Im in a different kind of relationship ....Distant ....but some times I feel the need and want and urge to visit one...
I dont go to brothels and I dont do one niters but for a single guy who has a gf in another state. who considers himself intelligent and not bad on the eye and can hold a conversation on many levels and is a good listener I am soo nervous about it all.
I soo want to experience different pleasures and different women however I need a bit of ...omg lost for words...mojo?.
I really like the contact and the want and the need to fulfill and pleasure...maybe its me !!!
I will one day im sure
Atomic
Psssst...This topic has posted 3 times, so I'm just going to reply on the first one *giggle*
While we've often wanted to go to a swingers club, we haven't ever been to one. I could come up with a few good reasons...work commitments, lack of a baby-sitter etc, but truth be told, I think that I am just too nervous and unsure what to expect. I seem to have this picture in my mind that all the people/couples who attend clubs/venues such as CI are slim, athletic, drop dead gorgeous, charismatic creatures and, as a fairly 'average bear' (ok, perhaps a little on the cuddly side LOL) I just wouldn't fit in.
Guess we're guilty of the notion that those who attend venues such as the one you mention are full of over confident nudists just waiting to try and root the arse off us as soon as we walk in the door. LOL.. I know im probally wrong... I would rather think that we could just roll up' sit back and observe whats happening then once comfortable ozze ourselves into whatever without any pressure. Its just the not knowing that tends to hold you back.
Ideally 'we would perfer to meet someone experienced and then perhaps tag along with them.
Its must be just like ur first day at kindy.... terrifying LOL
Anyway' Im very happy to stand corrected on any of our fears' Im sure someone can enlighten us. ?
I seem to have this picture in my mind that all the people/couples who attend clubs/venues such as CI are slim, athletic, drop dead gorgeous, charismatic creatures and, as a fairly 'average bear' (ok, perhaps a little on the cuddly side LOL) I just wouldn't fit in.
Couplestint / SalAndy. Both of your posts were good reading and certainly enlightened us to what is available. After reading everyones explaination I feel the CI approach would be our choice without doubt.
I wasnt wrong with my assumption about some clubs being like a meat market and Im sure there would be many like us who have held back attending a swingers club for that very same reason. Who wants a group of naked horny old men coming onto your wife ? or the parade of single guys who seem to think everyone wants to see their dicks ? Dicks are not good to see if the person attached to it isnt.
Ideally' we would rather a good laugh over a few drinks in a relaxed enviorment and then if something happens ...so be it...
Seems like Leesa and Bryan from CI seized on a golden opportunity and opened a club that caters for the people like us who perfer to have a choice on when and what we would like experience. Only trouble is' we live in Sydney..
Having said that we've been to a couple of swing clubs in Perth, and although it's hit and miss with the people in attendance (in terms of who we are willing to play with), we have met lots of friendly people and made to feel very welcome and at at ease at the venues.
I think that the clubs are (like this website) a great way of meeting and communicating with the swinging community... even if you don't find a couple to play with everytime.
It's hard to speak to friends and family about our lifestyle, so it's great to have an extended "family" of like minded swingers around to chat to whether that's through this site or in swinger clubs.
"would walk into clubs or house parties and i would instantly feel like a piece of meat, single guys sitting around naked playing with their cocks, girls getting fucked by heaps of old scary men, some not even using condoms. Naked people everywhere with dicks in your faces" from ci's post is exactly how i pictured a swingers club. i was so scared about going and having to play or being pushed to play that i would not even entertain the idea when i was asked to go a few yrs ago by a friend. since then i have spoken to Leesa and Trendy and i feel comfie about going when we are in bris next. we have even talked to other people who want to come with us. so when we are in bri for sexpo and maybe even earlier we will b going to ci and chatting and playing pool. and if we feel like it play. who knows but im sure we will have fun in what we are told is a very friendly and safe place. i know im going to need somone to hold my hand but i am excited about going
Mrs Bal
I remember the first time we went to a swingers club, CI it was. We had pre conceived ideas on what we might expect at a club. We thought we would walk in and see people fucking everywhere and mrs pip was worried about being hit on and pressured to do stuff by others. Well I can tell you now it was far from the truth. Its like going to a bar, you have a few drinks, play some pool, have a dance and socialise.The only difference is that you can be how you want to be. You can dress how you want to and no one looks weird at you,you can fuck where you want to, either in one of the private rooms or out in the open for others to see. For us its such a comfortable place to be. No one hassels you, they may ask but you can say NO and we have and there was no dramas from anyone. Me and mrs pip are pretty out there these days but we have never swung at a club, we fuck each other there in the open cause we like being watched but for us it's more of a social thing, we keep the swinging for at home. You're meeting people there that think the same as you and are there for the same reasons as you so basically we're all in the same boat.
Go and check CI out, nothing to be scared about, you'll have a ball. We have been a few times now and are looking forward to our next CI visit....and if you go on a theme night that is a lot of fun too.
mr pip
Have been to the Lotus Lounge and the Couples clubs and yes there is always a debate about which is best, but either way, you don't get attacked when you walk in. You dont have to undress and there is plenty of space to socialise etc. I think that the clubs where there are probably lots of "undesirable' men walking around naked would probably be the ones where they let anyone in and aren't essentially couples clubs and where most of the females are paid to be there.
