There is alot that dont swap hard to find thou.
Im more into the watching and teasing would have loved to do this more with my ex but he always thought you had to swap, id be keen to do this with single guys and another couple as well.... its all visual for me love it and its such a turn on you cant wait to grab your partner
We know there are heaps of couples out there in both camps, it just comes down to reading profiles and everyone being honest in what they say in their profiles.
Then go out and get what we want.
The reasons why, we think what both cutecouples4us and vivacple are both very true.
Now I am HUGE believer in each to their own and I have the utmost respect for other people's rules and boundaries. If they say no kissing then it is no kissing. If they say no swapping then no swapping it is what ever that entails. As long as they respect my feelings and boundaries. AND both partners respect their own rules.
There is nothing more frustrating that being in a MFMF where the rule is swap for foreplay only when the male makes it abundantly clear that he would do more if she would just let him and tries to sneakly break the rule
"Ooops oh dear it just slipped in. I am sorry hunni."
The other observation I will make is that couples who seem to have lots of rules also seem to have lots of baggage. Now for us swinging is about minimisation. Minimisation of clothing, minimisation of stress and minimisation of issues. If you can't leave your issues at home you are not the people for us.