Validations - do you really want them?

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Validations - do you really want them?

Oct 08, 2011
kb600   Woman 46yrs
Sex is fun. This site is all about consensual fun. but here is the question.... do I want a guy putting a validation against my profile that says I was AMAZING in the sack?  Does it change the way other guys view my profile AFTER some other guy has put a validation up there?  And how does it change your perception of the person, for the better or worse?... personally I know you guys have been there and done her. But I personally would prefer NOTto know about it or her...
I certainly done see validations up there ('notches on my (non-existant) bed post) as a positive unless I am selling what I gave.  How do you  feel about them?  Are they a positive or negative when you view a profile?'
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GonzosDilemma   Man 36yrs

Not so much...

I'd like it better if peoples' profiles spoke for themselves but often someone that looks like they might be nice has a really brief or generic profile and then a validation can show they're not just here to browse. 


To get to the point of one of your questions though, a validation comment from someone else is only going to change my opinion if there wasn't that much to go on in the profile to start with. 

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goodgrlzsayplz

Thumbs up from me

I actually think they are, or rather; can be very useful.

I like to see what the people thought of this person. They are no use at all to me if they are the generic ones but

if someone took the time  to write one of their own then i'm interested.

Also, it shows you the sort of people that person sleeps with. How high or low are their standards?

Granted, one persons fabulous shag is another person yawn but validations have served me when when considering a potential play friend. I get the rest of the information from friends who know this person and the persons profile. If they make it past that point then we're well on the way to playtime.

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Nudierudie2  

Woman 41yrs

Everyone see's things differently

A Validation on my profile means that i have met that  person and that they are real and genuine , not that i have had sex with them, the same go's for my friends list, this is how i view other peoples validations unless the validation indicates otherwise.
If anyone were to think otherwise they are not my kind of people.
What people say and do in the chat room can certainly, and has changed my perception of them no matter what they have written in their profile.


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fionabee

Usually just marking territory

To me that is anyway. I have had a validation in the past but it was certainly not sexual in nature. Neither would I give a sexual one anyway. Many do and the thing with validations is that you have to agree to have it posted on your profile. No one is going to agree to a validation that says....

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"finaly managed to meet with MrWellHung after he cancelled five times. Once completely standing me up without even calling or texting and I had driven 450 ks just for the meet. Well ladies what can I say? He is not so well hung and terrible in the sack. Not worth the time chatting to him. Dont go there!"

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Now that would look good.....not! So only good validations are shown. It is a little like a dog pissing against a tree though.

"Look everyone...I was there before you"

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Angel_dreams

Validations.....

They help to prove the person is real and will meet and not stand you up.

I personally like to read them as they help me decide if that profile is worth persuing especially if their profile says nothing much about them. They dont have to be of a sexual nature or how good a shag that person was....just nice and genuine wins hands down every time.

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contemplating1   Man 52yrs

Just...

I think a validation is good where it shows that there is a genuine person out there, who (within reason) meets the profile they put out.

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mikeandshel  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

validations?

for some we guess, they may serve a purpose, and may assist in someone reaching a decision one way or the other.......but for us? we dont see them as useful for ourselves, any more than we see  the 'friends list' as  handy l......
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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

Private

It confirms the person is real which is assuring here. If you think a prospective partner will judge you on a past partner/interlude you had, then maybe you'd like to consider just how prospective that partner may be? Given their attitude/judgement they deem necessary to dump on you about your past.
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wowwow11   Man 39yrs

WHAT FOR

could not care less
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jensta   Woman 48yrs

Its good to have ONE I have one on my profile

Shows that there is a real sexy fun Woman attached to my

Red Hot Pie Profile

As for having More there is no need

I gotta Admit if im reading a profile that I like & say hes got lots of

validations I say no thanx NEXT

so Validations can also having a Negative effect

No one wants Some one thats Screwed lots of the rhp crew

not only that at times I have read validations

& as a forum Regular we know lots of profiles from here

so lol its like oh yeah  "he's been with her" 

sometimes I think its better not knowing

We dont need to make it Public Knowledge

everyone we sex it up with ............. xxx


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missopenminded   Woman 23yrs

validations

Personally I would get grossed out if I came across someones profile with lots of validations stating that they were "GREAT IN BED" bcoz that indicates they obviously get around alot and then you start to think if they could potentially have an STD so it's a NO FROM ME
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xoxoxoxoxox

validations

they all seem a wee bit needy one genuine one just to let you know that its a real person any more and it all seems like bragging considering you allow them on your profile
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deepinsider1   Man 36yrs

hhhmmmmm

.... kb600 ........ validations just means there real i recon .... helps weed out the dreamers...  anyway u can catch up with me anytime ... i wont expect a validation .... lol ......
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Meeka100   Woman 41yrs

Wolf whistles @ missopenminded

Missopenminded you sure are pretty & utterly HAWT. But I digress, I dont mind validations if they are about how fun or nice the person is etc. Just because you meet people from RHP and even hit it off doesn't necessarily mean you did the business :p.  I wouldn't like an explicit sexual validation. I think it's tacky & everyone is different anyway. What might float your boat isn't necessarily gonna float mine.


Xx Meeka
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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

Bring it

Following this topic I can see some of us 'Bring a lot to the table'. All valid points of view nevertheless if you desire all that meaning....
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adultfun22   Man 25yrs

From a single guy's perspective...

I think my validations have helped confirm that I'm genuine for certain couples and singles, which is certainly a positive thing when trying to stand out from the inordinate number of single guys on here. I'd be inclined to think that a profile with at least one validation would mean that they've followed through on their word at some stage... which certainly doesn't hurt when looking for new people to chat with, play with, get to know etc.

Having multiple validations doesn't worry me either. Some of us are more interested in playtime with a range of people, some are just after a regular one. It all comes down to what floats your boat and if someone has many validations, I'd look at it as a positive. At least you know they're likely to follow through with what they say. If you hit it off, the likelihood of things moving forward in a positive manner are all the more likely.
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whitie12

Depends

Suppose it depends on what you are looking for.

We think lots of validations and friends indicate you are right into the lifestyle taking every oppurtunity play.

 

Makes us wonder friends requests and validations from people we have not even talked to .

Guess we subscribe to descretion, dont kiss and tell.

No thanks to validations.

We do think its a good idea to prove your age on here thru RHP.

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sex_is_gym

not really

I think it takes the fun out of finding out yourself. We all cant have a great performance everytime and if you have a bad one so to speak with somone on here and they give you a bad rating, then that would suck.

Find out for yourself i say and ignore the validation cause really we all arnt going to please everyone on here since we all are not robots and dont all like or do the same things.
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jennylee1903   Woman 45yrs

They serve their purpose

Personally, I never read the validations but I trust the profile more when there is a validation on them. I was very proud to get my first validation and, as already pointed out, if you are not satisfied with the content of the validation offerred, don't add it. Very simple. It is what it says. It validates your authenticity. I like that.
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jennylee1903   Woman 45yrs

p.s.

I recently responded to a couple's flirt, there was no validation on it but it was a new profile. I recieved a response asking me to call a number, which I didn't do straight away but when I tried that number later, I was told not to use the number as it was freaking his wife out. He was not genuine and that is why there was no validation. Something to consider.

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