Dude. Pandora's box is open. Some of the things I've seen cannot be removed by burning out my eyes. I am forever tainted. My innocence has been expunged. I came to this conclusion recently while pissing on someone. There simply is no going back now. However, we all still have choices. We can choose to be monogamous. Sure rooting a variety of people is entertaining and sometimes rewarding, and occasionally very good for one's ego, and it's not so difficult to do either, but sometimes facing difficulty makes us happier people. What's the reward in rooting all these women? Will you be happier, or will it make no difference? What's the reward in not rooting all these women? Which option, long term, will make you happier? You will notice that I am taking a selfish perspective here.... the question that each of us has to ask, is what will make ME happier.... Sometimes short term gains are just what you need, but for the most part, its the long term gains that give you a better sense of self... a foreseeable future, rather than a day in, day out routine, where your only thought is where will I get my next fuck.

These kinds of considerations are maybe not meant for you... but your question is a reasonable one for each of us to ask ourselves.

HUgs
Gaz

QUOTE: Could I ever be in a normal, non multiple partner relationship.' and i would always waver and say, 'probably, one day' but confronted again with 'foregoing all others' is a hard pill to swallow"...UNQUOTE

 

When you stumble across the riter partner to journey on with...then this will be a given...you will just know and so will she..and hopefully you can explore all the possibilities out there....TOGETHER..but meanwhile enjoy all that the journey has to offer you as a solo traveler......the  view can be pretty awesome when your on your own...no distractions by anyone constantly asking "" Äre we there yet ? Äre we there yet ?"

i started to read it and then i got Bored

 

so go with blue chip shares and sell the pool table if you dont use it at least once a week ..Invest Cautiously

 

And as for the  hair cut  it only looks wrong at first ..Sorry  hoped that helped

Stalky, your post, copied below, is my fave ever post. It takes a lot of life experience and a lot of depth of character to provide that kind of answer. It was a pleasure to read, thanks for posting.

...but after all the evil was let loose the only thing left inside it was hope. And now that you're feeling all warm and fuzzy try to remember that sex is not a relationship, it's just a part of one. All be it a really important, fun, physical, squelchy part...

 

 

If the relationship is over I don't see why you can't continue to see others. Seems a waste to me but it's only for a month. One day you may meet a lady who overwhelms your senses to the point where you lose the desire to be with anyone else and she is the same with you. Or you could meet your soulmate who has the same interest in seeing others and you are happy together. Or you just may stay single, play the field and have a damn good time doing it. Relax, have fun and don't worry what others think. They're probably just jealous anyway.

OK so you say that it is an amicable split and basically you are only still living together until your lease is up, question, are you two still sleeping together??? your relationship status on your profile says single?????

If you are truly broken up and it is all over then i dont see what right she has to make demands on you in terms of who you see/sleep with after all come the end of the lease you are going your separate ways and you can see whomever you wish. Having said that if you still care for her (even as friends) I guess it is considerate to respect her wishes and not flaunt it around in her face but really it is not cheating on her if your relationship is over (see my confusion here?)

As for your question "Could I ever be in a normal, non multiple partner relationship" I think that will depend on who you end up with, for all you know the next lady you meet might be just as into an open relationship as you are and it might all work out rosy, however as the wise stalky pointed out there really is no going back sometimes. When my husband and I came on here over 2 years ago we thought we would 'give it a go' but never really thought it would be something long term now we can't really imagine not!! we have met some of the nicest people, experienced some of the best sex (not just with others but with each other as well)and generally have had a blast for us I don't think we could ever go back but also having said that I can't predict the future (crystal ball is broken ) and if the day comes where we are at risk of our relationship being threatened then absolutely we would walk away and go back to being exclusive.

At the end of the day you need to decide for yourself what is going to make you happy and search for that, if being with just one person is not part of that then look for someone to share, you wouldn't be the first person to find someone like that here

Good Luck
WBYM

Stalky - I never got the the rooting a goat picture, on google images. I actually read abut him and thought it was a cool name. But as he roots goats, I'll have to change some of my fantasy settings :P I would insert the sound of a worried goat, but not sure what that sound, sounds like. Berrrrr...

People who make demands of their partners and friends do so out of insecurity i think?

It seems odd that she suddenly wants to make demands when a break-up is in the offing.  Was it you that initiated the breakup?

As for the manogomy thing.  I really don't think there is a general rule here.  I've never swung, but some of my past partners I could have imagined being in a polygamous relationship with, other's no way.  Interestingly I think the former applies to the Women I felt most connected with.  Strange that?

Couldn't agree more Angelic :) Makes me wish there was a *like* button.

actually I've wanted to thumbs up quite a few posts here.  that would be a great addition RHP coders??

So her libido is dead as she bluntly told you.  Dead because of her upcoming move.  Dead with you.  Dead because she's on medication.  Dead because she's carrying another mans child.  Dead 'cos she's bored.  For whatever reason.  Dead.  And yet she wishes for you to be monogamous when all you're doing is sharing a piece of furniture ( the bed ) and the rest of the household items before you move out.

I had to meet you here today, there's just so many things to say. Please don't stop me till I'm through. This is something I have to do.

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We been meeting here so long, guess what we done...oh so wrong. Understand me, won't you try..

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Lets just kiss and say goodbye

(you mean like this?) lol

Priopus, you need a holiday. There's this great little spot in Sydney called Aarows where I'm sure I can pursuade you to give up your overtly promiscuous ways, if not, then embrace the slut within. A weekend at Aarows with Stalky. lmfao. That's the ticket big guy. Bring the little lady and we can group hug on completion of the stalky cognitive therapy program. You get a certificate on completion and a year's supply of rawliegh's man and beast. :) Hugs Gaz

I was walking down the aisle in my white dress with everyone watching me. I saw Mr Jones waiting for me and I thought. Fuck I will NEVER have sex with anyone else for the rest of my life! Of course I didn't run away (although I did give it serious consideration.)

 

Many times during our marraige I told him that I wouldn't be stressed if he went out and fucked someone else because I knew he would come home to me. How I knew this I don't know, I just did. I never seriously considered another partner except for once much later in the piece and that oddly enough was one of the catalysts for us ending up here!!

 

I guess on some level we were always headed towards non-monogamy because we both believed in it. However it wasn't a condition of the marraige if that makes sense. Our focus was finding the right person and then having a great sex life. I am thinking if sex is is the number one consideration in your relationship then you might need to have a look at your priorities. Sex is fun, a marraige without sex is very bad but if everything in the marraige is dictated by sex then the marraige is definitely not healthy.

 

 

just dont settle for a Muggle partner..

:)

seriously, why commit BOTH of you to 1 partner , when you know sharing is so much more fun?

lifes too short for boring

Find someone on the same PATH...not behind you

B

That your partner would come on here and give her side of the story....You are not painting her in a good light and she is a wonderful caring person with a heart of gold!!

xFunlovingx

True we only have one side of the story and that side in itself is a little hard to follow. I am a firm believer in the fact that there are 3 sides to every story, his, hers and the truth!!

It is always sad when relationships break up and things can get ugly but I for one never really thought he deliberately bagged her or made her sound bad i think that we just perhaps didn't think about the flip side to the story, for said lady involved i am sorry.

Stalky i'm happy to let my beautiful loving wonderful caring, heart of gold lady friend know of your invite.  You've got our number (seriously we don't have yours) :P