What to expect from guys when playing?

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Jan 08, 2012
kissysuzuki   Woman 30yrs
Hi girls. I am pretty new to this as hubby and I just agreed to an open relationship. My hubby is the first guy I have ever been with and so far I have met a couple of guys on RHP.

My question is should we expect guys to give oral to us or do we have to ask? I love giving BJs and I expected the same but apart from 2 licks that was it. Is this the norm or am I asking for too much? I am quite shy and like the men to be in control. Maybe that's why they think I don't ask for much. Will it be too pushy if I tell them what to do the first time we play?

Would love some thoughts from other girls..I am technically like a virgin when it comes to sex. 

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dragonfly11   Woman 54yrs

Dont be shy

Try to discuss what turns you on and ask them the same thing. I wont go down on a man unless he goes down on me first.  If they dont give oral sex then I dont feel obliged to reciprocate not all men like it, the same as not all women do either, although Ive yet to meet one.  Most men I have met are more than happy to pleasure the lady first. I hope that helps.
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Paradisepair   Couple Man 40yrs Woman 40yrs

You deserve an equal match

I can't talk from RHP experience, but out in the real world of sexual expectations it's my belief that favors should be returned. If you feel funny about asking in person at the time maybe you should lay it out in a message beforehand.
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xFunlovingx  

Woman 50yrs

I agree

With both of the ladies above! There is no way in hell that I will suck on a guy's cock unless he gives me GREAT oral first! No use doing the 69er either (which I love)...as the guys always stop licking you and just concentrate on what I am doing! Unfortunately I think that the internet has killed good sex for women...too much porn and the guys can't tell the difference between a girl that gets paid to "oohh and ahhh" as she sucks his cock for half an hour to the guy just giving her 2 licks!

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State clearly to them what you do want before agreeing to meet up with them, but watch the ones that will say anything just to get in your pants! Not ALL the men on here are like that...but there are a few! And if they do nothing for you...just get up and leave....it is really hard to do at first...but...you do get used to it!

xFunlovingx

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Handmaiden   Woman 49yrs

Welcome to the world of inetrnet dating

It is a sad fact that most men will only give the woman a perfunctory few licks....just enough to say he did it. Now all the guys will rush in here and tell you they go down on you for hours and love it. I have not been on RHP for long but have been on other istes for a while now and notice quite a few similar faces and profiles. I think I am fairly safe in assuming that the men on RHP are no different from any others...hell they are they same men. lol. Just different sites.

I understand though, these men are not going to form a lasting relationship with you...you are married. They may or may not want to play with you again. Looking at it from thier point of view...why should they go to all that bother for someone who is basically a random fuck? They only want to get thier rocks off after all.

From a womans point of veiw it can be extremely frustrating and can ruin a good time. I am with the others. Just dont go to all the trouble of giving him a great BJ unless he has given you satisfactory oral first.

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jacknjill0069   Couple Man 43yrs Woman 42yrs

Well

Coming from the male here.....

 

I am more than happy to spend time down on a lady without expectation of a return.

For me it is an emense pleasure to both hear and feel a woman in heaven while my head is between her legs...it is such a turn on.

Sorry but there is nothing better than the taste of pussy and quite happy to be down there as long as it takes, and if there is some reciprication then OMG that is.....pleasure

 

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mikeandshel  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 50yrs

umm?

what to 'expect'?? what to 'demand' you mean! do it right and take charge, its you, as a female, who should always drive this....only accept what you want, nothing less. set the rules, the mood and the tempo, because, as a female, you'll certainly be able to pick and choose, and should only ever pick or choose what it is that suits and satisfies you. second best should never be good enough.
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1moretime  

Man 50yrs

Sometimes

Im nearly always the one to go down first unless she takes the initiative and beats me to it. Which is very nice I must admit.

Also depends on where we are.  If we're on a bed'  I'm usually the one who works my way from her lips down to her pussy being carefull not to send her off too quick..

If it's outdoors, it's not always easy access for a guy to go down on her as it is for her to go down on me.  Not all cases' but sometimes.  We only have a zipper to contend with.  I think most girls are aware of this and so they accept it as part and parcel of the situation..
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cnsfelswat   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 35yrs

Mmmmmmmmmmmm

Well im really sorry to hear that ladies,,,, you have been with the wrong guys then. For me it's a race to get my head between a ladies thighs, and then she has to beg and plead for me to STOP.
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HotSexyChilli   Woman 36yrs

Chasing_publicOral

Quoting 'juiceybar'
If it's outdoors, it's not always easy access for a guy to go down on her as it is for her to go down on me.  Not all cases' but sometimes.  We only have a zipper to contend with.
   
