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Jul 07, 2012
curious2swing76   Couple Man 37yrs Woman 37yrs

We recently went to our first swingers party and left feeling somewhat unimpressed by the whole experience.

 

This particular party was a couples only party and we were quite surprised when we arrived and noticed a few single men floating about and several couples old enough to be our parents, we didn't let this deter us and started chatting with a couple that were in our age bracket and decided to adjourn to the spa with them.

 

There was one guy already in the spa when the 4 of us got in and we were soon joined by 2 more men, 5 men and 2 ladies in the spa wasn't what I had envisaged in the lead up to the night, after 20 mins or so we decided to get out and contemplate why we came in the first place.

 

We were discussing whether we should stay or leave when our new friends suggested we go and start playing, upon entering the play area we found there was just 2 girls and about 6-7 men in the room, we watched for a little while and I turned to my wife and suggested we get going as I wasn't about to let these creepy old men start to gang bang my wife so we left, went home and fucked on our own.

 

So were our expectations all wrong and a swingers party is more of a gang bang or is there actually parties where the men/women ratio is actually 50/50??

 

 

swinging experience
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swingnew  

Couple Man 52yrs Woman 48yrs

Swinging scene

We understand its hard work but you really need to meet another privately . This is the problem with the lack of privacy when you go to a party. Swingnew.
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cnsfelswat   Couple Man 40yrs Woman 36yrs

well it really depends on the club and the night

We have been to alot of clubs in our time, as we said it really depends on the club and the night.See alot of clubs have couples only nights,and then there are some night when they let serlect single males in.But there is a club in surry hills called the couples club which is the only club we go to now.friday and saturdays are couples and single females only and on sundays they let serlect males in,and when you are there on the couples nights the males of couples are'nt allowed to go go into the play rooms by themselves which is great because you dont get allthe sleeze bags harrassing your women.
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lovingcouple1

Swinging scene

We have had our fair share of bad experiences once we even flew to America for Swingfest only to get an Email the day before the event to say he hadn't booked the hotel ?????? and that the event was off  but we keep looking and and trying are off to heddo 2 for 2 weeks in october where there are quite a few strange single men floating around waiting for women to drop to their knee's and service them (they saw it in a porn movie) but most women just seem to roll their eyes and smile at the poor souls and go and hang out with the fun couples...............

Good luck
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Futurenomads   Couple Man 57yrs Woman 51yrs

Times are changing.

What you are saying has been discussed before apprently the modern defination of swingers include single males and single ladies its no longer a solely couples activity with married partners.

Just about every group we have been involved with end up with singles being there. What you have observed is routine, we have also experianced 4-5 girls lock a bedroom door behind them and leave their husbands to hit on the girls that did not want the bi girl locked play room.

 

We have looked at the group scene and for us, we like meeting couple to couple and organising play with a couple we have met previously. 

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curious2swing76   Couple Man 37yrs Woman 37yrs

Not yet deterred....thanks

Quoting 'kinkisthenewpink'
even when we were playing as a couple I would not attend a party where there weren't any hot young single guys....the pickins can be might slim if there is couples only and no singles.  I have met some gorgeous, educated, fun single guys at swingers clubs and parties and the only time I have ever had problems with creeps..they have been the older single or married guys :-(


I'm sure things would have been different if there were hot young single guys there to play but unfortunately this just wasn't the case.

 

Not sure we're up to hosting our own party yet but maybe somewhere down the track

 

Swingnew - Definitely a big plus in playing with another couple in private is just that - the extra security of privacy with no unwanted attention by those that you don't want to include in your play

 

We're going to give the couples club a go next time as per cns has suggested, someone we've been planning to meet has kindly offered to come along with us to make sure we have a good time. :)

 

Thanks everyone for the replies

 

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Miketheduc  

Man 53yrs

HMMMM

I can sort of see where you are coming from.

I too have only been to one swinger party and being of the older persuasion myself I felt a bit odd with my FWB.

I was surprised at how friendly people were though and felt quite at ease naked.

We did not play with others and I am sure it wouldn't have been a problem if we had.

The range of people was fairly broad and I don't remember any single guys but there were a few single older ladies.

However it was fun and a chance to experience something different and exciting.

Sad to see you weren't happy.

