I'm a married Guy. My wife and I have spoken, and come to an arrangement. I've been open and honest to both my wife, and on my RHP profile. I also consider myself to be I kind, resectful guy. How many replies have I had? how many females in a similar situation have contacted me? The answer is none. I can see why guys lie to women. Unfortunately, it seems, for me, I won't do that. The downside is that I might as well not have a profile on here. Ladies, there are guys out there that are not wishing to cause you grief. I guess the bad ones make it even more difficult for us.......

As a dominatrix I have dealt with heaps of married men. What we do together is sexual but not straight sex. Most of them have a strong urge to be submissive to a female but their wives are unable to satisfy them in that capacity. They get nothing from me that they can get at home. Am I cheating with married men? Or am I providing a service? I don't know. But when they stop begging me to spank them and whip them I will probably have my answer.

ok , this is a hard one to reply to , but ,,, my first husband thought it would be a good idea to screw around on me , so i did the screwing in the divorce ,,, thus the THREE FOLD , but he knew i was bi , and should of asked me if we could get a 3rd in , his bad i guess,,

i dont think that women loose their sex drive , its just we have been multi tasking for so long and making sure the family unit is held together and happy that , we just dont feel attractive anymore , mmmm,,,

i would suggest pamper your wife with the intent of NO SEX  , dinner out , or a day spa , show her DONT tell her she is beautiful ,,,,

try and go back to when it was hot beteen you both and go from there ,,,,,,

Three words bud!

The Mistress Law!

is only a bad thing if your not respectful to your partner, getting caught is not respectful, apart from that I can't see how people who are lucky enough to swing honestly with their partners feel the need to moralise about those who can't

and are useless for my kind of play that takes open n honest trustfull communication. I have no comment what choices others make 'choose your guilt choose your poison' I say.  I can choose mutual for my own desires and do.  We are just not mutual is all so i hope i dont desire you.

 

 

Why is it that when a woman wont put out in a marriage EVERYONE makes excuses for what the man should do.
DOnt cheat or we will judge, deny yourself the pleasure of feeling passion and lovemaking in place of using your own hand in the bathroom like a 12year old discovering puberty, seek counselling or live with it! WHat is that!
Lets change the scenario slightly a couple get married both employed, buy a house and the husband decides to no longer contribute ANY of his finances because he doesnt feel like it. Is this acceptable? do we tell the wife to get a second job, sell her goods, go without? what about if they have children and he decides he wants nothing to do with them do we say to her suck it up do it all yourself ? GOd its like the toilet seat scenario....why do men have to put it down , why dont women have to put it up?
Women take vows too but then can choose which to disregard but a man must obey all? I feel embarrased as a woman by these double standards and some of the posts that say we are the weaker sex thats bullshit....its a choice.
HOw can anyone judge anyone else? on anything, i find its often the ones who abuse their spouse, steal from their work, neglect their children, decieve their family that judge the most so dont take it on board just realise they generally have something worse going on they choose to judge because they're uncomfortable about their own misdemeanours lol
the funniest part in all of this is how many of those who judge have probably been with someone married or taken and dont know it, can we judge them I mean ignorance is no defence

are some of you people for real??????????
 what woman wants to wake up finding out her husband has been paying for sex behind her back
i can just see the headlines now---------------------------
listen love,have you got enough money and on your way out could you take out the rubbish oh and grab some milk on the way home ,,,you have a good time now
by the way give us a kiss when you get home and wake me and i  will  put your tea on,,,,,,
and that's acceptable ladies?????????
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an i thought some of my shit was funny
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ribs starting to hurt,,, laughing too much

Married men one side, married women the other... Singles in the middle....... Ready set ... GO!

 

This topic sounds like a typical conversation at the head shrink's office...

 

I believe that unless compromises are made with intimacy, love and sex in a relationship, then cheating occurs. Neither my former wife of 13 years and I strayed during that time, but I believe her failure to satisfy me sexually, and to turn off the "tap" from almost day one... to be the biggest treason of all... but then again.... perhaps the perfect husband would have done all the right things to avoid/rectify the situation.

 

Life is hard... way too short to judge and moralise. get on with it. do what you believe is right and proper and let go of guilt and regret. it's the only way forward - we all have different morals and beliefs. Find someone similar to yours and enjoy while it lasts. when it's over - have the guts to let go and move on.

 

My 50cents worth.... be kind!!!

Not everyone has a perfect life. Before you condemn others, ask yourself, if your wife or husband had an accident, illness or injury that prevented them from having sex, would you leave an otherwise good relationship?

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If they could not hear, would you no longer listen to music ?

