Hi fellow RHP'ers! I'm really feeling a bit down and frustrated at the moment and have no one else to discuss this with so thought I would open up on here, and am prepared for the good, the bad and the ugly replies! Because I don't seem to have a clue, any and all answers will help.

Firstly, I have never yet met anyone (1 on 1 or couple) without establishing a good rapport first. Not message ping pong, but enough contact via here, email or phone to make sure we're on the same wave length. We even discuss how we envisage the play meet to go. And my profile is pretty specific too, and I always read other people's profiles very carefully. I also ALWAYS let people know I'm looking for long term friendships, I'm not in it to play with numbers, so if they're not open to the idea then we don't play. If there is no chemistry or desire to see each other again afterwards I totally get that.

FIRST PROBLEM

Selfish lovers. You know the ones. In their profile "love to go down", "will spend hours worshipping your pussy" or promises of orgasm after orgasm! So twice recently I've met guys, lots of chat beforehand, everything discussed as above, the first goes ok to start with (awesome kisser, yay!), has a bit of a fiddle with my pussy, enjoys my "oral ministrations very much ..... best ever I think he said?" and then he's in and we're off and it's fine, but when it's over he pulls his undies back on so I have no alternative but to get up, get dressed and leave. Second one, once again, awesome kissing, all going great, he's warned me he cums quickly with a new partner first time, so I ask what can I do and he says "maybe give me head and then while I'm getting ready to go again I can return the favour". I think that's fair and enjoy what I do, he cums, all good, we lay back on the bed and all of a sudden he's getting dressed and saying he has to go back to work. Both of them during and after express how attracted they are to me, how they are loving being with me and want to see me again and talk about next time ...... leading onto next problem.

NO MANNERS!

So from experience I guess I've had 2 kinds of play meets. One kind is where it's ok or better, but there is no talk of meeting again or no real chemistry I guess. It just is what it is. A fuck. I'm not talking about that kind here.

I'm talking about the other kind, where both parties express verbally that they feel there is real chemistry, there is talk of meeting again, it goes amazingly well and is in most or every way at the time satisfactory (oh apart from example 2 above).

So as a matter of routine and good manners I always drop them a quick note afterwards saying thank you, I appreciate them making the time to play, I really enjoyed myself (if that was the case, which it usually is), hope there is another time in the future if they are interested and hope they have a great day.

Very rarely do I EVER get a similar contact. Or a reply!!!! NOTHING!!! I mean is that rude or what? Not even a "thank you for making your pussy available to me"!!! And before any play session I spend a lot of time making sure I am nice and smooth, clean, moisturised, dressed appropriately ...... I mean I do make an effort!

So I guess the 3 results are;

1. The guys who have contacted me first after we meet and told me how much they enjoyed it or replied to my thank you, we've gone on to become ongoing friends with benefits and it is very, very rewarding.

2. The people who've eventually got back to me (like one day weeks later they're horny and suddenly notice my name on the profile list) I've sometimes given a second chance to, but if it feels like they're just using me (which is fine in some circumstances, but not in this case) then that's it. No more chances.

3. The ones who I really, really wanted to hear from again, and I hate to admit this, but really liked them and felt we clicked. And I always am left wondering what did I do wrong? Even though it was probably nothing. But I'm not going to pine or chase after them. Yes there have been a couple of guys who I've sent a second message too, just a really light breezy message say for NY or Australia Day, just in case they had forgotten to reply or I don't know, something!!!! But then that's it. Doesn't mean I like it, but I'm old enough to see it for what it is.

So what do I do? I mean my profile is already developing some pretty demanding statements as it is. Do I add "happy to go down after you go down" lol! Under turn offs do I add "people who don't make an effort to contact me after a play session, regardless of the outcome, simple manners such as thank you go a long way".

*sigh* I guess I'm just forcing my way of doing things and behaviour onto others. So I'm prepared for some lectures. Over to you! AlwaysDreaming