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What is or isn't cheating ???

Jul 14, 2012
fun4dazza   Man 34yrs
I am engaged and love my fiancé like crazy but I also love to have naughty sexy chats with chicks online and share raunchy pictures and a bit of cam fun with them without my fiancé knowing about it and I was wondering what peoples thoughts were on this as far as it being classed as cheating ???? Also would I be crossing the line of cheating if the occasion arose that I was in the position of being offered pleasuring in the form of receiving a blowjob......this has not happened as yet but a chick I chat with a lot has offered and keeps bringing it up that she really wants to do it, and I am a real lover of receiving oral so am finding it hard to resist....it would be a case of only me being pleasured cause I have made it clear that IF this was to happen I would not be going any further and she is more than happy with that cause she gets extremely aroused by playing on cam and by satisfying a guy orally before taking care of herself in front of a number of guys on cam with her large range of toys. What should I do....what's our thoughts ???
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Hesione

I doubt

If you honestly think any of what you describe is not cheating OP.Of course there is the Bill Clinton defence re bjs and Monica....it wasn't really sex so it didn't  really count.

Why not talk to your fiance about your proclivities before you marry,if you don't and she finds out ,then you are both heading for a whole lot of pain I imagine.x Hugs H

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ApolloThirteen   Woman 42yrs

What should you do??

Not get married.  You don't have the maturity to make a decision like marriage. As long as you don't mind if your Mrs gives some random guy a blowjob then no you're not cheating. I think you're trolling.  No-one, but no-one is this stupid.
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ToyWithMe   Man 40yrs

Cheating test

There's a very simple test to tell if something is cheating or not.

Ask yourself: Do I need to hide this from my partner?

If the answer is yes, then it is cheating.
Is it cheating if you have cam sex or get a blowjob from somebody else, and keep it a secret from your fiance?  Hell yes!!
Think for a moment how your fiance would react if she found out.  Would she scream and cry?  Would she leave you?  Is that really worth the risk?

Why don't you instead try talking to your fiance and see if she wants to be involved.  Maybe not right away, but over time she might come around to the idea of the two of you going on cam together, or even swinging with others.
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Paradisepair   Couple Man 40yrs Woman 40yrs

Go google

Dan Savage. What you've described is cheating. How you chose to proceed at this crossroads will define who you are. If you truly love your fiancé your number one concern should be her not your dick. Only true honesty and trust will result in having cake and eating it with no-one getting hurt.
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MsVelvetblue

To get a real honest opinion on this matter

Ask your fiance........if any of what you have written is "crossing the line" in her eyes..then its cheating...and after all, its her eyes that matter......rite ??

 

And also turn the tables and ask yourself  would you consider it cheating by your girl on you ,  if your fiance was having naughty sex chats with guys online, shared raunchy pics of herself and was webcamming -  and then every so often she hooked up with a guy to receive ONLY oral sex from him and NOTHING else went down (as if) , that inNO WAY would she reciprocate the act (Good luck finding a guy open to that happening.......NOT)

 

What should you do ????, you already know the answer but it would appear that you doing what you want to do anyway....the best person to give you advice on this issue  is your fiance who "you love like crazy"...the real question is do you ??

 

 

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DeliciousCplBris   Couple Man 46yrs Woman 42yrs

deception

cheating is deception, having your cake and eating it too will eventually ruin what you have a at home. Yes all of the above is cheating .
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xFunlovingx   Woman 52yrs

Awwwww....

Quoting 'MsVelvetblue'

Ask your fiance........if any of what you have written is "crossing the line" in her eyes..then its cheating...and after all, its her eyes that matter......rite ??

 

And also turn the tables and ask yourself  would you consider it cheating by your girl on you ,  if your fiance was having naughty sex chats with guys online, shared raunchy pics of herself and was webcamming -  and then every so often she hooked up with a guy to receive ONLY oral sex from him and NOTHING else went down (as if) , that inNO WAY would she reciprocate the act (Good luck finding a guy open to that happening.......NOT)

 

What should you do ????, you already know the answer but it would appear that you doing what you want to do anyway....the best person to give you advice on this issue  is your fiance who "you love like crazy"...the real question is do you ??

 

VB...I have actually met a few guys in my lifetime that have given me oral ONLY and never wanted anything back! It was great...I had on the lingerie and they kept all their clothes on and stayed zipped up! You should find a guy like that out there....there are heaps of them that LOVE it!!