If they were paralysed, would you no longer walk or run ?

If they were blind, would you no longer look at paintings ?

If they were bed-ridden, would you no longer go outside?

If they could not have sex, would you lead a life of celibacy?

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I never thought I would end up in this situation, and I hope it never happens to you, but before you respond stop and think, if something happened to your partner what would you do?

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I think those that love someone that can no longer have sex, but stay with them and support them should be accepted by an open-minded community such as RHP not criticised. If this is not the case, perhaps these members of our society deserve their own on-line community where they can share their burdens, desires and beliefs without fear of criticism from those RHP members who have been more fortunate in life.

I am in a relationship, and yes while some of the comments i agree with, there is a few that i dont, i have an open relatioship, where my partner is able to play freely also.

we also play as a couple, we have  found for us that it does provide a better sex life, as we cant speak for others we wont. but to call married attatched me scum is going a bit far, i feel, as there are just as many fems on here that cheat on thier partners, are they scum also?

we have found for us the key is communication, honesty and above all no secrets, from either side

I think it sucks for you that your wife &amp; best friend is so closed off to your needs that she won't let you get some physical satisfaction outside of the relationship.

I don't understand why sex is seen as this holy sacred thing that can only happen between two people who love each other.  I mean, sure, it's great when that happens, but what about the other times when wanking just isn't enough?

I look for unattached men because I don't want to be party to another person being hurt - and by the sounds of it, your wife would be greatly hurt if you strayed.

Unfortunately your options are kind of limited.  Personally, to ensure discretion,  I'd go visit a brothel for when wanking isn't enough if I was in your situation.

Good luck.

Relatively new to RHP and have been reading the above posts with some interest...

I am married yes, don't pretend to be nothing else, my profile is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, i make it clear why i am here and what i am looking for.

This is an adult site where consenting adults seek out relationships, friendships, sex or a chat over coffee. I don't feel that i have to explain or justify to anyone why i am on here, the exception being my wife if my RHP secret is dicovered. I know full well what i am doing and the risks i am taking. In saying that i have found in my considered searching a diverse range of people who seem more than willing to chat and meet with me. It's not just married men on RHP,  i have found more than a few married, attatched women seeking the same...

I didn't come to RHP to judge or condem others for being here, i am here for what this site is and offers, as simple as that.

Oh ffs not everyone is a saint. Morals are like art ... you just draw a line somewhere... This discussion about right and wrong and putting people down because their line is located north or south of yours is fucked up. Live your own life and make the most of it... But ffs let other people enjoy the same lawful liberty. Hugs Stalky

I am with you. Lets quit the moral crusade and live and let live.  And sweetiepie, ok maybe he shouldn't have asked the question however he did.  Now he's been kicked and shat upon can we let him get up, get washed off and get out there living as HE wants to, not as others want him to. 

Gotta admit, I loved the comment about swingers morialising about people who aren't fortunate to be in relationship with a partner that is open to swinging, or even sex.  I too think its a double standard.

As I said in an earlier comment, "walk a mile in my shoes before you judge, criticise and abuse."

Open minded gypsy

What exactly???

lost track when i saw that big screen TV

ohh bugger. it's a window.

sorry, i'm lost now.

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Earl

Each to their own......I guess

Cxx

honest

i was in your in your situation not so long ago,i had a partner who i absolutely loved and would of died for,then one day a few yrs ago she just woke up and didnt want sex anymore .from that  our relationship started to strain b ,i mean how do you just go from 3 or 4 times a day to nothing,what was worst i couldnt even touch her anytime in the sense that just putting my hand on her shoulder she would find an excuse to walk away,i went without sex for a few years hoping she would wake up oneday and be her old self truthfully i knew she never would and obviously you know what your partner wants or will do,so i  left someone who i loved with all my  heart so she could get the help she  needs and i wouldnt hate her from the rejection i got.if your partner loves you still as the man she first met and you can laugh cuddle do everything less the sex then you have a relationship worth staying for.

sex would not be an issue for you if this was the case i bet there is more to the story for the reason you want to have sex,if its what you want then go do it no ones going to stop you,its proberly more it would be hard to do and be honest at the same time yeah?say you did get sex with someone you actully liked would you leave your partner for her?these were definitely things i considered.

good luck on what ever decide,i doult anyone on here has been entirely honest there whole life or they wouldnt be in the first place,its just they have their own opinon for what seen right for them.

heres a twist for you !

if you cheated with a guy what would woman think then??

as for guys well you would proberly get called a fag band lose a few mates but would the mainstream of woman see it the same way as cheating with another woman??

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