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Jul 01, 2012
BellaRH  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 38yrs
We were wondering how many couples actually dont swap partners,or are we one of the rare couples that actually do not swap?
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SunnyCoastGeek   Man 30yrs

Used To (or rather, never used to :P)

When we were starting out - we agreed not to do a full swap.  Rules were simply swap for foreplay but not for intercourse.  I guess we kind of grew out of that stage and become more comfortable with the idea of the full partner swap. 

Although we do prefer the same room/bed while this happens - the show is much better that way!
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cutecouples4us   Couple Man 44yrs Woman 43yrs

There are heaps just like you guys..

There are quite a few couples just like yourselves who don't do the swap bit, more so than you'd imagine.

"Each to their own", will say that again so as not to easily offend anyone who chooses not to read it the first time..
"Each to their own"

We find there are a LOT of couples who for whatever reason DON'T swap as SOME are a little insecure about seeing their female partner with say another male for instance and merely get off watching their lady with another female.
In 99% of these cases the male is NOT BI OR BI CURIOUS which is quite fine.  It does smack of a little selfish
"IF"  "IF"  "IF" the reason they "dont" swap is because the woman gets jealous seeing their male with another female but it's perfectly fine for her to play with another female but he is not allowed to touch her......

Whether your "female" partner plays with another male or female, one half of the couple has "swapped" and the other simply gets to observe...
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WHY_NOT_LOOK   Woman 40yrs

not to swap

There is alot that dont swap hard to find thou.

Im more into the watching and teasing would have loved to do this more with my ex but he always thought you had to swap, id be keen to do this with single guys and another couple as well.... its all visual for me love it and its such a turn on you cant wait to grab your partner

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jensman1903   Man 50yrs

I don't place any rules or restrictions on Jennylee.

I don't believe that choosing to spend your life with someone gives you ownership of that person. The only rule she has is that we play together. (The exception to this rule is when she is having a meet with a bisexual or lesbian lady and men are not welcome). I never play without her, full-stop.
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BellaRH  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 38yrs

over the top


Quoting 'jensman1903'
    I don't believe that choosing to spend your life with someone gives you ownership of that person. The only rule she has is that we play together. (The exception to this rule is when she is having a meet with a bisexual or lesbian lady and men are not welcome). I never play without her, full-stop.    
We  dont see how you came up with the conclusion of < ownership of that person >?Has nothing to do with ownership of a person.It is more about our boundaries and what we desire nothing more.
Why Not Look, put it together in such a lovely way.
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tassiefuncpl   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 39yrs

Partner Swapping

Quoting 'WHY_NOT_LOOK'

There is alot that dont swap hard to find thou.

Im more into the watching and teasing would have loved to do this more with my ex but he always thought you had to swap, id be keen to do this with single guys and another couple as well.... its all visual for me love it and its such a turn on you cant wait to grab your partner

We are fairly new to the whole scene and still concidering to full swp or not to full swap question...lol I do agree that the tease and watching can be just as exciting. Right now I'm more comfortable with not full swapping and either way, you are not alone in wanting to share some of your sexual experiences but not a whole full swap. It's all about respect after all and if thats how you guys choose to play then that should be respected :)
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VivaCple   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 46yrs

Question ?

So when we talk about swapping, what do we actually mean?

We often read profiles stating:

-  foreplay only, no swapping ?

- same room sex, no swapping ?

- we will only ‘soft swap’ & want a well hung guy?  (what will they do with that big cock anyway)

- girls play, guys watch, but we don't swap partners ? So what do the guys do while the girls have swapped, have a wank?

- guys play, girls watch, still searching for this profile.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK   Woman 40yrs

EX

Yes after my EX asked and asked over a year i agree to start swinging, thou things were ok  as he keep asking people over, our marriage was over before i said yes really but after a while i ended it... thats when hes real feeling came out with i cant believe you did that and enjoy it farkkkk... thats why now!! I say just be straight up be honest in what you want no point in lying or trying something just to please someone else it never works. Id say just take your time keep talking about what your ok with and whats a no go. You will know when its right or not.... i knew it wasnt for us so i should have stuck with my gut feelings. Good luck this is all meant to be fun and a great experiance dont ever stress over it xx
Quoting 'tassiefuncpl'
Quoting 'WHY_NOT_LOOK'

There is alot that dont swap hard to find thou.

