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Why does it hurt when that special friend find somebody else and you end up...

Feb 01, 2012
freefallings   Woman 42yrs
I want him back ...
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miss_cb   Woman 35yrs

yep!

I hear you!  I lost a special friend recently.  It still hurts to think about him and the great times we had together.

 

How do we fix it????  Other than trying to find another someone special I really have no idea.

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MsVelvetblue  

Woman 47yrs

Im hearing you ladies and Ive so been there... but apparently

Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Still waiting

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neptune_drift   Man 28yrs

If it helps

It happens to the guys too. I guess one of the few consolations is that is has resulted in about 90% of art, music and literature!
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SaffaChris   Man 25yrs

Tough one to answer

Hmm...

This is always a difficult one, but I suppose the best thing for you, although you may not see it or want to do it, but moving on is best, for you own sake.

I have recently been down this road and it sucked till I decided one day to just do things for me.

You'll get through it I'm sure.
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Krissy_G   Woman 43yrs

@SLK

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xFunlovingx  

Woman 51yrs

That depends...

Were you friends with benefits? Just fuck buddies? Or did you have something deeper between you TWO? Not just you...but BOTH of you? Did you discuss with him where your feelings were or are you one of about 95% of people (both male and female) that play mind games? Noone is a mind reader...If you like someone you have to tell them...If you are scared of rejection...Well, at least it is best to be rejected early on in the piece than later on down the track when the feelings are deeper.  If you knew it was a fuck buddy situation and nothing more, then you should have left him before the feelings got too deep! Life is too short to be pining for someone (unless of course they pass away as my partner did)...but even then you have to pick up and keep living! No use wishing for him to come back..he has left you for someone else for whatever reason...pick yourself up...look fabulous...look in the mirror and smile and like yourself...and go out and find that wonderful guy who will want YOU and want to be with YOU!

xFunlovingx

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perthrrg   Man 53yrs

She's gone

I had a fabulous FWB and she was a great fried too. Didn't realise what I had til she was gone. Life goes on and you have to enjoy what comes your way and grab it with both hands and live it to the full :)
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goodgrlzsayplz

Chilli

Run! Run the second you feel there might be emotion involved!!! Run while you can!  Works for me
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Stalky

Ouch! Who's got time for more complicated relationships!

Lolz@goodie. The trick is not to ask for their contact details. Tag and release em back into the wild bebe! Hugs Stalky
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goodgrlzsayplz

UF

Oooh I'm such a tag and release gal UF!!! Gooooo be freeeeeee young buck!!!! hehehehe

Such a friend of nature am I

 

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ChasingMidnight

Why is it hard...

...for me to believe that, although it must be true because I read it on the internet?

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Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz'

Oooh I'm such a tag and release gal !!!  Gooooo be freeeeeee young buck!!!! hehehehe

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I thought you might just mount them...and leave them hanging on the wall.

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Love the Condor wings.  Did it taste good too? 

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xFunlovingx  

Woman 51yrs

I totally agree

Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz'
Run! Run the second you feel there might be emotion involved!!! Run while you can!  Works for me

You are only hurting yourself by sticking around once you can feel the emotion coming through!


xFunlovingx

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wowwow11   Man 39yrs

Keep on Banging

get a new mate... Easily done
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freefallings   Woman 42yrs

FF

It isnt emotional attachment but physical.

The lack of respect , honesty and the betrayal of my trust .

We put ourself out there , we pay the price i guess.

Why cant people be honest , the most casual encounter needs trust and respect...

 

The words"  i found some one i really like" made me feel worthless..

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Stalky

Freefallings

"I found someone I really like" sound like the words of one friend to another. You're so turning this around to the negative when the positive is, that he quite obviously sees you as a friend (with benefits). Hugs Stalky
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goodgrlzsayplz

FF

Naw, honey did you want more than there was?

Or did you hope you were more special to him than it sounded when he said that he found someone he really likes?

I'm sorry your feelings are really hurt It does sound like the addiction was not just physical. Your little heart sounds like it got involved.

 

xx GG

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freefallings   Woman 42yrs

love dies lust lives for eva

more pride then heart , its the lies i cant handle ..
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Stalky

It's complicated

I think it's fair enough to feel hurt. You're potentially going to miss out on something you have been enjoying... aka a reliable shag. The thing about fuckbuddies is that a regular fb leads to expectations. If there was no sex involved in your friendship then ask yourself if you would be as upset? Your expectations build an emotional connection. It's unavoidably human of you to be that way. Still, you should at least try and see it from his perspective. He's telling you how happy he is, finding a lover with long term prospects.... Potentially the love of his life! You should be happy for him! ( unless your expectations were that he fall in love with you). Hugs Stalky
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goodgrlzsayplz

:(

The hurt pride smarts don't it? Yeouchie!!!!!
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wetforyou51   Woman 51yrs

That is the nature of the beast

Men are completely different from women they can have sexual relations with just about any female, as long as she is alive and has a fanny.

 

They then meet the one, you see we are not the one we are one of the many, that is the difference between men and women. Sure we have come a long way and we now have sex because we enjoy it, however, sadly our emotions and feelings always come into the equation even when we dont want them too. Its just the way we are, I am still learning all this stuff. I have been single for 1 year (yah) and love my life, I am still sampling whats out there and enjoying most of my encounters both the good and the bad.

 

I still havent found a Friend with Benefits, which is all I really want, I dont want a relationship just someone to have great sex with a couple of times a week.

 

Hopefully, I will eventually find them.

 

Keep your chin up and move on to your next experience, life is all about living and enjoying dont sweat the small stuff its not worth it.

 

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