It happened to us three times in our first 6 weeks on RHP and it did freak us out a bit initially. People from work, freinds of freinds from mum's group, and that hottie from aerobics.
Once that intitial awkward moment has passed it is just not a big deal to discover that we happen to have one more interest in common. It is actually a bit of a laugh, and nice to know that you are not the only people from your own "real world" who might like a bit of extra fun and adventure in life.
If it was your immediate boss, or someone who worked for you, then plainly it could get a little bit more complicated, but only if one of you was a complete idiot (always a possibility). If it was someone that we had to work with then we certainly wouldn't over complicate that by actually playing with them. But if you, and they, have any respect at all for peoples privacy then it is in everyone's interest for the knowledge just become your unspoken, shared secret. Our experience so far is that this actually works perfectly well and their is no need for anyone to feel uncomfortable in the slightest.
For us it is a case of "what goes on tour stays on tour". We are certainly not going to either judge or reveal others that are here because that is their business, they have a right to privacy, and it has nothing to do with the world outside.
Big Kiss xxx
After happenning 3 times in 6 weeks maybe you should look at doing a little more homework before meeting people .A few well chosen questions during a msn chat , swapping face pics etc may save you an extremely embarrassing situation .
And before everyone trots out the usual " dont worry ,your both in the same situation " that isnt always the case .
Mr and Mrs Swingnew .
If we had been out doing random blind dates then we would only have ourselves to blame, but in our case Rockercouple has read our meaning more correctly.
We have never gone on a blind date, and so in each case we recognised the people from their messages and photos. In one case we met them socialy anyway which was really lovely, and another we later ran into at a meet and greet anyway. In all three instances we realised the connection first and could have run away to hide ourselves, but as a matter of principle we were honest with them about recognising them from elsewhere in our lives.
If we were so completely ashamed or terrified of the possibility that we might be recognised by people we know then we simply would not have ever come to be here. But we have been big kids for a while now, and we don't plan on spending our lives hiding away in fear, so as a couple we are prepared to take responsibility for our choices.
There are plainly people who might react poorly to our choice to be here, or be embarrassed or uncomfortable about our private choices, and so we choose to not broadcast our hobbies to the world at large. That is why we use RHP to find like minded people and we choose to keep our face photos in a private gallery and only give them to people who tick our boxes in other areas and that we would actually like to meet. But we are not ashamed of what we do together as a couple and we certainly don't bother trying to hide from the truth of it.
Our experience is that everyone we have met on RHP have been nice decent and honourable people who have remarkably similar outlooks on life, but perhaps that is because we are a bit carefull about who we choose to meet. That does not mean that we wanted to play with everyone we met as that ends up coming down to real life chemistry once you actually meet and that is an unpredictable thing.
Some people are more protective of their identities and some people are less protective as is their own choice and right. As a result of carefull selection everyone we have met has actually been pretty much in the same situation as us and we have had no problems relying on their discretion in the same way that they need never be concerned about relying on our discretion.
So Swingnew is correct and does give good advice. Read the profiles carefully, swap pictures, swap messages, and choose people who are similar to you in terms of where they are coming from and what they are looking for. And if in the process you come across people you already know don't make a big deal of it, say hi, tell them you are having fun and that you hope they are to, and move forward. It should be reassuring for everyone to discover that you are like minded and there should be no need to be embarrassed.
Huggs to you all xx