Wow... I am one that does NOT want the wham bam etc... I would like a decent man who can fun in many ways - not just the bedroom!  It takes time to develop good sex ;)

I am one that does NOT want the wham bam etc... I would like a decent man who can have fun in many ways - not just the bedroom!  It takes time to develop good sex ;)

bad boys can also be nice, genuine and honest...

Good, bad, does it matter?

i like shallow girls...

What I get from your post is you are seeking shallow women and are pissed the bad boys are getting them.
If the women you seek are attracted to traits of "bad boys", what traits in those women do YOU find attractive?

Depending what age you are basing your judgement on will also have an impact.
Most women want a balance of physical and mental connection. Unfortunately, your profile says very little about you and what "you" are like. Sure, you have filled out all the drop down menus, but the part that YOU have to actually think about, is severely lacking. My point is, how are women supposed to know anything about the personality side of you. Otherwise, they are just basing their impression of you on your physical and sexual stats. Is this what you call shallow?

Tell women about YOU! Be honest, capture their mind... you may then find the rest follows much more easily (and please don't use the profile builder).
Good luck! :)

he was last on over a month ago and no photos, i think he has given up newkee.

As Frantic_lover puts it, I quite Agree. He has given up. But lets not let this subject slide, for i think its also good for future forum readers.

shrugs...  if he's given up, hope it's because he has found someone and doesn't need to be here. (that would be the optimistic side of me coming out)

@Seeker. I agree though, it appeared he didn't put in any effort, based on his profile, which had a sentence or two from what looks like the profile builder and basically said nothing about him and he would come back later.

What made me respond to the OP was more what he was actually all huffy about. It came across, to me, that he was attracted to females - who were in turn - not attracted to him, in fact, attracted to opposites of him.

People can't help who they are attracted to - it is how it is.

I do understand the frustration aspect of seeing someone you (perceive) to be a really decent person, going out with someone who is, not so nice (ie bad reputation, known player blah blah). What's not being considered here is that generally the "nice" person knows about the other's bad rep - and still chooses to be with the other person. Maybe it's a trait with some younger women, the nurturing side, thinking they will be the one that will be different, they will change his bad ways. Or maybe just maybe, they LIKE the bad boys because of the way they act. Who knows.

I do know getting all shitty about not being able to "get a break" with people you fancy isn't go to get you anywhere.

Also found as I got older, the traits that I find attractive in a man, have changed - not completely but the weight of importance given to each of them balance out differently.

Maybe the OP (and anyone else having a moment of similar frustration) should ask themselves "if a really REALLY nice person, with a heart of gold found YOU attractive, but you had zero desire or attraction to them, would you give them a break?"

Failing that, become a total prick yourself and see if the ones you seek suddenly become attracted to - then see if that brings you happiness

You don't need to be a prick to get girls. I've never had issues. But it's not because I am a "total" prick. Saying the right things, doing the right things and being persistant helps. I've had more than my fare share of no's, but that's no big deal to me. Numbers game. :)

@frantic_lover lol I know you don't have to be a prick... that comment was directed at the OP - he was basically attracted to girls that like bad boys... so in effect asking them to change themselves... if all else failed he could become one of 'them' and see if his luck changed. He may find the grass isn't that green on the bad side ;p

At the end of the day, if you don't match up with someone by being yourself, you have to ask yourself how much fun and enjoyment are you really going to get out of it?

Oh it is greener :)

@Newkee

Funny thing... I saw some gorgeous artificial turf today and it reminded me of this post. ;p
Am seriously considering getting some instead of the 'real deal'. I mean, it's super low maintenance, no mowing, no nurturing, it's always green... the same shade although maybe a tad faded over the years, but it's always the same, never changing, never growing, artificial green grass. And! if the dog pees or poops on it, just hose it down.