Mike

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blonde7915   Woman 34yrs

Just bad luck

I think you just hit a bad party, I have been to loads of parties and have never heard of there being so many single males. Just like everything in life there are the good and the bad, don't let this stop you from trying other parties.  next time look for a private party being put on by a couple that have lots of their friends (on here) going and lots of positive reviews.
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ToyWithMe   Man 40yrs

Couples vs Singles

OP - True couples parties do still exist (at least down here in Melbourne), but you do need to read the fine print carefully.  Many parties are "For couples" and then add "and limited singles", where "limited" invariable means "tons of".  Others are "Couples only" and then state "once per month - other nights single guys welcome".

You have to understand that many parties are commercial ventures, and it's the single guys that bring in the money.  Women are the bait, and it's a balancing act between letting in the money tickets (single men) and scaring away the bait (which in turn dries up the money tickets).

I've been to proper "couples only" parties and found the numbers nicely balanced.  The play rooms are big group spaces, but that doesn't mean you'll get gangbanged.  Most couples seem to do their thing in their own little area of the play room, with other couples fucking nearby.  When it gets crowded you may brush against other couples, but people are nearly always polite enough to ask before they take any further liberties.

If sex in a group room is not your thing then most parties definitely won't work for you. 
In Melbourne there are some venues (like Wet On Wellington - a gay club that once per month has a straight couples night) that have a whole floor devoted to lots of little private play rooms (plus some big group ones).  Venues like this allow you to meet couples downstairs and take them upstairs for private fun.

The moral of this is to not be disheartened but instead figure out what works for you.
Meeting couples privately is great, but may have a very low success rate.
Parties make it easier to meet people, but it's harder to get that privacy.
A compromise is to attend parties to chat and flirt, and then make arrangements to meet up again privately.
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playful4u   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 38yrs

Parties

It is a matter of finding the right party with the right crowd. We are very selective with the parties we attend and have found them to be great fun. Don't let one sleazy party experience put you off. See if you can get some recomendations.
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msmarvelous   Woman 55yrs

swingers parties

I recently attended a 'party' with some of my friends who wanted to introduce me to the scene. I was warmly welcomed by the hosts and other guests. Had engaging conversation, offered food and drinks.

I don't really know what I expected but most of the guests were a lot older than I imagined they'd be. I was actually surprised when people started walking around undressed. Naive? I guess so.Inexperienced? Definitely.

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looking2try3   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 37yrs

Single guys and roaming.

Your right ! If we read "select single men" we run for the hills. Our experiences have been they are generally not as select as we'd like annnnnnd there are more than a few! Sarah and I have always spoken about the idea of a swing club getting private rooms you can rent like at a night club as you can hire private booths ......that would be nice - no invite no enter - go away I paid for this spot ! grrrrrrrrr
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Couple club is much safer and I have never noted single guys there roaming around at all - However on the odd massive party night I think they fall through the cracks - but this is rare( VERY).
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Again agree couple club is a good spot to meet couples that you think you may like - because if you dont like them and it does happen ....... you can smile have a drink and guess what ....there are now a stack more people for them and you to try !
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Don't be put off it get's better.
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Brae
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michnruss   Couple Man 29yrs Woman 38yrs

Over it all....

The OP is exactly why we decided to give it all a break......So over making the time to get to a party or occasion which has been described as couples and single girls ONLY to find half the party goers are single (and older and unattractive) males.....yuk...I  (Mich) have a hot husband and sooo not interested into doing a man that could be my fathers friend....OR unattractive, overweight couples who I find hard to believe could even be attracted to each other...

We have had more interesting nights meeting random girls and such so avoid these set up slong-fests!
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justjuice   Couple Man 55yrs Woman 48yrs

Held us back..

THIS is why we have never attended a swingers club.  Having heard this more than once, it distracts from the very reason we would like to be there..
At the risk of sounding snobby , we're both considered attractive and would like to think we could meet other couples the same..  not fat old men or desperate singles..
Even though we've never been..  the break up of price fee's for attendee's at these swingers clubs give a indication what you could be walking into..    Single girls free ....  Couples  $100 -  and selected single guys $150.. 
Selected single guys ????  FFS..  Can you see the organisers knocking back $150 or even $100 or $50  if the guys really want to get in..' Selective ?? ? and selective by who's motives ?  The people holding the purse..  not my idea of selective...

