Is it that hard to read?

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Is it that hard to read?

Jan 04, 2012
NaughtyLibrarian  

Woman 35yrs
I'm curious what makes guys think they might be that one exception to the rule? I quite clearly have in my profile that I am only interested in a certain age bracket and that I'm not interested in pen pals from interstate, yet I constantly get messages and flirts from men that fall into either or both categories. I realise that some guys probably don't even bother reading the profile, but those that do assume that they might be that one and only exception to the rule.
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Chasing_Midnight

Learning to type with your feet...

...does not lead to eventual loss of sight and frees up both hand to ensure the even growth of hair on the palms of your hands.

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It could be worse I guess...you could just be ignored entirely and whimper like some of the men do on these sites?

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...life's good so enjoy it.  Just hit delete.

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GonzosDilemma   Man 36yrs

Yeah, I've done it...

When there is no girl next door or even within a reasonable distance, a bloke is then faced with the unreasonable prospect of lifetime celibacy or the option of going to unreasonable lengths to remedy the problem.  Call it an act of the indomitable human spirit or one of sheer horniness, if they only put out on the other side of the country then that's where I'm gonna go.
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

read?

men cant read...lol they can barely even write half the time.... omg they see pics and its all over....you expected something different? just about everyone who messages us is 'an exception to a rule'...just ask them...suddenly we like smokers and guys from interstate, or further...and shouldnt worry about what the guys wife knows about or not...apparently its all ok....he wont tell if we dont.... oh..and it seems that we are now some guys...'kindred soul'...how this works when are a couple........we just cant work out..lol

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neptune_drift  

Man 28yrs

If you clearly state what you don't want then...

...fair enough, I guess it could be annoying when people ignore that. But are pen pals really what interstate people are looking for? I know I myself get around the country a bit, so it's nice to know there are a few options when you travel. The traveler's profile's are great, but I don't see the harm in introducing yourself a bit earlier!
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Ramakin   Man 41yrs

READING!

Reading, reading... It sounds like something important. They did seem to place some emphasis on it at school! ... Sorry, what was this topic about?
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Irisheyes4you

a lick of that brass ring!!

hhhhmmmm......presumtion,asumtion,idiocy,lack of literary knowledge,sweaty palm syndrome ,desperation,hope,despair,or just plain ignorance......lol......they may account for it.

on the other hand.....eagerness i would say.....like that old dog eye popping syndrome.

blood-drain-head-thought and a lack there of...
gives us all a bad name lol

Its all preference after all:)

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caitsidhe  

Woman 43yrs

Depends on how adamant you want the "rule" to be...

If a man was to say, look at your profile, read it, look through your friend's list..wel,l there is one male that is over the age that you are seeking, a couple of couples that are not MM, including one couple that live interstate...he may very well think that you can be a bit flexible with what you want...just an observation...
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

lol

looking at pictures and making an assumption is the whole point isnt it? if men spent an extra 15 seconds and actually read what was written, the the OP, wouldnt have a topic, and we wouldnt have a beef.....  we have friends, workmates, neighbours and even family members on this site..... perhaps they might even make it to our friends list...we are nudists by the way, so are members of our extended families...if we've all seen each other nude, what would it matter? we clearly state the ages we seek...and say to not bother if they are outside of that...or attached...or whatever..and it doesnt matter..they send messages anyway...and its a piss off saying 'sorry but you are outside of what we seek' over and over, when what we really want to say is 'fuck off you pillock! cant you fucking read'?...........so we get the OP's frustration... i mean its not like we are so desperate that we'll change our minds and make exceptions for some 21 year old, when we really would prefer to meet his non smoking divorcee 45 year old father........... the 'pen pal' from interstate we get as well...guys who want to chat on msn and swap pics etc but never meet... we dont want that either........pfffft..

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caitsidhe  

Woman 43yrs

As I said...

Quoting 'Chasing_Anal'
Quoting 'caitsidhe'
    If a man was to say, look at your profile, read it, look through your friend's list..wel,l there is one male that is over the age that you are seeking, a couple of couples that are not MM, including one couple that live interstate...he may very well think that you can be a bit flexible with what you want...just an observation...   
Great observations Caitsidhe!  Full points for thorough investigative techniques.  I'll bet you're a killer in bed, too

Chilli xx
I read your post in braille
It was just an observation...and maybe an explaination for  why men get confused as to what  some members are after....

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tuscanred   Woman 59yrs

that is why

 

I never add anyone as a friend unless I meet em in the flesh and I find them ok. And it is not an indication I have had sex with them either.

