The problem that I, as a straight woman, would have with this scenario is:-
Gotta be more about the women satisfying the man more than mutual satisfaction. Yes I have been in this situation. The way I see it, you are going to give more to your wife than the other woman because she is the one you love, she is the one you know exactly how to please and she is the one who is gonna get real dirty if she gets ignored.
Also been in the two straight men and me situation as well.
Personally I didnt enjoy either one really but then....
That is just me!
Perhaps the question should be ,why would a single woman want to join you both?.What would you have to offer her?
As Handmaiden so succinctly said ,in a situation like this it is usually all about the man and many straight men have the fantasy of being the focus of two women concentrating on pleasuring just him.
The men who may achieve this desire,by attracting single women from this site, would I imagine have to look pretty much like a Greek god. x Hugs H
ask for our opinions op...doesn't make us selfish just because it doesn't float our boats.I think you are looking in the wrong place,heaps of men achieve this fantasy,think about your other networks,who do you and your partner know and like.
It is not impossible ,it's just highly unlikely that you will find a woman here,the odds are against you.
But good luck in your search,a woman might be reading your post and prove me wrong.x Hugs H