We recently went to our first swingers party and left feeling somewhat unimpressed by the whole experience.
This particular party was a couples only party and we were quite surprised when we arrived and noticed a few single men floating about and several couples old enough to be our parents, we didn't let this deter us and started chatting with a couple that were in our age bracket and decided to adjourn to the spa with them.
There was one guy already in the spa when the 4 of us got in and we were soon joined by 2 more men, 5 men and 2 ladies in the spa wasn't what I had envisaged in the lead up to the night, after 20 mins or so we decided to get out and contemplate why we came in the first place.
We were discussing whether we should stay or leave when our new friends suggested we go and start playing, upon entering the play area we found there was just 2 girls and about 6-7 men in the room, we watched for a little while and I turned to my wife and suggested we get going as I wasn't about to let these creepy old men start to gang bang my wife so we left, went home and fucked on our own.
So were our expectations all wrong and a swingers party is more of a gang bang or is there actually parties where the men/women ratio is actually 50/50??
What you are saying has been discussed before apprently the modern defination of swingers include single males and single ladies its no longer a solely couples activity with married partners.
Just about every group we have been involved with end up with singles being there. What you have observed is routine, we have also experianced 4-5 girls lock a bedroom door behind them and leave their husbands to hit on the girls that did not want the bi girl locked play room.
We have looked at the group scene and for us, we like meeting couple to couple and organising play with a couple we have met previously.
I'm sure things would have been different if there were hot young single guys there to play but unfortunately this just wasn't the case.
Not sure we're up to hosting our own party yet but maybe somewhere down the track
Swingnew - Definitely a big plus in playing with another couple in private is just that - the extra security of privacy with no unwanted attention by those that you don't want to include in your play
We're going to give the couples club a go next time as per cns has suggested, someone we've been planning to meet has kindly offered to come along with us to make sure we have a good time. :)
Thanks everyone for the replies
I can sort of see where you are coming from.
I too have only been to one swinger party and being of the older persuasion myself I felt a bit odd with my FWB.
I was surprised at how friendly people were though and felt quite at ease naked.
We did not play with others and I am sure it wouldn't have been a problem if we had.
The range of people was fairly broad and I don't remember any single guys but there were a few single older ladies.
However it was fun and a chance to experience something different and exciting.
Sad to see you weren't happy.
I recently attended a 'party' with some of my friends who wanted to introduce me to the scene. I was warmly welcomed by the hosts and other guests. Had engaging conversation, offered food and drinks.
I don't really know what I expected but most of the guests were a lot older than I imagined they'd be. I was actually surprised when people started walking around undressed. Naive? I guess so.Inexperienced? Definitely.
Clubs are always hit n miss...and as they all charge extra for single guys...thats the wages.
private partys are great, but you have to find the right ones...
not just single guys who line up couples ...unless you want extra cock...nothing wrong there :)
Our partys are couples only...no loud rap music...no single guys or girls.
doesnt mean we havent had a good time at clubs or mixed partys.
Like anything "open your mind" and find what you seek ...that night ...and have fun.