If we could find a attractive group of couples who genuinely allow equally attractive single girls and guys we would be interested..  but we doubt we can find this...  can only live in hope..  the  JJ s




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looking2try3   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 37yrs

in fact

At swingers clubs .....well couples club (and Lotus when it was open) I have been asked "where is your partner" by the staff, as the rule at these clubs is NO SINGLE MEN roaming around without partners ......that is even if you have a partner you can't be in the play area if she isnt with you .........!!!!!
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Interestingly my response is usually see that girl over there rolling around with that other girl ....... yes those two making a stack of noise ........well the brunette is my wife and the other .........I let you know in about two hours !
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Again parties is more random ! People who arrange them choose and as it happens it seems often let guys in they feel are "safe" - This doesnt happen at swingers clubs in Sydney.
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Brae
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rockercouple80   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 24yrs

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When we host parties, it's for couples and select single GIRLS only. If we don't have an exact 50/50 split between m/f, it's swaying towards 60/40 girls in favour.

Single guys dont add anything. No one wants to play with them. They just get in the way. On the other hand, sometimes the girls will just want to play together for a bit. Having a bias towards more girls, means there is still a 50/50 split even if a handful head off for some fun.

On the very rare occasion (once) we hosted a party and invited a (one) single guy, he was under strict rules to basically be the party's bar tender. Being an international porn star, and trained masseuse helped get him across the line :P

Attending parties really has to be researched. There are heaps of fat, ugly, old people who are quite happy attending anything scheduled, and even more happy to jump on the first 'newb' to walk through the doors. Hell, happened to us, and it's the common story most people tell when we meet them. It's hard finding the quality parties. Networking helps, but you gotta find the right people to network with...


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AdventureTime   Couple Man 46yrs Woman 41yrs

yes

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Clubs are always hit n miss...and as they all charge extra for single guys...thats the wages.

 

private partys are great, but you have to find the right ones...

not just single guys who line up couples ...unless you want extra cock...nothing wrong there :)

 

Our partys are couples only...no loud rap music...no single guys or girls.

 

doesnt mean we havent had a good time at clubs or mixed partys.

 

Like anything "open your mind" and find what you seek ...that night ...and have fun.

:>

 

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justjuice   Couple Man 55yrs Woman 48yrs

Any organizer...

who is more interested in their wallet than their clients interest  , what else could you expect ?

The thought of paying $100 only to find a bunch of fat and ugly ppl wanting to maul your wife. isnt my idea of a good night out.  I could also imagine trying to get your $100 back if you want to walk out would also be a drama..

Whoever finds the right ingredient and presents a clean place with nice surrounds and acceptable people will make a fortune..

I bet there are many many couples out there who would agree....
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DonnaBrett   Couple Man 50yrs Woman 45yrs

Do your research first

If attending a club, go on a night that is couples & girls only.  If going to a party check with the hosts that will be no single guys there.  Of course there is a 'market' for single guys but if it's not what you want you will have to suss it out in advance.  Good Luck
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ToyWithMe   Man 40yrs

Pobodys nerfect.

Quoting 'justjuice'
The thought of paying $100 only to find a bunch of fat and ugly ppl wanting to maul your wife. isnt my idea of a good night out.
   

Fat ugly people don't exactly ring my bell either, but I would rather they attend than skinny old farts with ugly attitudes.
There are some parties that screen attendees to provide minimum physical standards for the party.  Others screen based on age to keep old people out.  But old people and fat ugly people all have the right to go to a party somewhere.  It's up to the attendees to do their own party research if they're not comfortable around others of certain types.

As for mauling people... the people at the parties I've been to have all been extremely polite and well mannered.  Nobody gets randomly "mauled".  People chat each other up, and if interested they go off to play.  Some places that host gangbangs or male-heavy "players" nights might have more brash behavioural standards, but a moment's research will give you some idea what to expect.
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Meeka100   Woman 42yrs

I'ma single lady.... Ooh ooh o!

Mr JJ... Not sure you are qualified to say that since you have never even been?? Couples Club isn't bad... You should go just once to have a looksee. There is a variety of people there and different age groups. The few times I have been there were no single men at all as far as I could tell. So a little boring for me at times.
What would seriously make money is a party with a whole bunch super sexy men!
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