I have a load of people on my list wanting me to add them as my friend and I have no idea why they would want to do that.

However one guy told me that its kind of like advertising for people, if they are on your list then sometimes people think you are bonking them or have bonked them. I know, I thought that when I first came to this site.

As for pple over east, well I do travel on the odd occasion but then I put that up when I am on the move.

I get nice comments re my art and that is ok, but I do not think I want a pen pal or a text sex pal or a phone sex buddy.

But if a guy is on business over in the west, and lets me know then that’s fine.

I do look at other people from the east but that’s just cause I am a perve.
And I think, come west fella :)


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Aww

Tuscan, Always a friend:) now come on ladies pick me lol. I have found profiles a bit misleading apart from the ones that shout it from the mountain top that you are not to contact me if your name is absolute beginner. Tongue in cheek Me Xx
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

observation? Catsidhe's comment

was just a little facile...you skirted around what what being said...to cause a stir. the whole point of the OP's topic was that guys dont read profiles...a friends list has no relevance to the topic as posted.....all you have done is point out how men make an assumption based on what they see, not what they read...thanks for confirming our comments, and those of the OP......well done. lol  (we've actually only met and played with one on our friends list..they are on there for other reasons) who we play with is our private business, after all.
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Stalky

Communication here is not universally about getting it on.

I appreciate what people have in their profiles indicate what they are looking for. that shouldn't mean that someone cannot come along and give a friendly flirt. Flirting doesnt have to mean you want to get it on... that's one of the wonderful things about human nature.... people enjoy the company and fellowship of others.... even if no sex is involved.

Hugs
Stalky
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Stalky

MikeandShel

MMMM! I gotta get myself a pair of those satin gloves.

Hugs
Stalky
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

lol

we have more than enough in the way of 'companionship' lol...... thats certainly not something we came here looking for...our social lives are full enough already.................but thanks... we've got this covered.
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caitsidhe  

Woman 43yrs

ok...

No mikeandshel, it was not to cause a stir...the OP asked why men thought they were an exception to the rule...and I simply offered a reason as to why men, sorry, some men may read the profile and look at the friends list and come to their own conclusion as the OP may be a bit flexible with her rules...

 

Quoting the OP:"I realise that some guys probably don't even bother reading the profile, but those that do assume that they might be that one and only exception to the rule." This is what I was refering to - those that do read the proflie, and that may actually look at friends lists and think that they are the exception to the rule..it does happen, I have had messages from members wanting to know why I would not consider meeting them when I have had friends on my list that were not what I was looking for...

 

Alex2go - this was not a critisism, it was merely an observation as to why you may be getting messages and flirts from members outside your criteria...

 

And brizzyguy62...there are plenty of simpletons on this site...as per the OP's beef on the men that DO read the proflie and still send flirts and messages anyway...

 

 

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Stalky

lolz

Of course.. havent we all... as well as being overly indulgent in social activities by participating profusely in the forums no doubt. I mean to say... I can't handle any more unsolicited compliments from people I do not wish to fuck!  :p

Hugs
Stalky



Quoting 'mikeandshel'
    we have more than enough in the way of 'companionship' lol...... thats certainly not something we came here looking for...our social lives are full enough already.................but thanks... we've got this covered.    

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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

ok

fair enough.. but guys still do the kneejerk thing and respond only because of the pics...ffs..our profile has the link on the bottom right to this very topic, and our comments. do we need to show these guys, and take them by the hand? if so, why?          we get messages from guys and couples who have followed these links,(and made positive comments about our posts) and its comforting to know that some actually take more than 15 seconds to read before sending a flirt or message.          we've had maybe a half dozen guys just this morning make contact. even tho they are so far outside of what we want, that its almost ridiculous.......... and so it goes on...and on...
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mikeandshel   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 51yrs

lol

dont worry...the sentiments mutual. you'd not have received an invite... hmm...'forums'...social? hardly... 'diversion' ?perhaps...    oh well...off to meet my wife for coffee.... cheers.

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Handmaiden  

Woman 49yrs

Sure they can read

They just choose to ignore what they have read.

After all they ARE exceptional. Well at least in thier eyes they are so why wouldnt you want to bend the rules a little ....just for them?

Anyway, if I have 35 to 45 on my age criteria and the man is 47...I may just be persuaded otherwise....especially for an exceptional sort of bloke.

You just never know if you dont try and there is that old chestnut of all the world loves a trier.

My own profile begins with ....

"First...Read the profile"... but that does not mean I am gonna get all bent out of shape and react rudely if one does. I can still find it within myself to politely reply and say not thanks...no big deal.

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