I need some advice from my fellow RHP friends.
I have just started chatting with a new guy 2 days ago & I was quite surprised to find that we have an instant connection. I have never clicked with someone the way I clicked with this man. We have gotten along so well we have already made plans to meet in 2 weeks time & we already talk regularly on web cam & the phone after only 2 days of chatting online.
This guy is generally interested in getting to know about me as he asks many questions and has quite a sense of humour. However I am a bit confused as he has not once made any move to talk about anything sexual & we did meet on a sex site. He has not once complimented me on my looks or that he even finds me sexually attractive. But he does say he is very much attracted to my personality and sense of humour.
He is a bit older than the age of guys I usually go for being 36 & I am wondering if this might have something to do with him being a gentleman and not wanting to talk about sex? He has also mentioned he is a bit wary of the fact there is such an age gap between us but insists he has never connected with someone instantly before & so he will overlook my age.
I am very confused about this, and was wondering if someone could give in an insight into what it means!
Taby xx
P.S - I am sorry if no paragraphs show up, I did put them in but my laptop & web connection has been playing up of late.
I was always impressed with your attitude, Normally 21 year olds usually don't impress me much, but you always struck me as being different....in a good way....lol, to your peers.
Don't over analyse it, forget the age thing and enjoy the difference with a more mature man. hmmm not that all mature aged men are actually mature if you know what i mean.
Not all guys are overly obsessed about talking about sex, some guys are actually interested in the person as a whole.
Hope it is a really positive experience for you both.
Cheers Nev
I think we're from a generation, where our values are a little different and yes there is the "old fashion" gentleman quality.
That's not to say we don't think about it, maybe he is just a little shy, and doesn't wat to say something that will spoil what he has with you.
Go with Girltuesdays' thoughts... take the lead and lead the conversation in the direction you want it. I think you'll soon see him come out that shy guarded shell, and open up to you.
Even though you consider this a sex site... there are many different reasons why people are on here. So don't be too concerned how the conversations you have with him goes... Just go with the flow and enjoy the ride.
Good luck with it
CG xx
Hi Taby,
Just had a read of your situation and I am in the opposite situation to you. I am a 36yo guy and I in the early stages of a relationship with a 23yo. I have to admit that the age gap was a concern for me as I guess we each have different experiences in life. Our chats do not revolve around talking about sex. They are more around finding out more about each other and I am glad that I have.
My situation is a bit unique as she lives interstate as well, so we don't have the opportunity to catch up on a regular basis but what has occured is that by getting to know more about one another I have been able to overcome some of my initial concerns.
I have learnt that she is just a wonderful person who always seems to be happy and whenever we are together she just constantly smiles and therefore in turn makes me smile. Her outlook on life is refreshing. All I can say is just go with the flow and don't over analyse the situation.
As mentioned by GirlTuesday once you have a meeting of minds the fireworks start to fly.
Hope this helps you out a bit.
I agree completely with Nev. Just have fun hun...xo
xFunlovingx
Cynicism is a terrible look, and it stands out like dogs ball in person, i know it well, i struggle to contain mine at times.
It was my initial thought to, but then i thought well why not, i could see certain parallels with how i would behave.
I always try to approach life with a positive outlook.
I reckon Taby is a capable young woman who has her head screwed on and can look after herself.
Just take the man as you find him and if he gives you any reason to worry then feel him out ,,,,,,,, have you mentioned sex or anything sexy to him as yet ???? he may realy be interested in you in a good way and not a sleezy pervert like ...........omg what am i saying here
just go with your gut feeling girl and keep friends close as not all older guys are bad people
Andy XXXX
...enjoy enjoy enjoy...Strangely enough some guys want to get to know a girls personality as they find that to be a much bigger turn on than just the body ESPECIALLY if they are viewing this as more than just a bit of fun on the side...he is older than you?? so what! You are avery articulate woman and have a lot to offer.. get to know the man...enjoy having found a gentleman and let the rest of us be extremly jealous of your luck...
Kisses
Focus
Loving the new pic, so much better than a set of legs.
Well done Chicky
take each day as it comes, keep a level head, and until otherwise shown.... enjoy the time with a nice guy.
As we are few and far between
A lot of people have given you some good advice... take it on board and have fun
Thank you all my RHP friends for your advice so far. I do have exsperience meeting men from rhp and other sites as I have been doing this for 2 years now and mainly with older guys between 28-33 so I'm not a stranger to older men.
The main reason I was wanting some help is because usually all guys wana do is talk about sex or if i find a rare one who might ask a few questions then will aventually swing the convo towards sex. I just find it weird that this guy has not and that he has not said he find me attractive... I mean isnt that what your ment to do? lol
I know he is who he says he is as I have seen him face to face on web cam and done a video call at the same time so I could hear his voice too and chat that way. Im just mainly confused that he hasnt said he finds me sexually attractive and that he wants to know all about me, because most guys I chat to dont want to. They only want to talk about sex.
Thats kind of a given Taby if he didn't find you attractive he wouldn't be chasing you.
Actually i think you would be hard pressed to find anyone who didn't find you attractive!
Now i know age is a relative thing, and to you, guys 28 to 33 seem like they are older men who should have their shit together, from where i sit they are still pups, and i think guys who need to talk it up (sex) are displaying a certain level of inexperience or desperation.
In my experience if you have that connection everything will flow on from that in a natural way, without to much prodding and steering.
So stop worrying and see where the journey takes you.
Thanks babe, deciding to be game and actually show myself off...