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Feb 06, 2012
curious_1s   Couple Man 33yrs Woman 30yrs

I'm sure this has probably been brought up before (but I didn't fancy searching through hundreds of posts), but can anyone explain why so many couple's profiles only have pics of the female? 

 

I understand that discretion is a big part of this site for a lot of people, but at the end of the day if we were to play with another couple, we would want to know what everyone involved in meeting up would look like.  Even in some private galleries there are often just pics of the females so only half of the story is being told...

 

 

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timandjane  

Couple Man 34yrs Woman 34yrs

1/2 a couple

I think we posted a thread about this some some time ago.

Not always but I would say 90%  of the time its because the Male 1/2 is using his female partner as bait. She is usually the atractive one and you get the not so attractive male thrown in.

Jane gets frustrated with this kind of profile because like you say. They are not presenting them self as a complete couple. It's a shame you then have ask them for a pic of the male. Usually when or if you get to see a pic you can then understand why they didn't put one up.

The hard thing is if you send a message to a couples profile with only female pics. You get there PG back with pics of the male who isn't what you are looking for. It would have been so much easier if they just had some kind of pic of the male on there public profile as it would have saved you sending the message in the first place.

There are plenty of couples out there with pics of the male and female in there profiles. We find they are more likely to be the genuine couples to.

In the end the classic female only profile pic's is just part of RHP and most likely not going to change in a hurry.

Tim



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rockercouple80  

Couple Man 32yrs Woman 23yrs

..

Put simply, the male half is generally ugly :)

We have the rule, it's both or neither. Show your pics. Be proud of who you are. Hiding behind a girl until she snares a couple for you, aint ever going to work.


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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

lol

yes....both please people....we have the 2 of us..and alternate profile main pics....... its hard enough making a decision one way or the other without half the couple hiding themselves.......
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DeliciousCplBris   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 41yrs

But

My guy won't let me post pics as he thinks he looks better in real life :) He is hot though, so I  convinced him to put them in the private gallery This thing ( swinging) is more me than him, he goes along for the ride ( and loves it , but could live without it ) Long term marriage 21 years, been swinging the entire time ( we just used to call it , oops we fucked our friends last night ) I get that it's frustrating , it annoys me too !
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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

Private Gallery

There's a pic of Mr E in PG 1 and 2. and he's not ugly (generally or not). You people - Yeesh!
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lmfao12   Man 25yrs

Couples pics

Why not get some professional pics taken of you both! DeliciousCplBris??? I'm sure you'll both look fantastic and you'll keep the pics for years after!
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MistressT   Woman 45yrs

You may have something there.....

Of all the couples who have commented on your post so far only one couple have their couples pic as their profile pic.....the rest have the female half......hmmmm.
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

lol MitressT

but we alternate our pics....and there has been one of me in the public gallery...always my face by the way..... since we first posted photos onto our profile....... one or the other is usually holding the camera.... makes it hard for both to be 'in frame'......mike.
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Eu_Amo_A_Lamber   Couple Man 28yrs Woman 27yrs

Same here..

Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris'
My guy won't let me post pics as he thinks he looks better in real life :) He is hot though, so I  convinced him to put them in the private gallery This thing ( swinging) is more me than him, he goes along for the ride ( and loves it , but could live without it ) Long term marriage 21 years, been swinging the entire time ( we just used to call it , oops we fucked our friends last night ) I get that it's frustrating , it annoys me too !

 

Haha! Tell him to stop being such a girl!

 

We're mainly here for myself (female) as well, but even though I have no desire to play with the male half of couples, I still have to find them desirable.. I believe honesty is the best policy and saves alot of time and disappointment.. I know discretion is very important, but faces can be cropped and distinguishing body features photo-shopped out (I personally have a very distinct tatoo and a few moles I edit from all my photos for this reason).

 

 

 

We, like most of the other posters here, have pics of both of us, together and solo, in our Public and Private Gallery.

 

We, like most of the other posters here, have been 'sucked in' by profiles with spanking hot bi chicks hiding behind partners who've let themselves go (some to the point, you could almost swear it was her dad!).

 

Some experiences we've had so far..

