My views on this have changed just a little in the past year or so. Prior to joining RHP I would have said there is no way I would see a married guy. What is the point after all, and if they are cheating on their partner, well I don't want to know them really.

Now after almost 2 years of the forums, I realise that there are lots of people in marriages where their needs are not being met for all sorts of reasons. So, I do feel for these guys, but in general I am still not really interested in seeing them.

The forum has also opened my eyes to different types of relationships that are out there, so now my view point is, if a man has an agreement with their wife that they can play away from home on occasion (& yes I am sure they all say that) or if the couple are into swinging then yes I might see a married guy here and there.

But he has to be HAWT, fun, cute and really really naughty!!

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Meeka

Everyone is different and each have their own morals and opinions about it. Personally I say go with your instinct and stick to your morals.

The most important person who will judge you for your actions will be you.

Cheers
VT
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I think if you're cool with someone else running of with your man after you've spent years having children and making a family together then go for it.

 

But it's not as black and white as that is it. A lot of married guys have given up on their marriages but want to keep their families. If you can do it without falling in love so you spend your life getting sloppy seconds (he will NEVER leave his wife while his kids are young for you, no matter what he says, no matter how in love with you he pretends to be)....then go for it. I'm not being sarcastic here, if you want the guy just for fun and will never want him permanently and he's smart enough to protect his family from ever knowing about you then that is your choice to make sweet.

 

If you will be wanting a relationship at some point it's  probably just less hassle to find a single guy. You're cute, hot and young. You can have who ever you want. xx gg

Sorry honey, i wasn't being clear.

By sloppy seconds i mean that IF he is still shagging the mrs you get the leftovers, you are physically sharing him with her. If that turns you on then great.

He will never be like a single guy who can just drop everything and go out.

He will very rarely if ever be able to stay over.

You will be at arms length.

No holidays together.

No christmas together.

Won't be able to spend a lot of money on you because he has to keep all the money for the mrs and kids and needs to keep the money trail invisable.

Single guy if you want a relationship is just sooooo much easier.

xx gg

Simplest things really, even though moral conflicts may come in to play, I look at them like this. 

I have no difficulty with a couple of married guys helping each other out every now and again. The situation you've described however is, in my opinion, pretty insidious. It can only lead to trouble and that's because you are both already quite attached, emotionally, through your earlier interactions. You'll be like a couple of naughty school children... and the fact is, you have to be prepared to get caught, which, no doubt, you will. Does your other half know you? I mean it's hardly discrete in those circumstances and that will likely hurt so much more, because of the humiliation factor. There's no way I'd put myself in that situation. It's no random, one off slip... It's a fully deceitful plan with an old flame! Struth. Do what feels right for you. Hugs Stalky studnuts

For me personally?

"does your other half know you?" .... bwahahaha. That's a rhetorical question! What about this... "does his other half know you?".... that's what I meant. Hugs Sta

Thanks Sta.

Has this to do with your self esteem?

Do you feel undesirable since you have had your child and therefore feel that he will accept you lumps and stretch marks and all?

Are you thinking with your pussy as you haven't had sex since the birth of your child or even pregnancy?

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Think about how you will feel AFTER the fact of having sex with him! How will you feel about yourself that he is going to go home to his wife and child straight after?

I am not against affairs in any way shape or form...so don't read this as negative...just openly and be honest with yourself!

I myself don't think that you are enjoying the "sexting" and that he is making you feel desirable....but you already know how bad you will feel if you did have sex with him!

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Meet a random from here in a park somewhere and get your rocks off...send the random home, while you feel great from the orgasm!

xFunlovingx

unless playing with a couple, or with face to face " go for it" from the wife.

I am a firm believer in Karma, and like to live my life treating others how I like to be treated.

Unhappy and married, leave...end of story for me, family or not.

Meeka100...Merry me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

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At the end of the day you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and like the person you see.

If his wife knows about it and they have an agreement/understanding and you are in no way looking to break them up and just after some fun, then I don't see an issue with that.

Like goodgirlz said if you are looking for a relationship out of it you are going to come off second best and the likelihood that it will end well is very very small (ok microscopic really)

If his wife doesn't know and you are just after fun and nothing more then look at the worst case scenario, she finds out!! how would you deal with that? are you likely to feel guilty if the relationship ends because of it? could you handle it if she found out who you were and confronted you over it? (it could happen) if your cool with either or both of those outcomes then i guess there is nothing stopping you.

You do mention that you have a son of your own have you considered what the consequences for him could be in this? is he old enough to be affected if the wife should show up to confront you? does he go to the same daycare as this FB's kid perhaps?? that could make things VERY messy Do you have other friends in common? that could increase the risk of being found out, (and again MESSY!!)

A lot of people will take the moral high ground i am sure, and some will back you whatever you choose to do but really the only person who can make this choice is you, because in the end that is who you have to face each and everyday.

You seem like you have a lot going for you, maybe it is best you find your fun elsewhere and let this guy deal with his own demons??

Whatever you decide, good luck

When a man or a woman gets married we suddenly treat them like they just caught some sort of disease.  No one wants to take on a drama by associating with one of these lepers  because you may become infected with something very sinister..'
But seriously'  you should take every situation on its merits.

Only this week local current affairs programs interviewed a so called expert on married relationships which found 72% of men and 70% of women' found sex outside of marriage . It went on to say how it is almost impossible to get married and expect a couple to maintain sexual excitement with the one partner for the rest of their life.  I think this only confirms what we already knew.

Now Im not saying this should open a pandoras box.  Every married couple deserves every chance to make the most of what of what they have made together, but when familiarity in-evidently kicks in'  thats when the mind starts to wander.

To answer your original question,  if you are mature enough to accept meeting this guy for mutual gratification just to satisfy your urge and nothing else.  Go for it..  He is the one who will have the guilt pangs, not you.  You are only scratching a itch...

I would have to fuck you first. Sorry those are the rules. Although I do see we have some kinks in common. :P
Good Italian boy don't know. My dad was Italian and he told me to avoid all Italians. Haha

So how naughty are you then?
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Meeka

I understand the many different scenarios here, but I just want to ask.. the situation of meeting with a "married" person, is it to actually have a relationship, to fall in love, to go out on dates, dinner & movie, or just to release raw passion between two consenting adults who know what they want?

i wouldn't do it .. i wouldn't like to be on the other end of something like that .. has been mentioned already ...  KARMA what goes around..... unless of course wifey know's all about it and is ok on the idea!

miss sarahboo,

Thanks to everyone for their comments.

 

I would just like to say that had this been just some random i wouldnt have even considered it. So, to answer some of your questions, yes I suppose there is some sort of emotional baggage in out friendship, if only because we have history.

I just want to make it clear that I have no 'romantic' interest (i am not lookign for a relationship with him) it would have been simply sex and, of course, friendship.

 

Having said that, I have made my decision. And I would like it to be known that I did make my decision based on my feelings and what I feel is moraly right and what I can live with.

 

So thanks to everyone for their comments and opinions very much appreciated.

 

P.S My selfesteme is perfectly fine. I'm big, beautiful and proud lol. stretchmarks, lumps, bumps n all! :P