefits of your youth. 

Have you tried letting your partner just give you a sensual massage with oils, slowly caressing your body with his hands to help ease the tensions away so that your mind can open to the softness and caring of his touches ?

I took a Swedish massage course many years ago and have found it helps ease a lady's nervousness of the first meeting. With you 2 it is not so much the first meeting than the anxiety of the first orgasm experience.

As they say in the classics...Just lay back hunny and let it all happen

ET xox

Pls dont take this the wrong way, but look at your upbringing around sex, maybee you have had some programming put in that makes you feel you shouldnt enjoy, hey your only young...  Youve got plenty of time and your still enjoying.

Somtimes it can be the mental energy of your partner, somtimes your upbringing.  Try to relax and just think about YOU and your feeling.  LOL B, either way, enjoy the practise.

...as it would appear that you can find it then it seems to disappear?

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Looking at your profile, it seems that you are looking for bi-sexual guys and that may lead to further "distractions".  Try this, scratch the bi MMF for a while and maybe keep the focus on you, and simply let your straight partner(s) watch.  We are all very visual creatures that learn from experience...so if you can find these tidy tingly bits yourself, show him.  Experience or a lack thereof...how do I get experience....just dooooooooo it!

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....thanks, for letting me play.

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Glad my bits don't disappear...except when we are both watching and know where they're going.

This is nothing unusual at all. The majority of women will need manual stimulation of the clitorus to have an orgasm and the scientific community is still debating the actual existance of a G-spot anyway.

You can have orgasms so there is no problems there. You are 19. So many years left ahead of you to experience the big "O" so stopp worrying about it. This is probably half of your problems as the more pressure we place on ourselves the worse it can become.

If this is becoming a huge issue in your own mind the I suggest that you try a vibrating cock ring. Introduce it as a game, something new to try and play with.

oh goodie ..

here we go all the blokes will be explaining why they have a massive cock a extra long tongue and can Go for hours ... all hoping you buy there sales Pitch.... Lets just sit back and watch them roll in .

So much great advice above from wonderful people!

Relax.........Drift away from self imposed pressures....Melt your mind and bod into it and enjoy!

Have a good 'un!