 

When we first joined (all of 2mths ago), we had a (verified) couple initiate contact with us - Heaps of hot pics of her in the Public Gallery (no face shots though), but when asked for their PG, they managed to keep "accidently" forgetting to unlock it for us (like, really? Is it that hard to check a box?). I was in contact with her via SMS and she kept pushing a meeting, which I kept putting off while politely asking for PG access/face pics. Eventually, I received a few face shots of her in a MMS, but still iterated we needed to see both halves of the couple before setting up a meeting. After realising I wasn't willing to bend on the matter, they stopped contacting us.. She either thought I was after her man, or he was a horror! :D

 

On the other hand, another (verified) couple flirted us recently (the only public pic was an arse shot of her), we replied via message with our PG attached, and got theirs back, only to find it filled with cock shots and sleazy photos of him smoking and drinking pre-mix bourbon.. Needless to say, they were not on the top of my to-do list!

 

A couple we met at a RHP event, I'd originally over-looked because there were no pics of him in their Pubilc Gallery, and was trying to save myself the effort of typing out a "Thanks, but no thanks".. Turns out he's quite fine!

 

The only couple we've met directly from RHP had both the male and female in their profile photo.

 

The synopsis?

 

RHP boys need to starting being brave and baring their smexy bodies for us! :P

 

Go on girls, strip him down, get him all hot , bothered and oiled up and show off your sexy man!! (Or work out where the timer is on your camera and have some fun with him! Me and my boy love our photoshoot shags :D )

 

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jennylee1903   Woman 45yrs

What gets up my nose,.....

.....is when a female profile is for a couple. You read through the profile and eventually get to the part that says that 'she'is searching for a girl to share with her partner.

Now please don't think me hypocritical as I too have listed that I prefer my hubby present when I'm playing with couples. My primary purpose for opening a profile on RHP was to find other bisexua ladiesl and/or lesbians to play with one on one. The ladies I'm complaining about are the ones who have no intention of ever playing without their partner. For heaven's sake, please take out a couple's profile.

As for the absent males in the galleries of couples profiles, you can always ask for a piccie to be emailed. Hubby and I met with a couple who were not showing him in the profile because he felt vulnerable because of his work but he was a nice looking man and we had fun. I guess some people have their reasons for keeping their images private until further along in the proceedings.

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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

Nice Observation there

Mistress, my butt ain't half as nice as Mrs E. Lol.
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we_want_to  

Couple Man 41yrs Woman 40yrs

We get it, but there not coming home with us.

That is, we get why some people are very shy about having their pictures in profiles if there is some very sensitive issue to do with their particular employment.  But that does not explain why there can't be at least a tastefull body shot in the public gallery with any particularly identifying features obscured.  Something that at least gives you some measure of whether they have any physical characteristics that you are going to find either attractive or repulsive according to your personal tastes before you go too far into the process.

 

We all know that personality is the final measure with attraction, but it takes a pretty outstanding personality to get you past the gnarly looking 16 stone bloke with only a couple of teeth and where the only six pack he has ever heard of are the ones of EB he is holding under each arm (yes its an extreme example, but you know what we mean).

 

In our case Mrs definitely wants to know that she is not in for a meet where she is going to have to turn down in person someone with who she was never likely to have a basic starting point for physical attraction in the first place.  So regardless of how they are provided we just will not agree to meet anyone unless we have had pictures first as part of the initial online interview process.  And it is extremely unlikely that we will ever get to the point of asking for photos or engaging in the initial interview process unless there is at least something of each of them in the public gallery to give us a taste of what they might be like to tempt us.

 

  The assumption therefore is : Nothing of him in the public gallery= asume he is physically unattractive= move along (which is a shame because the lone girl was just gorgeous)

P & N xx

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Mr_MrsJones   Couple Man 46yrs Woman 39yrs

Don't you hate it when

Recently we were flirted by a couple who made a big point in their profile that they would not consider anyone who approached them who DIDN'T have pics in their profile. Now they didn't say specifically that there had to be both male and female photos but I felt it was firmly implied.

 

What got up my nose was that these same people had ONE photo in their public gallery. A very hard to make out because the room was quite dark photo I think of a naked woman.

 

Now we have a picture of both of us as our front picture and our public gallery has a good selection of photos of both of us. Personally I think it is just rude to not have a photo of both of you and as a rule will pass over people who don't. I get the need for discretion but FFS there are ways of taking your face and any distinguishing tattoos etc out of a photo.

 

Otherwise I will assume the absent partner is either butt ugly, not on board or non existant.

 

Mrs Jones

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Ice_Fire   Couple Man 39yrs Woman 35yrs

they also pose as singles

then of course there are the single woman's profiles that as you read down you find she is looking for a 'sexy lady to share with her man" OK so where is the man?? do you think you are going to get a lady to show up to play with you and just let him join in?? i would think that is unlikely.