Im more into the watching and teasing would have loved to do this more with my ex but he always thought you had to swap, id be keen to do this with single guys and another couple as well.... its all visual for me love it and its such a turn on you cant wait to grab your partner

We are fairly new to the whole scene and still concidering to full swp or not to full swap question...lol I do agree that the tease and watching can be just as exciting. Right now I'm more comfortable with not full swapping and either way, you are not alone in wanting to share some of your sexual experiences but not a whole full swap. It's all about respect after all and if thats how you guys choose to play then that should be respected :)

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cutecouples4us   Couple Man 44yrs Woman 43yrs

yummy

The most fun we ever had with another couple, absolutely no sex whatsoever took place between couples.

Picture this:

Both couples dancing and flirting quite openly at a popular well known irish nightclub in essendon.  Both couples were openly switching partners to dance , kissing and flirting very provocatively.  The surrounding crowd looking at all four of us like stunned mullets, no-one knew who was with who hehe.. 

Single women eventually worked it out what was going on and flocked around all four of us like proverbial bees to honey, yes, we were the royal jelly with an irish twist and quite far from Dublin.....

The whole night still remains "the buzz" we hope to match, the devious looks in one another's eyes, that freedon given one another to enjoy to the max but always knowing the other gladly watched on with excitement........  Yummy, yummy night..
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cutecouples4us   Couple Man 44yrs Woman 43yrs

hehe

Quoting 'VivaCple'
   
- girls play, guys watch, but we don't swap partners ? So what do the guys do while the girls have swapped, have a wank?

- guys play, girls watch, still searching for this profile.

Good luck finding that profile, think it's rarer than what we seek so for us, all is not lost !!


   

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Futurenomads   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 41yrs

swapping

We know there are heaps of couples out there in both camps, it just comes down to reading profiles and everyone being honest in what they say in their profiles.

Then go out and get what we want.

The reasons why, we think what both cutecouples4us and vivacple are both very true.

 

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rnk420   Couple Man 25yrs Woman 22yrs

our 2c

we are another couple only interested in allowing another female(s) into the mix
this was both our decision when we decided to explore this side of our sexuality together. Was originally suggested by the gf, and we both decided no men pretty quickly, which i guess eliminates most partner swapping.

hard to find those sexy single ladies

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Mr_MrsJones   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 40yrs

What I think.

Now I am HUGE believer in each to their own and I have the utmost respect for other people's rules and boundaries. If they say no kissing then it is no kissing. If they say no swapping then no swapping it is what ever that entails. As long as they respect my feelings and boundaries. AND both partners respect their own rules.

 

There is nothing more frustrating that being in a MFMF where the rule is swap for foreplay only when the male makes it abundantly clear that he would do more if she would just let him and tries to sneakly break the rule

 

"Ooops oh dear it just slipped in. I am sorry hunni."

 

The other observation I will make is that couples who seem to have lots of rules also seem to have lots of baggage. Now for us swinging is about minimisation. Minimisation of clothing, minimisation of stress and minimisation of issues. If you can't leave your issues at home you are not the people for us.

 

Mrs Jones

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Mr_MrsJones   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 40yrs

What I think.

Now I am HUGE believer in each to their own and I have the utmost respect for other people's rules and boundaries. If they say no kissing then it is no kissing. If they say no swapping then no swapping it is what ever that entails. As long as they respect my feelings and boundaries. AND both partners respect their own rules.

 

There is nothing more frustrating that being in a MFMF where the rule is swap for foreplay only when the male makes it abundantly clear that he would do more if she would just let him and tries to sneakly break the rule

 

"Ooops oh dear it just slipped in. I am sorry hunni."

 

The other observation I will make is that couples who seem to have lots of rules also seem to have lots of baggage. Now for us swinging is about minimisation. Minimisation of clothing, minimisation of stress and minimisation of issues. If you can't leave your issues at home you are not the people for us.

 

Mrs Jones

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