I know this can be bit of a taboo or 'no go zone' for many guys but I was hoping to get your feedback on the best way to approach your man about the subject.
I have been seeing an older guy for sometime now, we trust each, he gives me earth shattering orgasms and I would like to do the same for him. I would really like to try stimulating his prostate while giving him a blow job, resulting (hopefully) in an earth shattering orgasm for him.
1) What would be the best way to approach him about it?
2) Iif he's not too keen on the idea intially, is there a way that may intice him to at least give it a try??
You both appear to have a great relationship sexually so open it up regarding
communication. You could start out by telling him exactly what you told us,
about trust and his giving you earth shattering orgasms! That way his listening device will be
switched to on...lol
Men love to solve problems, so ask him how you could reciprocate the experiences
he provides you....make the questions leading ones so you ensure you stay on
If he appears to stumble, easy, say you've been giving it some thought too and
would he be willing to try..." item A' go in gently..so as not to invoke the fight or flight' syndrome
You could always just go ahead and do it however, you have each others trust so I wouldn't
'blow' it by just sticking your finger up his botty....lol
Yep... Lets get graphic... there's nothing wrong with getting things right for a change.... make sure he takes a dump first .. and he can even use wetwipes.. lolz... then Place a well lubed finger in the backdoor... find the spot up there just below his testicles and rub.... you could try a thumb for that and use the rest of your hands to grab his nutsack while you blow him, arse finger him and pull his balll sack downwards at the same time.... wooohooo make that man squeal.. hehe... you can "milk" his prostate that way... he'll drip wringing wet with pre-ejaculate so make sure you gobble that stuff down. OK ... errr.. well.. that's what I've read... hehe... got a bit carried away there for a while... hehe..
Or is that BUTT....rather ironic that we respond to a male g spot
post with pics of our almost bare botties....
Gotta say Stalky....niiiiiiiiiiice....love those leg muscles...
Thanks for the feedback. Yes we do have a trusting relationship.
I have actually mentioned it to him before (very casually) and he did not seem too keen on the idea. And I have asked him (just the other day) to tell me what he would like me to do to give him the mind blowing orgasm he deserves. We talked about different techniques, kisses, licks, sucks, pressure and speed but he hasn't yet told me to do something I don't already do anyway.
He has never even experiend giving anal sex which is another subject I have talked to him about. He's a little nervous about it but I believe he is warming to the idea....especially as an 'option B' for when I am menstruating.
Unfortunately, with his 23 year marriage to his ex-wife, I think he was somewhat sheltered to the more 'taboo' side of sexual exploration. Which is kind of strange since he seems to have mastered the art of making me orgasm like no man has ever. He is SO good with his hands!!
Well, thanks for the feedback. If all else fails, I may just start with some gentle rimming or something, see how he responds to that.
Hey AB. This man of yours sounds awesome! Perhaps you can
give me some pointers (where are these guys hiding??)
I know what you mean about ppl breaking out of a previous
sheltered or limited relationship. TIme, patience and trust
is needed and you have it all from the sounds of things!
Just have to say...what a lucky man he is to have found you
Looking forward to updates
Yeah he is pretty awesome........if he were 15 years younger I'd probably want to marry the guy if for no other reason than to finally be able enjoy healthy, fun, relaxed and satisfying sex (I've been seriously neglected up till now) for the rest of my life.
I don't actually know where he gets all his intel from, I guess he just does his homework. There is a lot of information out there, particularly on the net, about the inner workings of a womans body. I've even found that doing my own research has taught me a lot I didnt know about my own body.
Thank you for the nice comments, will keep you posted.
Thanks for the graphic info. Handy to know all these things. I have done a lot of research on the techniques for performing the act but my question is actually how to introduce it to him.
He's not to keen on the idea so what would be the best way to warm him up to it? Being suc a huge fan of the blowjob I know he is just going to love the new sensations prostate stimulation will bring if only I can get him to open up to the possibility.
Is it poor form to just start rimming him or something to see how he responds?
I knew what your question was... You really need to obtain permission before you go slipping a latex dong up someone's bum.... but it's a grey area when it is a finger.... fact is... it's easier to ask forgiveness than to seek permission. :p
He might feel more uncomfortable talking about the act, than doing it... or asking you to do it for that matter. When such things are difficult for him to talk about... What I mean is... you could lube a finger up... play around a bit on his sphinkter like the tease you know you are... if that's still ok... then very slowly slip the tip of a finger in there and out again....... then hold on tight... an dslowly drop the whole finger in.... make sure you are doing a pretty frantic blow job action as if that's really what you are focussed upon.... hehe... and he'll either get comfortable with it that finger there and think wtf.. awwwright.. or pull your finger away.... no biggy... oops... and repeat. Pavlov's dog.
Ok thanks guys for the feedback.
STALKY: Wasn't actually considering slipping anything other than a finger up there anyway.
Valid point about apologising after the fact than seeking permission to do so in th first place.
Also a good point that he might be more uncomfortable talking about it than actually doing it. I suspect he is a litlle traditional feels that he has to 'be seen protesting about it' whilst secretly hoping I will just do it 'against his wishes' kinda thing, because 'society' says that is what a straight man is supposed to do.
SYDNEYBOY: sounds like a gentle introduction, will give it a try. Good point keeping his mind focused on the things I know he loves whilst exploring his nether regions.
And what a gorgeous gal you are! I've been trying the same with my regular FB too and he proclaims he does not like penetration - but I know he'd love it too, if hed just let me try! Lets keep posting and see how this progresses!
Hoping to catch up with him this weekend. Been priming him of with the promise of a mind blowing head job to keep him focusing on the goodies about to come his way.
Will keep you posted
Try it and then talk about it.
But make sure the finger used has NO long finger nail. Cut it off and file it smooth.
Coz OUCH! if you rip something up there.