That's why wearing no panties under a loose/full skirt can be so much fun...

Chilli xx
skirt material can conceal so much - depending on your level of exhibitionism
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yum

i absolutley love going down on girls, you'll never have to ask me to return the favour to you!!!
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I have the same advice a few others have

Sorry to hear you ahven't had the best experience with guys giving you oral, that's a tragedy.  I would only offer you the same advice a few of the others have.  Discuss it all first and don't accept anything less than what you want.

 

There may be quite a few guys in the two lick camp on this site, but there would have to be a few more like me who genuinely love it.

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Handmaiden   Woman 49yrs

Mikeandshel

Demand?

I dont think anyone should be demanding anything (unless it is a bdsm situation and that is a whole different ball game)

Surely when two people come together for a mutually satisfying time that is how it should be?

MUTUAL!

Certainly not demanding but equal...discusion please....there is another topic going, I believe about manners.

Just because there are more women here than men it does not mean that the women need to get an overinflated idea of themselves.

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justjuice   Couple Man 53yrs Woman 47yrs

Chasing _Studette

Ohhh Yeahhh...      Love the access no pantie's under a loose skirt brings.    Great play area for wandering hands , and much easier to find the right position for a bit of oral pleasure..  mmmmm
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sweetandsexy69   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 46yrs

no ask

no tell them as yous are all there for fun
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sweetandsexy69   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 46yrs

i agree

yes i so agree us ladies need to be please as well so dont let them get away with you sucking their cock unless they return the favor
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mikeandshel  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 50yrs

lol handmaiden

no.......women have every right to demand what they wish from men, in regards to sex........... men make demands on women from the time they are old enough to understand what their cock is all about..but women dont do the same at all. .. seems to me that we all pussy foot around this shit, and try to be so bloody politically correct..........sex is a power play... men believe that they hold all the cards.... but its women who always hold the joker.............but few play it.... all i mean is that here...on sites like this, women should never settle for 'second bes't...or 'good enough'...........you have what we want, so make us work for it......dont give it away, dont compromise...demand the best deal you can and demand the best attention you can.......and dont ever ever sell yourselves short....not for any man.    Mike.....

 

if you make it easy... a man will walk away from an encounter, and barely, if at all, remember your name the next day.....if you make him work for it, and expend a bit of energy and effort...he will remember everything....... dont be forgettable... be memorable.......demand 100% every time.

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Handmaiden   Woman 49yrs

Sorry Mike I dissagree

I will never set myself up as to be such a high maintenance princess that I "demand" satisfaction.

We meet as equals or not at all.

I have known since I was in my teens that it is always a woman who holds the balance of power in any sexual encounter. I manage to get exactly what I want without any demands......

and I am never ever forgotten.

 

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goodgrlzsayplz

Research, Research, Research

All i can say to you sweetie is check them out VERY thoroughly before you agree to meet. Listen to their language, the words they use. You can tell if they are reliable, what kind of lover they are, how bright they are, wether they are needy or manipulative,wether they are prone to telling fibs or not, their character and moral code. Be fussy...the problem only comes when you haven't been fussy enough and then you have a story of regret to tell. Everyone is entitled (men and women) to be fussy, become a card carrying member of The Fussy Hussies Club

Once you find a lovely play friend who is what you want and need, a good guy, who's sweet, naughty, witty, clever and  a fabulous shag..........or whatever else floats your boat..........Bon Appétit

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Meeka100   Woman 41yrs

The sex game

Do men really believe that they hold all the cards? That is quite interesting actually... what exactly do you mean Mike?

xx
Meeka
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Polar_Bear_Grrr   Woman 37yrs

Take it

Guys want you to tell them what to do in the sack. Especially on a first meet where they have no opportunity nor experience with you to know what gets you off.  I have to completely disagree with handmaiden on this one.

Tell 'em.  "Now put your mouth on my cunt. Run your tongue over my clit, yes, just like that, keep doing that, put a finger inside me... No, don't stop with the tongue... more the the left... put another finger in... push up towards the ceiling with your fingers... harder with the tongue... yes yes yes!"

Tell 'em.  They're not mind readers.  I think really, due to some weird arse freak out about their bits a lot of women don't actually like having someone go down on them.  Probably some misguided belief about it being dirty or taboo and this means a lot of men won't take that initiative without actually being asked.

Now, taboo is saying, in the above scenario  "now shove your tongue on my arsehole". 

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