JUSTJUICE IF YOU TRY ANY OF THE COUPLES CLUBS, i'm sure you will be pleasantly surprised. There is no pressure to play you can just go and socialise if you wish to do so.
Good luck
HiDii - Thanks hon...I love your look too xox.
Bris - Awwww, thanks lovey! Will let you know when we decide to bite the bullet and give it a go :)
BJ - Happy Birthday gorgeous! Oh, I would have soooo loved to have gone to your birthday night and had a jelly shot with you! Already have plans for boxing day though :( Hope you have a wonderfully fantastic night MWAH xox
i would like to go one but my partners (female) is a bit well scared and its understandable as well
as a guy you can realy only ask other guys about swingers clubs and just about everyone off them will say they have been to one. but realy have they? the only reason why my partner is scared is because she thinks that she will be pretty much "live meat" to guys in there i hope this isnt the case
apart from this forum i wish there a few people that we could talk to instead off the suck it and type off attitude
cheers p
Salandy we have spoken b4 and you have given me a fantastic run down on the whole swingers scene...i told u initially "nah clubs just are not our thing" without ever having stepped foot inside one...to which you decidedly kept ur mouth shut on the subject until curiosity got the better of me and you obliged in giving me a rundown on the whole idean using CI as the club in question....
I think everyone who has never spoken about or been to a club has similar ideas to what i had previously (seedy old men in dark corners, no choices, having to have sex just because you entered the club not to mention having to do it with whoever and in a seporate room from my man, still the comic idea of everyone being blindfolded and throwing their car keys in a hat style) to talk to Salandy and now reading this post. Still i havnt had th chance to venture to CI or any other club for that matter but as opposed to our thoughts of "no clubs just are not our thing" to "hmmmm.....cant wait to get a chance to go and check it out"! so i guess its all about talking to and perhaps even tagging along with the right ppl...
So we hope to see you there soon!
kisses
thats a great offer guys. hope who ever is lucky enought to recive your offer has a ball
xxxx mrs bal
I've been to events held by 5 different groups here in South East Queensland and the only thing I can really say is just how completely different they have all been.
CI and Liasonz are the only ones I've been to multiple times. Understandably they are the ones I would recommend. I went to CI a lot more because it is more convenient for me and I feel really appreciated as a single guy there. There are quite a few groups that have the mentality of the single guys being a cash cow. Obviously I avoid these.
I think that because CI respects its single men is a large part of the reason that the single men are so respectful there. Even when I attended one of their hardcore nights the guys were still far more respectful than anywhere else I've been. The other part is that there is a bit of screening and you do really feel (for the first few times) that you need to be on your best behaviour! It's not so much because you'll 'get in trouble' but more because you don't want to disappoint Leesa and Bryan. They are both such nice, welcoming people that I'd feel terrible to let them down.
You also feel a bit 'special' because you have been selected. This boosted my confidence dramatically. I really do thank you guys for that.
We have been going to CI for many years now & as we have a young family its hard to get out but when we want to get out for a great night we always go to CI we have made some great friends there & its always great to see them & make new ones. We would rather go their instead of a night club were you have stupid drunken people around, & with CI we can be ourselves with other like minded couples.
I love to dress up & we love Fucking out in the open if we do on the night so we always have a great time, I will admitt when we went for the first time I was very nervous not sure what to expect but Brain & Leesa made us feel very welcomed & it is by no means what you would think, its just great people having a great time & if you want to play you do but if not well don't, but believe me you will have fun & most likely play (Whats wrong with that it very exciting).
We always recomend CI to people that are looking to explore & have fun .
Cheers
I first started on the swingers scene just over a month ago, a old FB took me to mike's place in west end. i was so nervouse and for about 3 weeks after i still had a few nerves. there still always are when you first walk in. i found mike's place so friendly and down to earth but after a drink or 2 it felt like home, absolutley loved it.
2 weeks later checked out another club in brisbane and i instantly hated it, they let in way too many single guys and most of them were 40 - 60 creepy and not very nice on the eye. (no offence) walked in and felt like i was at a house party and it was creepy knowing that i was only 1 of 3 young girls around and had the entire room looking at me whispering (felt like school again)
Havnt been to CI yet but as mikes has closed down will definaltey be checking it out in the next few weeks as i would hate for my experince to end so soon after stumbling upon it. Since discovering the swingers club scene i have stopped going to nightclubs, sick of all the games one plays to get laid these days. So far (except for once) it has been great, could walk in and didnt have to play although by the end of the night i was very well known :)
It was definatley a shock when i realised how clean and proffessional yet down to earth and relaxed everything was. people seemed to know everyone and they made me feel relaxed once i got a drink and sat down with a few people
I actually started going to CI 3 weeks ago as a single as clubs aren't my hubby's gig and i am about to set up house and claim a couch perm. there. :) I LOVE it, everyone is so friendly,staff and management are so lovely, respectful and quality people generally. You think it's going to be intense but it's SO chilled, great facilities. I had my first ever shag in public the other night and was shocked at how hot it was to know people were watching. Not a public sex sort of gal, mrs privacy here. ;) I have to say, at this stage i have no real interest in going anywhere else, CI has everything i require. I'm so glad i shook of the terror ( i was SO nervous) and had a "just do it" moment and went. I have a blast every time i go!
Kisses!
Mrs Sweetiepie
xx