Ok, I am totally confused atm... I met a guy through here before xmas we last near 2months and I ended it due to things he was doing wrong by myself. We didn't speak for nearly 2months and then we all of a sudden got back intouch again, I forgave him for the burt he caused the 1st time. \
Anyhow we just txt each other for about 3wks I think and then he asked for me and my twin girls to go visit him, I made it clear I just wanted to be friends, even though I thought of him all the time while we were apart. And he said he did with me too.
We met up again 6th April this year and as it happened one thing lead to another and it was such a sensual night, the first 2months we were like friends with benefits goin out having fun swinging for fullfillment of each others fantasies. Then past 3months we became closer and close and saw each other most nights of the week he is an hour and half drive away from my place. I ve been up in the air with everything are we a couple, are we friends with benefits??? WHAT?
the past month he has said we are partners and he told a couple of people that we were. I gave him my all as he seperated from his ex of 10yrs end last year and I seperated from my ex early last year. We both have 2 girls each around the same age.
He had a couple of deep and meaningfulls with me how much I meant to him, how happy he was I gave him a 2nd chance, how sorry he was he hurt me 1st time and he swore he would never do it again. I did a lot for him in so many ways with it him more take take take and nothing in return. We have both said we have very strong feelings for each other. And we both have said the whole time the sex is the best everytime we do it.
The past week and half he kinda changed, like pushing me away. has gone interstate for 3 wks for work - And all last week telling me to give him a few wks to himself and when he gets back we will chat and see what happens. I find out Monday that he re-activated his account through here and has been asking chicks and couples for meets while he is away - I know he hasn't had any positive reponse. But in my mind doubtful.
As fri before last he was all luvy duvy and saying do I want a ring to prove how much I mean to him etc. And I said no just respect and appreciation as I am still healing from my ex with all the awful things he did to me and our girls and I still have very low trust issues.
I am wanting to continue with him and my gut tells me he does too, but I am at a loss how his feelings just change over night and wanting the few wks to think and see what he wants - We both don't want committment we just love each others company the fun we have everything we do we enjoy.
He has been intouch once in the 2 days he has been interstate I have been intouch a few times just as a friend. I just hope we can work it out when he gets back but if he does meet up with anyone while he is there as he is male... I doubt I would want to be with him. I booked flights to go see him in 2 weeks as he asked me too but before he left he said he will be working too much to be able to do anything which was a hint 'Dont bother coming' and then I find out he is back on here trying to meet others.... WHY!!! Why would he say all these things to me past 5months and then WHAM he needs a break... And I am still wanting to go see him in 2 weeks but then I am not sure if he wants me too????
His girls live overseas with his ex and he wont be getting an aust day fathers gift or anything and I have orgered him the nicest thing fir dads day from his girls so he can feel atleast something on fathers day. I have always done these things for HIM he says he appreciates me for it but doesnt show it...
I AM SO CONFUSED AS MY HEART HAS GOT INVOLVED, and I know he still hurts from the ex leaving and still loves her and sure enough he will.... But why wont he allow me into his heart let me make him happy? as he has always said i make him happy and I am a sweet person with my kind heart and thoughtfullness.... PLEASE EXPLAIN... I told him if he were going to have fin there I will here, but I won't as I am not interested in anyone else bit Him, he does make me happy yet when he drinks as he does ea day he can get very agro and aggressive as he did with his ex and I was told he cheated on her too.
Thank You for Listening... I want it to work as we both know it has been a wonderful 5months and why end it... I tried to end it about 6 times as I didn't want my heart involved yet he insisted not to he didnt want it too. Now the tables have turned and he is being very stubborn and making excuses and I am not getting WHY he would want to end something that has been So So GOD!!!
Em xx
I am moving forward from my past each day, my nan was my best friend and it crushed me when she passed she was the eldest of 9 children and had 9 children of her own as you could imagine she had alot of grandchildren and I was the one who was always the closest to her, it is like a child loosing a parent they are very close to, so imagine from my side how it felt within me to lose my mentor my best friend and that is why there are days I miss her and had here to talk with but it is life, she will always be in my thoughts and as time goes on it gets easier.
who I see atm is doing me wonders. especially with coping skills as a single mum of twins where all my family and their dad's family all live in Tassie. I have never been happier, just a lil sadened with the situation of late but not the end of the world.... And I have seen a psycholigist a couple of years ago and he told me the exact same thing as to who I see now and she is free to see.
