I wonder how many guys actual look at a vagina, or how many women use a hand mirror to look at themselves?
Women are all so different , so are guys so I like to have a look at a guy in the light for several reasons. I think there prrrrrrrrrrty things when attached to the right sexy brain. I also like to make sure that the guy is clean.
Now I have a female friend she is not bi, but I watch her having sex as we sometimes share. We have it down to a fine art,but we realise that we both have a totality different way to get off.
This is because her clit is deeper back in her labia and mine is more to the front so we fire up in a different way. She takes a long run off, where she has lots of smaller orgasms about six or so and then one big one where she often squirts.
I on the other hand have one big one first and then ripple down to just short of exhaustion.
Now most men do not get it, that were different, and it has never occurred to any to ask.
So we tell them right up front, this is how we work, this is what you need to do to get us both off.
Its been hit and miss, but I think the issue is that most women do not tell a guy what they want or need. I think most women have never watched another woman have sex so they have nothing to compare themselves to. Many women will not even undress in front of another woman
We cannot blame men for not knowing if we do not know ourselves is what I am trying to say here.
If a guy is told what he has to do, then you as a woman have to help him not rush in and get his end away then piss off.
Women need to take control of things unless they have a very experienced considerate lover, and considerate is not the norm. Many guys talk up a storm on RHP, like you will not be disappointed or I will last all night , yada yada its advertising they are good at.
So ladies do you have a problem telling a man what you need. Do you really know what it is that gets you to where you want to go or are you just a passenger on the bus? And men do you really pay attention to a woman, or is your eye on the door and your watch?
I guess I'm guilty of not being up front straight away in telling a guy exactly what works for me, but I suppose I'm not just the one night stand type of person either. I like to see what he has to offer and what kind of talents he has before making suggestions and requests.
As for knowing what I want; quite a few years ago I learnt what really works for me through experimenting on myself and, since then, have had some surprises along the way where I've had somone else help me discover what works for me.
And yes.....I've used mirror, Tuscan.
Thanx TR I really get to spend lot of time looking at vaginas and penises, the functional parts of these organs vary greatly individually.
In my case it for work not pleasure. They really do make things difficult when there are modifications ie; piercings. aboriginal whistle cocks...
Try passing a catheter on an old aboriginal man with prostate problems!!!!!
I'm much more a fan of spontaneity and discovery than choreography so yep after the instructional speech my eye would be on the door.
Well some men never read the manual either , I would show you the door before we got started if what I wanted made you uncomfortable. I can tell in a second if a guy is willing to be guided, some guys just know it all so they do not need to learn anything of me
I am very spontaneous , this does not mean that I am passive participant. I never plan sex that’s the joy of it for me. Lucky for me most guys do listen to what my needs are, and is not always vocal instructions body language makes up a great part of it.
If your too proud to read the manual then do not go to Ikea , you may wonder why things are not quiet right when you put it all together.
Ok so one of the aboriginal initiation rites practised in some parts of traditional areas involve something called whistlecocking young men.
Usually aged around 13 to 18 I am not sure of the significance so please don't ask.
The parctice is somewhat like circumcision EXCEPT instead of removing the foreskin an incision is made halfway up the urethra about 1-2 cms long. Hence whistlecock.
It is one of the rites of passage for young men.
I am led to understand by aboriginal friends in the Kinberly it is one of the steps to becoming a lawman.
When it is done by an experienced practitioner its is relatively benign but and this is a qualified but it seems to be of late being performed by enthusiastic but less than experienced people.
Hence passing a catheter on someone whistlecocked means the catheter can be problematic at the least.
Ps the catheter I'm talking about is to assist post operatively in monitoring pt renal function and is inserted into the urethra, (piss hole)