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Profiles....beyond the basics and a photo - are they that important?

Jul 17, 2012
ilbisonte   Man 44yrs
As a Male member that seems to attract virtually no attention on this site, I'd like to know where I'm going wrong.......That doesn't mean I'm needy or fishing, nor is it an invitation for a series of heavy handed critiques from the loaded throng out there :-))........but I am a little curious - What really constitutes an interesting profile? Is it a photo shopped gallery that adds to the voyeuristic component? Is it a tacky sales pitch loaded with sexual innuendo? What works? How does an old fashioned country boy get noticed?
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Hesione

your profile

your profile would appeal to many women,nice pics,intelligently written ,no ambiguity BUT and this is a biggie,

 

YOU ARE A  GUEST....you can't contact anyone, apart from sending a flirt.Most women are guests ,they have one message a week  to send.

You need to upgrade so that you can be proactive in your search.x Hugs H

 

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brave__heart

Spot on Hesione

Gorgeous, enticing pics. Well written, clear profile. Women tend to wait to be contacted - upgrade, start contacting, send considered/cheeky/personal messages and see what happens ;)
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MsVelvetblue

Hesione has nailed it again !!

And lil bit topped it You have great pics and a nicely written profile.... But in my opinion you aren't serious as a male if you don't upgrade your membership And (this is my again my own opinion) although you clearly state what you want/need/desire and that's perfectly fine, I for one wouldn't contact as I think what your looking for is a little unrealistic.... My impressions is that you aren't flexible and that's a quite a list for a lady to live up to ....as I said just my humble opinion, but hell what i'm looking for too is also unrealistic so what would I know !!!! I hope your enjoying Perth, its unseasonably cold but if you look out your hotel room window rite now your about to see yet another beautiful amazing sunset !!
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Bratzilla  

Woman 36yrs

Contradictory?

On the one hand, you say you're not needy or fishing, on the other hand, the last line of your OP is "How does an old fashioned country boy get noticed?" One thing I did do when looking at profiles, was check their history. Yours has one forum in it, and one alone. This one. You aren't a contributing conversationalist, you haven't put yourself out there in forumland to make buddies, you've just jumped in with "lookatme! Lookatme!" like so many other guys. Sure, you've done it a little more eloquently than most of them, and at least you bothered to fill out a profile, upload pics, and wait for them to clear before you started the thread, but really, it's effectively sprinkling a little glitter on the exact same "invitation" (lookatme!). I'm sure if you read this post objectively, you'll see the point I'm trying to make, and hopefully not just jump up and down and have a tanty about "heavy-handed critiques" :P
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MsVelvetblue

And vagabond is also rite

And just another thing ( I can see I'm bored on the train trip home...forgot to charge my Kindle :() You have a really unusual username and I'm sure there is a story there but for some it's hard to pronounce , hard to remember, and hard to spell Just a thought How's Melbourne treating you Ms Vagabond ? ...Perths not the same without you
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Hesione

I however

love your profile name.....such a change from throbber...8inches4u....biggusdidikkus...etc
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Bratzilla  

Woman 36yrs

Melbourne is very pretty, I have to give it that!

I've had many more days where I've been driving, and I've stopped at a red light, and I've looked up and gone "wow!" Green, green, grass! Trees, lights, sunrises to make an artist weep... Architecture, ponds, birds! Possums! Lol. I'd love to give you a "critique" of the nightlife, too, but my last-minute shag ended up being my follow-me-lover and I'm afraid you'll just have to come visit and find out ;)                                                  Perth doesn't get to miss me, I won't be gone long enough! :P back on topic, though... as much as it galls me to hand out "how to pimp yer own ass" fliers, you should try reading some of the other 53 gazillion forum threads *just like this one*. There, I helped :P
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Bratzilla  

Woman 36yrs

Oh and

just in case I come across as a total bitch (which, of course, I am), I agree with both comments regarding your username. Would be a bitch to remember but intriguing :) its nice to see some originality!
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brave__heart

that might be true M

Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'
Quoting 'Vagabonde'
One thing I did do when looking at profiles, was check their history. Yours has one forum in it, and one alone. This one. You aren't a contributing conversationalist, you haven't put yourself out there in forumland to make buddies, you've just jumped in with "lookatme! Lookatme!" like so many other guys.
Let me say that as a result of my forum comments, the amount of mail I have received is exponentially more, than before I became active in these discussions.
But it could just be because you're hot :)

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LittleRedEngine   Man 50yrs

As said above...

If you show the folk in these here forums how good the teeth on your horse are.  You'll get noticed.

And the people who message you, though few, will be lovely.  A sort of build it and they will come approach with some self filtering. 

All the "Time Wasters", as some people call them, are off banging out 2 liners to 25 other randoms..
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ilbisonte   Man 44yrs

you're all so right.