Hugs...xFunlovingx


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Completely over the line ...

I agree with Del - it is deception and therefore cheating.  No grey area here, if you're hiding it then there's a reason. MsVelvet also makes a very good point - how would you feel?
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TongueCramps   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 34yrs

Yes, cheating.

If your partner doesn't know, then yes its cheating. Can anyone really argue that copping a blowjob via an internet hookup while your fiance is in the dark about it does not constitute a complete betrayal?
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cavey50   Man 53yrs

I make you a deal Dazza

Here's the deal I make for you Dazza:

 

I work in NSW.. you live in NSW..

I catch up with your fiance and give her a couple of mind blowing orgasms with my mouth eh?

you send me her phone number, and I go to work seducing her.

 

You lay there,while you are getting your head.. thinking of me down between your girls thighs..

Licking, sucking, kissing, nibbling.. fingering..

Then, you be at work one day.. thinking about me doing her all over again.. on your bed.. while you work..

Nah mate: that isnt cheating at all...

Lets do it eh?  shit man.. I will take the deal up.. wife-unseen

 

I am not judging you Dazza:

I am ALL FOR equality...  that girl who wants to blow you?? when she Fcks you??

I will be driving cock into your fiance...

 

Cool eh.. I LOVE non cheating couples :)

caveman

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sassyme  

Woman 50yrs

I agree with the others...

I haven't responded to the forums for a while but this one has me wading in.  Your response to cagey will be interesting - I'm curious to see how you react to the thought of her doing the same as you and if you would think she is cheating. Your profile makes me wonder if you are not as 'in love' as you are trying to convince us you are!  It appears that you are saying I'm single and if someone good comes along I won't be single anymore ....  Well I don't feel that engaged to be married is single, but perhaps you wish you were. I think you might need to step back and reassess where you are in your relationship.  married life is tough enough without embarking into it with a serious dishonesty and desire for a 'secret life' between you. The cheating that's your choice....l. My advice for watts worth ... Be honest with yourself first ! Sassyme xx
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Jean_Girard   Man 37yrs

Generally speaking.....

anything that makes you ponder "Is this Cheating?" - is DEFINTITELY cheating.

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ApolloThirteen   Woman 42yrs

Bah-ha-ha!

Gold Cavey... Pure gold!!!
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SoulStirring

huh

I once read somewhere, if you dont get caught its not cheating.

If you get caught, thats cheating.

Thats what I read, anyway.  What do I know about these things.  I'm just a horny toad.

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MsVelvetblue

Quoting xFunlovingx

VB...I have actually met a few guys in my lifetime that have given me oral ONLY and never wanted anything back! It was great...I had on the lingerie and they kept all their clothes on and stayed zipped up! You should find a guy like that out there....there are heaps of them that LOVE it!!

Hugs...xFunlovingx

Yeah look there probably is but I still think its rare  (although  Id love to find  a tongue that  I could slip and slide all over during my lunch break and give my knees a break  !!! ) but  I still  think most blokes would like some sort of  reciprocation  (what do you think boys ??) but have to say so far, in answer to the OP's question...I think Cavey summed it up better than we all  did !!!!

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classywicked   Couple Man 41yrs Woman 40yrs

yes it is

I didnt read past "without my fiance knowing" . Thats already "cheating"
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imported   Man 29yrs

you got your answer

I think everyone  resonates that your are cheating... Might not be what you want to hear... but it is the truth
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darkside_71   Woman 41yrs

Cheating or not cheating, that is the question.....

A couple of years ago I found out my husband of then 10 years had been cheating on me for about 6 out of the 10 years. It was not the fact that he had been having sex with other people that hurt, but the fact that he had been hiding it and lying for so long. We are still married, have a very open relationship, and all is much better.
Is it cheating? Such a subjective area....
Is it lying and deceiving by not telling her about it? Most definitely.
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Hellenheels  

Woman 40yrs

Just the fact that you had to ask...

makes me think that you know the answer already.
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johnandannie  

Couple Man 45yrs Woman 45yrs

bad boy

you already have cheated by what you are doing, so two options keep doing your thing and living in fantasy land and spoil this relationship or bring her in on it, who knows it may be just the thing to put that spark back in your relationship, have you asked her if she wants to play? its lots more fun when you play together I don't even think about being with another girl without my partner

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