Secret Cuckolding

September 19 2014

As a new guy in this lifestyle nothing excites me more than being cuckolded. Unfortunately my wife is very straight when it comes to sex and always backs off anytime I mention some experimental things for the bedroom. I know that she would enjoy being with another man and especially cuckolding me but how do I get her to open up this.
I;m wondering what your ideas would be to get her into this lifestyle. Get drunk have a threesome and move on from there, etc

Comments

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Unfortunately you may be shit out of luck as you can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do.

    It may be that if you want to be with her the price you have to pay is that your secretly thinking about her fucking others while you are fucking her. Or if you really need it and want it and she can't give it to you then she may not be the one for woman for you. Only you know what level of sacrifice you are both willing to do to be with each other and fulfil both your sexual needs.

    That being said there is nothing going to happen unless you both can get some really solid and honest communication about desires and sexual comparability.

    Personally I would highly recommended to steer away from the springing it on her drunk, etc until you have exhausted all other means of open communication and ethical options.

    There are plenty of awesome forum peeps who do have cuckolding relationships and will be able to offer suggestions.

    Good luck :-)

    Cheers,
    W.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think lots of people can open up to lots of new ideas in time, with loving, patient communication.

    Some of the mistakes people make when they're trying to communicate about these things and when they want their partner to consider something new are (speaking only from my perspective):

    Seeming too eager/desperate for it. There's more to life and to being a partner/adult/man etc than getting that one new fucking experience, and if you come across as obsessed with it it will probably turn her (me) off the idea straight away.

    Making the conversation all about what you want. I like to be certain that the man I'm with really wants ME. If I feel that I'm just someone he can utilise to fulfill a fantasy, I won't be interested at all. If his desire for me is strong and clear, and his interest in other things is to explore, be bold, enhance what we have, then I'm likely to warm up to a new idea.

    Giving the impression that I'm not enough or our sexual relationship is not enough. But if he reminds me about why he lusts after me and how he thinks this new experience will deepen our chemistry and connection, I'm likely to be open to it.

    Bringing up a desire for a new sexual experience, especially involving extra people, can raise so many doubts. Doubts about how desirable I am, doubts about fidelity, doubts about performance and risks, doubts about whether he's committed to me or more committed to getting his rocks off in this new way.

    I'm not a particularly insecure person. Actually I'd class myself as pretty confident, but I'd still have doubts such as those above. A man who took the time to talk lovingly, and to reassure me, and leave me feeling wanted and desired, could help me overcome those doubts pretty quickly.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It took Hubby 21 years and a drunken threesome for him to confess his desire to see me with other guys.

    I wouldn't advise you to get her drunk and spring a threesome on her though. Ours wasn't planned but had been on the cards for years. This could go very badly for your relationship if it is not what she wants and she feels pressured into a situation that she is not comfortable with. I would advise that you talk to her.

    It took me a while to get comfortable with the idea, I really couldn't believe that he wanted me to have sex with others and that was what got him off. I needed a lot of reassurance and we talked heaps, about our wants, desires, boundaries and well everything.

    Putting yourself out there for sexual conquests isn't very ''cucky'' behaviour. I cuck derives pleasure from his partners infidelities, not seeking their own. Trust and honesty are a big part of making a cuckold relationship work.