They are all professionals and have great knowledge with who they deal with on a daily basis - I had always wanted to be a child psycholigist as many things in childrens lives affect them deeply - Especially when their parents break up, it is very confusing as I deal with my girls each day and help them through and getting them to understand we both love them their our world, it is a matter of daddy and Mummy not working out and making sure my girls realise it is not their fault as many children blame themselves for their parents breaking up!!!
All I have had to do is forgive myself and not blame myself for the bad in my life.... we all have some kinda bad things go on - No one is PERFECT.... And start believing in myself which it is getting stronger each day moving forward, I am a GOOD PERSON in many ways and I know this and so do people who know me personally!!! And so does the guy I have been talking about.
Just cause my past was mostly shit, doesn't mean I bring it into my future, I have learned from it all and why try and avoid similar situations, but sometimes you JUST DON'T KNOW!!! I love advising people of similar issues, and why i love hearing advice from others. That is why I am doing all I can to be a good mum teach my girls right and help them avoid similar situations I have been in.... And I am doing a wonderful job with it and proud of myself for who I am. It just gets disappointing when your let down or have expectations - And I am not wanting marriage as I was engaged to my ex, but marriage... I realise it is just a piece of paper, and my girls are my life why I breathe each day wake up each morning and that is far more important than marriage, 2 people can love each other know they are meant to be and they don't need the paper to prove it. 3 out of 4 marriages end in divorce and all the process married people go through when getting divorced is no different to a defacto couple of 9yrs with twin girls, the process is exactly the same.
It can't be helped that the 2 of us met and we clicked and ended up more serious and involved than expected.
There has been many success stories through this site with peeps meeting and ending up happy ever after together, and I think that is just beautiful if it happens.
Yes this site is majority hook up for a night then see you later but alot of the time people connect and end up together, their are attached people on here who want to be descrete which is something I do not believe in but hey each to their own and i won't judge them as it is their life, their choice.
I am a person who likes to explain a full story rather than half so you get the full picture.... As per my 1st post with my forum a few were confused that is why I gave more detail to understand what I was meaning..... And why I feel confused.
Thanks, Keep Smiling E xx
At the beginning me thinks....ok so RHP is a sex site eh? Well blow this Jordan! (lol)
Personally speaking, I've met some awesome ppl here & have not swapped body
fluids with any of them. There goes that theory....
We all know females are emotional? Ah yes, that lovely little throw away line. Man,
I wish it would stay buried. Gimme an emotional plea as provided by our post'er over
one penned by a misogynist any day.
And no, it's not 'that time of the month'...
Hey Darl
just wonderin how your going. Also I used to live in Longford when I was 17 and 18 with my Aunt and Uncle - How long have you lived their? My Uncle owned the little hmmm supermarket shop, he sold it a few years back he bought the shop off my other uncle.... You might know them and so many others I am friends with from Longford.
If I had a membership I would email you, so sorry to those of you NOT INTERESTED!!!!
Mwah Mwah Big *HUGS* for you - I miss Tassie, haven't been home for 18months plan too soon hopefully!!! xxxxx
Um ok I dont know you and this is definately in the category of what you need to hear, not what you want to hear...
I havn't even read all you had to say....with respect it gve Me a massive headache...but
I DO know that LOVE is not this hard....even friendship should not be this hard...
If it's not happening simply and easily with this guy (and its NOT) then there is no future in the relationship.
When you DO fall in love it will be the easiest thing in the world...it will flow, you will not need to make excuses for each other in the hope that everything will be ok... LOVE just is...it just happens and it's beautiful.
This guy is NOT for you....otherwise you wouldn't be writing all this. That is simply DOG logic.
Cut your losses, keep him as a friend if you want but look elsewhere for someone to spend your time with sister. He will let you down, come back again and let you down all over again....
In the main guys want to have their cake and eat it too...particularly the guy on here....fuck, I AM one ! I know.
Guys are just guys. We think with our dicks and anyone who says differently is FOS.
That is not to say that there arent guys who live and love and are loyal and honest. Fuck I AM one ! I know. (lol)
But, if this guy is giving you so much grief at this stage... stop, sit back and look at the future...leopards don't change their spots...he simply isn;t the one....you will know when the one comes along because you will quietly shut down your profile, snuggle up in bed with him and live happily ever after. THATS how you will know.
Best wishes.
BadBadDogism.