How would you feel about your daughter having a relationship with a man 20 plus years older than her?There has been discussion here about older women younger men,but what do we think about younger women older men.
If you are an older man would you want to be with a much younger woman,and would it just be for sex or a committed relationship?
I have two daughters and one really does need a man that’s older to get her off her high horse.
Plus I do not think a young man can handle some women, they do not have the subtle seduction chip in them
This is not all men of course.
Just that the addiction to porn and learning about sex from porn is epidemic in males today. The capacity to be intimate with women is getting lost in translation. As a matter of fact men are becoming impotent earlier than they used to as they are so over stimulated that normal loving sex no longer does it for them.
I am the same I think, lack the capacity to be intimate but can fuck my brains out with impunity.
But I want my girls to learn from an experienced man who will show them how to get pleasure and give pleasure.
Younger women are really getting pushed into sex by guys these days, I went to a lecture the other night and there were young girls there and they said that the guys had put so much pressure on them and one even got date rapped at 17.
Nice start to your sexual life, I know because my first was the same, a friend of a guy was dating, who offered me a ride home. I had just turned 18 , yes late starter.
What was worse he bragged about it and I was the slut and my boyfriend kicked me to the curb. I was no longer the virgin he wanted to marry..dahhhh
So yes for me, for older, wiser, kinder men.
Yes undoubtedly.....thats life, I could scaresly care less any more.
There is little to be gained by getting hung up about it.
I have no daughters....just sons. So I don't know.
Personally I'm not agesist, so it depends on the person as an individual rather than
their biological age.
Although my range says 18 to 99, and I would be a hypocrite if it was anything else.
It would also be accurate to say that the chances of finding common ground and a
connection gets more remote the younger/older they are, by the time they get to 18 or 99
I reckon that would be some kinda miracle for both sides.
A 20 year age gap is not to much of a stretch, as far as I'm concerned, once your
an adult with a bit of experience then age is not so relevant, at 30 a female really
should have her shit together, if she didn't I wouldn't be interested for very long.
Cheers Felonius
This is not fair lady H I would love to meet someone in their 30s who was interested, and since I have no kids its not something I would be familiar with worying about.
If I thought about how a father would feel I suppose I could use my imagination amd say I would be a little taken aback that my daughter would choose someone my age to be having sex with.
But as she would be an adult and would probably tell me to mind my own business I am relatively sanguine about this question.
Mike
Is on this site as many already know. I do not care if she has a relationship with someone twenty years older than her at all. What ever makes her happy....because at 35 I assume she is adult enough to know her own mind.
Age is a relevant thing though and in saying that.....I dont think I would like an 18 year old to be going out with a 38 year old. The life experience is too different at that age. But as we mature, the lines blur a little.
I have 2 daughters and feel both have been ripped off in the romance and love department. The young guys their age just don't understand subtle flirting and the gentler side of things. Its all or nothing and they want it NOW!
Someone with a stable outlook on life would be a blessing. There's a lot to be said for the experienced man, who is both a protector and lover.
SFxx
My mother was younger then my father by 8 years and even at that age difference there is a worry. Young people need to realise having a younger lover can be good but what happens when the older partener need to be cared for and they are at their prime of their life. They become miserable,it is not easy looking after an older person. Good luck for the few that make it happily through a vast age difference.
A relationship doesn't necessarily have to progress to marriage. Most relationships end as do many marriages. I feel a relationship with a 20 year age difference is more a learning experience and not necessarily a life commitment.
As others have mentioned, I can see problems with such a big age gap if married.
When I was in my twenties and married to my then husband, his best mate had a relationship with a woman nearly 20years older than him. She did have trouble fitting in with our social group and the other girls always viewed her with suspicion. I would imagine that if the roles were reversed the older man may not fit in socially with her friends. I don't think she would be taken seriously by his friends either.
I think that age is not a real problem.
It doesn't matter if Woman / Younger Guy or Man / Younger Girl.
It is foundamental how we feel toghether...
Good post and good responses here.
My father was married four times, each to women much younger than him though the gap closed as he got older.
He was a charmer but then turned into a controlling person to each wife once he married them.
Its a question of power in some cases. Note the overseas brides who marry guys wayyyyyyyyyyyyy older. I have seen some very bad mistakes with that kind of marriage and its caused a whole lot of grief for everyone in it.
Your right in the social setting, I have two women friends. One is married to a guy twenty five years younger, they have been married 10 years and he adores her still, but she is getting a tad tied of the attention. Exhausted at times.
The other her husband is 15 years younger and we never see him, she always goes to social functions without him.
The problem is the judgements of others. In the first marriage as she was to old to have kids , she had one from her previous marriage. His family would say when are you going to get rid of the old woman and give me some grandchildren.
The second , he just wants her and she is happy doing what he likes she does not have to drag him to places he feels uncomfortable with others making judgements about him.
My husband was seven years younger than me, it worked just fine it was not age but other things that got us a divorce but we are still great mates and we mix well with all our old friends and new ones.
Attitude of others causes most of the problems.
I think most men when they are out with an younger woman, people say.
Older men with younger women can get away with it if they are rich.
everyone,great thoughtful responses.Interestingly different to most older women younger men threads.It is always so easy to judge when we see couples with a big age difference ,my view tends to be similar to Tuscans,my father was 16 years older than my mother and they were happily married for 35 years
On the other hand I have usually had partners who were either a similar age to me,or in one case much younger.x Hugs H
ps 50zcool,I am dying to know,what do you have on your head?