So I’m really confused about something and need some advice. BTW this is my first post on here so please be gentle ;)
I’ve been chatting online to a married man for about 6 months and we have developed an online friendship. He tells me that his wife doesn’t satisfy him sexually and never has. He wants to cheat on her (he says he never has before) and wants to have sex with me. Ok so our friendship has strayed into highly sexual conversations but I thought it was just a bit of online fun, an outlet for his sexual frustration.
I’m not sure how I feel about fucking him. Morally I don’t feel it’s right to sleep with a married man, but on the other hand surely that’s his decision to make and he has to live with the consequences.
I’m torn between wanting to meet him, wanting to maintain our friendship and wanting to do the right thing.
I really need to get some perspective on this situation so any advice would be great.
you decide to have an affair with a married man OP,here are some of the likely cosequences for you.
He will rarely be available,will not want to be seen in public with you....after a while he will say he is just wracked with guilt and cant continue.
His wife might find out and call you,that can be a most unpleasant experience.
You might become extremely emotionally attached to him and find that the time he spends with you is just not enough.
I don't judge as to the morality of the situation ,I have been on both sides of this equasion in the past and in my opinion having a relationship with someone who is married is just too problematic.
But if none of the above worries you ,then why notx Hugs
"WOW.. I dont know what it is about you... I have never felt like this before... I would never have thought I would want to make love to some behind my wifes back...."
Fck, we lie well.. . males and females.
Bellator... you are 35.. a big girl.. wear big girl pants...
If you want to fck him.. go do it.. dont believe a single thing you hear from his mouth...
He lied to his wife, he lied to himself, he will lie to you.. and to everyone else :)
BUT... if he can fck good.... who gives a fck?
Anyway.. if you met him at a hotel.. and you were horny.. you wouldnt even ask him of he had a partner would you?
If you did, and you had a few drinks in you..and he said "yeah.. but, she is with her FB tonight... " would you care?
Go hard girl.. and get us soem photos please..
"Believe NOTHING of what you hear...and only HALF of what you see"
Such good advice from you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you for giving me some perspective.
LittleRedEngine - I think you hit the nail on the head!
I slept with a married man for 18 months. Then I slept with a seperated man for another couple of years after that. Now I'm sleeping with another married man.
Of course, I've been sleeping with the same man for the last five years :)
I wish I could say "don't do it" but that would sound far too hypocritical. I wish I could say that after surviving the absolutely horrific slaughterhouse of a few years that followed after our affair went public I would never do it again. But, I think I would.
It differs for each individual. I'm an emotional person, therefore I became emotionally involved very early on and once you're tangled up in each others emotions, "fucking a married man" becomes a whole different ball game.
Think about what you really want, the most likely outcome if you do sleep with this man, and the price you are willing to pay to do it.
I love my husband ardently and I would probably do it all again knowing that this is where we would end up. But the cost to us along the way, in every sense, has ben enormous so be smart and be careful.