Thanks to you all - I'm grateful for the commentary and will make the appropriate effort/s

Incidentally "ilbisonte" means "the bison"........I used it as a moniker for no particular reason; it's the brand tucked into a corner of my briefcase - it's understated but manly - Perhaps that's what I was going for at the time - who knows.

it's been a fun exercise so far


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14D2012Cairns   Woman 38yrs

agree with comments

definately agree with the upgrading account ... have to say that when I look at a profile and it says Guest - I don't bother looking any further ....
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VivaCple   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 46yrs

sales


You need to be proactive in your approach,
send messages to people  that actually match your desires.
The content of the notes you send should explore what is advertised in your targets profile. You really need to sell yourself in a place like this. Once a dialogue starts flowing, just build on it - important to be consistent.

At first we thought, wow so many profiles to choose from, but after a while you realise they are not all for you.

Also, more often than not,  people will be busy with someone else, so keep your profile name active in their minds by sending interesting message every so often, that way when they're free they'll think of you.
If you're in here for the long haul, you'll find patience pays off well, as you get to know people you tend to be surprised by what comes your way.
Also we found chatrooms & 1 on 1 chat not too fruitful. A few messages, a phone call to verify & then actually meet up, always worked for us.

btw - helps a little if you can send messages - maybe paying up may help !




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supadooper

Thanks ilbesondte!

Thanks heaps mate!!! You have just saved me half an hour's worth of typing because I was just about to post the same question on here myself! I've been starting to think that I must look completely unattractive or retarded or something because I never get any views, winks or messages (or replies) either..and I am a paid up member who has sent quite a few messages  to girls, only to find that my messages are still unread after a few days/weeks, even though the same girls have been online everytime I've been on here..It's really starting to eat at my sense of self-worth and confidence hahaha..I would like to know what any of you lady readers on here think?
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justswingingbi   Couple Man 40yrs Woman 35yrs

As far as I can see...

There isn't a single thing wrong with your profile. ;) But as the girls above have said, being proactive is a big plus. As a couple we very rarely send messages (we too are guests) but a wink can be enough to draw a message from us. As for paying for membership, do or don't as you please, but remember it is restricting if you don't. We are fortunate to draw enough interest without paying, but a single male has an uphill battle, particularly with the "you're not serious if you don't pay" mindset.

Cheers
MrsJustswingingbi
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amuse_bouche  

Woman 23yrs

If you were only 10 years younger...

...I'd send you a message, OP :) I like your profile. Articulate, to the point, not pushy or sleazy. Photos are classy (loving the black and white), and not just chest/abs/package/penis photos like you always see floating around here.

Read profiles carefully, and structure your emails around what you've read to engage your audience. Demonstrates attention to detail, and an interest in the person themselves as opposed to just being a fleshier version of a blow up doll.

But first of all, upgrade!

Good luck :)
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Miketheduc   Man 53yrs

pursuit

Women like/love being pursued and if you aren't able to let them know you are interested in pursuing them they aren't likely to be interested in pursuing you.

Men just don't get it sometimes.

you could look like or even be Brad Pitt and I doubt you would get a look.

Good Luck

Mike

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Miketheduc   Man 53yrs

I know

Quoting 'supadooper'
Thanks heaps mate!!! You have just saved me half an hour's worth of typing because I was just about to post the same question on here myself! I've been starting to think that I must look completely unattractive or retarded or something because I never get any views, winks or messages (or replies) either..and I am a paid up member who has sent quite a few messages  to girls, only to find that my messages are still unread after a few days/weeks, even though the same girls have been online everytime I've been on here..It's really starting to eat at my sense of self-worth and confidence hahaha..I would like to know what any of you lady readers on here think?

I agree even if you send a message sometimes the woman can't even be bothered with reading it or looking at your profile.

Its a cruel world so don't let the lack of response get you down mate, there are nice women out there who aren't being bombarded with flirts/messagea and who will take the time to reply even iys in the negative.

Agaim good luck.

Mike

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supadooper

Yay!

Thanks heaps justswingingbi! I can't believe I got a response on here at last hahaha!!! I'm glad you liked my profile, but I still don't know how to be more pro-active if I can't even establish contact in the first place?? Apart from sending flirts or messages and relying on my stunning good looks (haha), the challenge for us guys just seems to be getting noticed..I don't want to spill my heart out or act like a sex starved maniac in a first message, so I suppose I'm a little bit confused as to what you girls want to hear....but then again I am a guy after all hahahahaha
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Dieselnoi  

Man 27yrs

Getting noticed

Get a sexy photo up to your main profile pic- use this as a bait to lure them into looking at your profile.

 

Become a member and get yourself verified so now that they are checking out your profile they think that you are real.

Write a well written profile information, which a lot of female here have had given you feedback already.

If you are still not getting noticed- go to date finder and express your interest for any date that macthes you, go to chatroom to meet people, comment on forums.

I think it's very much like the 'real world' where you have to do things and go to places to meet people. Here is the same, you may get lucky just having a profile and waiting for a hot lady/couple to contact you, but it will take a while.

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