The ones with pics of just one really annoy me and it isn't restricted to pics just of the girl we have come across a couple of profiles now where there are pics of just him, when you read the profile she lists herself as "ample" or "Large" so that tells me that she is not comfortable with her size/look which in itself is a 'no' from us, sexy is about your attitude not your age/size etc.

For us the rules of profile browsing are simple:
No Pics at all = No
pics of only one 1/2 of couple = No
lots of "ask me" = No

Of course there are other criteria we consider as well and we probably are limiting our options a bit but seeing as we are after quality and not quantity that is just fine with us.

I do find it interesting too that each time this comes up as a topic we rarely (if ever) hear the point of view of couples pics of just one 1/2 of the couple so it would be a refreshing change if we get their point of view, come on guys, don't be shy we are all friends in the forums

Mrs

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AdventureTime   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 40yrs

yep

sadly we have to agree..

when the pics are blurry and a long way away, or the guy/girl is missing...we hope they are just shy.

However over and over we get proved wrong.

 

We also have up front pics. Then if one of us is not your cup o tea..you dont waste your time messaging

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jokerza   Man 25yrs

agreed


Quoting 'timandjane'
    I think we posted a thread about this some some time ago.

Not always but I would say 90%  of the time its because the Male 1/2 is using his female partner as bait. She is usually the atractive one and you get the not so attractive male thrown in.

Jane gets frustrated with this kind of profile because like you say. They are not presenting them self as a complete couple. It's a shame you then have ask them for a pic of the male. Usually when or if you get to see a pic you can then understand why they didn't put one up.

The hard thing is if you send a message to a couples profile with only female pics. You get there PG back with pics of the male who isn't what you are looking for. It would have been so much easier if they just had some kind of pic of the male on there public profile as it would have saved you sending the message in the first place.

There are plenty of couples out there with pics of the male and female in there profiles. We find they are more likely to be the genuine couples to.

In the end the classic female only profile pic's is just part of RHP and most likely not going to change in a hurry.

Tim


Totally agree with everything you said

   

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jokerza   Man 25yrs

agreed


Quoting 'MistressT'
    Of all the couples who have commented on your post so far only one couple have their couples pic as their profile pic.....the rest have the female half......hmmmm.    

Ha HA ha so true.....
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

jokerza

every time a person changes their profile pic...it changes the pic thats displayed on all their forum posts.... thats every single post they ever contributed . so its follows logically that the pic that mightve been showing when the conversation began...... might not be the ones that are seen when the conversation ends....ours change regularly, but its my face pic thats been shown the most, these past few months.......... Mike. (our pics are mainly of Shel...but we feel thats fine....shes the pretty one, and isnt it plain good sense to offer up the best pics you have, regardless of who the subject is?) heres a message we received just this week...and we dont really know whether to be insulted, or amused......Hey mike I say this respectfully: With that stunning women you have as a partner and those sexy pics of her - why don't you have one of those shots as your main one rather then your rough head?

so who do we please? and how do we do this....so those who disagree, dont feel left out? we alternate our pics.....and attempt to let people see both of us.......

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DonnaBrett   Couple Man 50yrs Woman 44yrs

Always

We always have clear facial pics of both of us in our public gallery..we change the main pic around at times, sometimes only featuring one face but BOTH of us are always viewable to browsers. We so hate having to ask for facial pics...if you contact us..make sure your facial pics come with that initial message.
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mmfcouplefun   Couple Man 52yrs Woman 39yrs

Private and discreet.

We are both shown in our pics but there are more photos of her than him and to be honest they probably don't show too much. After reading some of the answers here we should update some of the pictures to give a better indication of who we are 9but still without faces!). We do not and will not show faces on the site, BUT we will happily email them to genuinely interested couples after contact. We would never expect another couple to meet us without having some idea of who we were so that they can make a conscious choice. Some people (such as us) just like to remain quite 'private' whilst others are happy to share their pics with the world and then there are many in between. Whilst some men not shown in pics may well be 'ugly' in the eyes of others we think it is unfair to generalise and make that assumption based solely on the lack of a photo. To add further to that we have spoken to or met many men who are very physically attractive but are 'ugly' people! There are many couples that simply prefer to remain very private and discreet for many and various reasons. We do understand and respect the opinions of couples such as DonnaBrett who see the lack of face pics as a deal breaker and that may mean that we miss out on meeting some really great people but for us it is important. We are all different!

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