If you honestly think any of what you describe is not cheating OP.Of course there is the Bill Clinton defence re bjs and Monica....it wasn't really sex so it didn't really count.
Why not talk to your fiance about your proclivities before you marry,if you don't and she finds out ,then you are both heading for a whole lot of pain I imagine.x Hugs H
Ask your fiance........if any of what you have written is "crossing the line" in her eyes..then its cheating...and after all, its her eyes that matter......rite ??
And also turn the tables and ask yourself would you consider it cheating by your girl on you , if your fiance was having naughty sex chats with guys online, shared raunchy pics of herself and was webcamming - and then every so often she hooked up with a guy to receive ONLY oral sex from him and NOTHING else went down (as if) , that inNO WAY would she reciprocate the act (Good luck finding a guy open to that happening.......NOT)
What should you do ????, you already know the answer but it would appear that you doing what you want to do anyway....the best person to give you advice on this issue is your fiance who "you love like crazy"...the real question is do you ??
VB...I have actually met a few guys in my lifetime that have given me oral ONLY and never wanted anything back! It was great...I had on the lingerie and they kept all their clothes on and stayed zipped up! You should find a guy like that out there....there are heaps of them that LOVE it!!
Here's the deal I make for you Dazza:
I work in NSW.. you live in NSW..
I catch up with your fiance and give her a couple of mind blowing orgasms with my mouth eh?
you send me her phone number, and I go to work seducing her.
You lay there,while you are getting your head.. thinking of me down between your girls thighs..
Licking, sucking, kissing, nibbling.. fingering..
Then, you be at work one day.. thinking about me doing her all over again.. on your bed.. while you work..
Nah mate: that isnt cheating at all...
Lets do it eh? shit man.. I will take the deal up.. wife-unseen
I am not judging you Dazza:
I am ALL FOR equality... that girl who wants to blow you?? when she Fcks you??
I will be driving cock into your fiance...
Cool eh.. I LOVE non cheating couples :)
anything that makes you ponder "Is this Cheating?" - is DEFINTITELY cheating.
I once read somewhere, if you dont get caught its not cheating.
If you get caught, thats cheating.
Thats what I read, anyway. What do I know about these things. I'm just a horny toad.
Yeah look there probably is but I still think its rare (although Id love to find a tongue that I could slip and slide all over during my lunch break and give my knees a break !!! ) but I still think most blokes would like some sort of reciprocation (what do you think boys ??) but have to say so far, in answer to the OP's question...I think Cavey summed it up better than we all did !!!!