I am getting really tired of men saying they want to meet again and when I make contact with them, they say maybe or Im not sure. Are they waiting for a better offer, these are guys that I have got on with and enjoyed and I thought that they had enjoyed the encounter too. Or is it that guys only want a once off and dont want a repeat performance.
I really didnt think that I was expecting too much.
Other peoples thoughts please.
and get a nice suprise if they do.
Repeat performance , seems not be the norm
Saying they will return is
Doing it another matter
Word used on here a lot, especially for a woman NEXT!
Honestly take it all with a grain of salt. Never ask them , will I see you again?
It embarases the crap out of people who just want a one night stand.
how many are brave enough to say, hi this is just a one night stand is that ok?
most women would think well shit you have not even porked me yet and you want to leave?
so treat them all like a one night stand.
Yeah, too much of this goes on. Seems the friendship built up before the meet is worth nothing.
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Women may be able to fake an orgasm but Men can fake a whole relationship.
...that we are all (yes, male and female alike) very primal creatures by our very nature and in this particular venue, there is a high probability that even the best intended long term FWB going in may be a one night encounter and this dependent upon how much time we have actually invested in getting to know each other first.
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We all have a tendency to overlook any number of personal traits and attributes that we may not like and certainly evident, however if we accept that our primal expectation is sex...it really is then after sex that we assess those things that we all may have overlooked getting there and determine the value or depth of the friendship. At times, even that may be quite shallow...which is neither right or wrong, it simply is how it often works.
If the sex is completely mind blowing...there may be a repeat performance on that basis alone, however unless there is a basis for a friendship or those traits we have noticed along the way that we may find range for slight to substantial aren't really an issue...I would doubt that anyone is going to buy into a full membership.
Does that make her a bitch or him a bastard...no, not really. It just makes us human and in the end, that's all we really are and what we have to work with on the best of days.
Then again we may just find an exception to a generalization too.
I recently had and extension built on my house and needed a vent also. I would suggest taking a drive down to your local Bunning’s store they have plenty to chose from and very easy to install also
But as it smells like crushed rose petals and sounds like a flute solo
does it count?
I wonder why the dog always leaves the room when I fart or sing? Its a mystery to me
But then again my hearing is gone and so is my sense of smell
my best trick is to put in the earphones while at the gym on the treadmill
sing out of tune in my loud voice and fart, cant hear it so don’t care
The are about to revoke my membership, seeees some people have no sense of humour.
I sympathise with Meggiesgirl and agree with MrandMrsErotic. I too have had a couple of these encounters of late. I need to build a rapport with someone & know there is chemistry before the shag, then after all the contact (& the shag)... they just vanish... Why cant these guys just communicate and actually say, 'no im not into you' or something else generic? Whats with the 'we'll see crap' - be a grown up and just say it. Yes primarily this sites about sex but its really disappointing once you've built some rapport & some sort of friendship to be cut off like you have the plague!
"Why cant these guys just communicate and actually say, 'no im not into you' or something else generic? Whats with the 'we'll see crap"
Because they can't be bothered dealing with the abuse, emotional manipulation and carry on that they will get if they just say "i'm sorry, i'm just not that into you."
...who wrote the book?
"i'm sorry, i'm just not that into you."
They were two of the folks that wrote a couple of scripts for "Sex in the City"...between those to unemployed TV screenplay writers and the fawking John Gray, I'm damn surprised we haven't declared war on each other. Why can't we just say...
Can I get in to you...please.
Try anything twice and more if you like it...we're only human.
I want to fuck them many times not just once. Once is great but second and third times are always better.
You get to know what that person wants and needs, what turns them on , they learn what turns you on and so of course the sex is better.
I had a liason with a wonderful man last weekend, it was supposed to be a hookup for 1 night, he then said he wanted to spend the day with me and another night, the sex on the second night was certainly far superior to the first night.
I believe in the truth if you dont fancy them then say so, dont fuck them. I can take rejection and so can the men I meet. I find it interesting that some men see my photo and say no thanks even before they have met me. Talk about shallow, I at least will meet most men and see if there is that spark, if not then I tell them up front sorry its not going to happen.
It there is that spark then look out.
Oh i dunno meeks, wouldn't you just try to slip away quietly if everytime you told a guy "erm, sorry but no" he chucked a big sook or a tanty or started to try to emotionally manipulate you? Women do that all the time. Occassionally guys do it but women are known for it.
Cait you're right, there are a few who are grown ups and not desparately needy and whiney, mature women who say "fair enough then" and walk away