1. no, i either ignore if it's extremely generic, or i send a template reply.

2. no. it's hard enough finding a profile to be inspired to send a message, let alone spam everyone.

3. yes it's damn hard to send an interesting message when you've got such a generic profile to work on.

4. definitely, i want them to know I've made the effort and paid attention to what they had to say about themselves. to make it obvious that i am really interested in them, not just as a set of genitals with a life support system.

1) Do you respond positively to non-specific messages if you otherwise like what you see in the profile? Yes

2) Do you send spam? (say it isn't so!!!) But if so, why?   NO

3) Is it just too hard to come up with something new and exciting to say to different people, especially when a lot of profiles are quite generic themselves?  Yes its difficult to be original everytime, especially if you want to spend 20 minutes writing something that more than likely won't even be read!

4) Do you refer to profiles when sending messages? I read them first obviously, to get a feel for what i think they might be like, but no i don't keep referencing them.

I think  i read your profile yesterday seeing as i hadn't seen you in the forums before, your is the one that reads like a job spec isn't it ?

My immediate reaction was "oh my she sounds like hard work!"  Wheres the fun factor?

Its difficult to guage just how serious people are being sometimes! You know ....women and their lists....lol

Cheers Nev........Still don't own a suit!.....lol

i am naughty i will admit...im one of those guys that annoy me lol

1/ i dont really read profiles to start with...il have a quick look at relationship status to make sure they are single and a quick scan of what he has to say....but i mainly go by what he has written to me in the letter

2/ nope no spam sending here...i wouldnt know how to start with it anyway lol

3/ i rarely send out messages first....so i only reply to whatever they have written to me

4/ nope not really...like i said i dont really read them haha

and can i just say after Nev's comment about your profile i did go in and actually read it lol...well it does read like a job aplication but i was amused lol...you have an interesting sense of humour lol

roxxy

Nev! Hard work? Hard work? I'm just mixing it up a little. You mean to say you didn't enjoy my very obvious double entendres? ;)

Chrissy

Now i can't decide whether to say strap me into the chair boys and pour some water on the reel, 

or

Yell out Muuummm, Chrissy's using big words....(in my best Millhouse voice)

Ok finished being silly now  

Seriously though You know what i mean about women and lists, and i didn't know just how seriously to take it.

Oh yeah.... can i have some clarification on a couple of points?   Might be helpfull for the boys who might have some hope of matching your essential criteria.

Tertiary Qualifications, is their some Tafe course or uni degree?

Negotiable benefits?

Cheers Nev............

Excellent Millhouse voice.

The issue of tone in the written form is, of course, a challenge that is internet wide. My problem is probably that I'm reluctant to use emoticons to make it clear I'm trying to by funny. Makes it so much worse when the funny falls flat.

I should say, when I read your post out to my husband he agreed I seemed like hard work because I am hard work. Which, I suppose, is fair. But goodness me, I think I'd like to scare off anyone who is afraid of hard work (or unfunny profiles that have tried to be funny) because I am actually looking for a very specific thing. And, you know, I'm not having trouble finding it, so I guess I'll stick with being hard for! I think it's up to everyone to try to communicate their own flavour in their profiles in order to attract people who are into that. If that gets me hard working guys then that's all very well! Stamina is so important (insrt obligatory emoticon here).

Ah! You caught me out. I am not aware of any courses, be they graduate or post graduate. But I'm sure you'll agree, the skills are very important (all important).

Negotiable benefits are, by definition, negotiated between any successful applicants and my good self!

Chrissy

You are certainly an intriuging woman, look forward to seeing you get more involved in the Forums!

Cheers Nev

Chrissy love the profile......a nice touch i thought......lets face it though.......95% of the messages you'll get on here will be a template in some form....most blokes just aren't willing to put the effort in to get laid......sad but true........

I think it's super cute and very witty. Re spam: Regardless of looks, a profile of a 'single woman' will attract lots of messages. Wit, good grammar, accurate spelling and something interesting to communicate is the way to get action. 'hey i'm john, what do ya lik doin? luv getting sukked off, drop me a line if ya innerested lol' just doesn't cut it.  A 'bulk template' email will receive my bulk template reply. Betsy

...are messages sent with the intention of getting laid?

or

are messages sent with the intention of communicating?

Never figured that one out....oh, alright....in the end I figured out the "messages" that just wanted a root at the end of the communication ;P

But I am just mighty glad that through all the "mixed" messages (you know, the "he said she said" stuff) I was able to stay open minded enough not to dismiss a message simply because the profile didn't fit my so called.....criteria.

One day, I got a lovely message from a man, using a very generic profile, located in another state. On the outside looking in...."yeah right...like thats gonna happen"

Bloody glad I let it....

The magic was in the phone call that followed.....

Jx

Bad lad, if men won't make an effort to get laid, what will they make an effort to do??? These are end times!

For schizzle, BetsyBellagio? I'm exactly the same! Poor spelling and grammar are immediate turn offs for me. I was starting to wonder if I should just relax about it. Glad to find I'm not alone!


OneBrightStar, that sounds like a seriously smoking phone call! Care to tell us more? I don't think I'm the only one who'd be interested to hear how that story goes!

GirlTuesday, you are GirlCorrect, in my view.


Hope everyone's having themselves a lovely evening...?

1) Do you respond positively to non-specific messages if you otherwise like what you see in the profile?
Yes.  There are so many guys on here, and I'm sure the majority are looking for pretty similar things, and what, 1/4 of the girls on here are webcam girls, half don't reply at all... I can make allowances for template messages for initial contact.  It's just a longer way of saying "Hey, I like your profile, how you doing?"

I did recieve a message once that I thought was a well-written template.  Oops, apparently it wasn't.  Guys & Dolls, it really does pay to personalise your messages a bit.

2) Do you send spam? (say it isn't so!!!) But if so, why?
Nope.  I could barely be bothered searching and flirting let alone CTL-C, CTL-V, Send.

3) Is it just too hard to come up with something new and exciting to say to different people, especially when a lot of profiles are quite generic themselves?
Yes.  See answer to question 1.  However I think I've allowed enough in my own profile to actually warrant some kind of personal comment.  If I had a minimal content profile then why should I expect a maximum input contact?

4) Do you refer to profiles when sending messages?
Absolutely.  That way I know whether to be extra flirty in my response ;)

PBG, what is a webcam girl? Is it when you jump on and show off your bits and see who's looking?