G'day mate, I have a female friend on here and she says she gets at least 25 emails per day from single guys and it's hard work just going through them all. So she will delete those that have crappy names like SoHung or BigDick etc and those that show no imagination in the subject line like "hi" or "hey".

Her next step is to then delete them based on their profile, what they've said and what pictures they've uploaded - based on her preferences. The rest, if any, she'll then read and only reply to those that she feels suit her or have put some effort into the text.

As single males on this site we're up against the odds in trying to attract the attention of any ladies. It's like standing in a crowd of 50,000 men all shouting "look at me" and you're shouting "look at me" to attract attention.

Good luck.

Hi Discoalpha,

Well what 'pick-up techniques' are you using now? Like what are you saying in your messages or flirts? Are you looking for couples, girls, guys? That all depends too...

Your pic looks good enough, or at least you have one! ;)

I don't know why your getting knocked back - i'd certainly give you a chance to at least show some face pics! ;)

Girly. xxx

Itsscience, that is all so true.

And as a couple, we get inundated like crazy!!! It's stupid and she's so right - you do have to delete in the end what you can't be bothered to reply to as they haven't really put in the effort. :)

So I feel compelled to give you my truth.

the flirt was fine, and thank you. As I say in my profile I will and did answer.

I dont mind one way or the other if you have a face pic up, as we all have a different need for some privacy or discretion.

You answered "ask me" on a few to many of your personal traits-I would rather you just not answer.

You also wrote ask me for the relationship status Question- this screams attached - I prefer honesty and for my part I will still talk to you whatever your situation....

I read the part of the profile that you write about yourself and base most of my opinion on this...and sadly in your case I found it overly sexual and demanding, I know profiles are hard to write but this is your first impression and as has been said being a guy on here you are already behind the eight ball, make it the best you can.

I apologise if I have offended you but in the interest of fair play and because I believe in second chances send me a message that tells me about yourself not necessarily about the BJ you want as thats a given.

Im hearing you discoalpha I thought it was just me I have tried the polite hi how are you approach and the ok lets get this over with and just do it approach. After reading through some forums it all points to the old yep you are male and there is a whole store full of them on here and women can afford to pick and choose

I know this is an old thread, but I feel compelled to give my opinion.

 

I have been on RHP for some years on and off, between and sometimes during relationships. There are techniques that I have more recently experimented with that really help to be noticed. Replying to these forums is one, especially if you can show intellectual, emotional and truthful responses. I agree with what has been said by all, but will give my own spin on it.

I have had success with not just one, but many recently which is a BIG change. So what did I do?

1. Changed name from a sexually driven name to a more mysterious name that encompasses me as a person.

2. Changed my profile to something that is not independantly sexually orientated,  added more of me into it, it is more now about who I am and what I like and dislike. Even with a niche subject matter, the people that do contact me back are actually looking for me. Of course, photo's are important too.

3. Posted on Forums giving opinions and started my own

4. I keep online, even if not there as much as possible

5. Enter chats, but I get a bit overwhlemed at times being a little socially inept, so I just watch, but I am in the list and get looked at from time to time from it

6. Send my flirts and messages daily, using my quota and often use simple winks and messages, without being presumptuous.

7. Reply quickly to winks and messages showing interest, once the initial contact has been made, then I know I can open up and tell them more, or be creative in replies

8. Honesty is the best policy, people will read between the lines. take this into consideration

9. Wink and message when they are online as they are more likely to take a look straight away rather than find your message amongst the hundreds in their inbox

10. Persistance, not harrassment is key.... if you message or wink, try again later... weeks later, or after a profile update. The squeeky wheel gets the oil! But in saying this, no expectations, there will be many not interested in some aspect of you and that is okay too.

 

Hope that helps anyone having this issue and searching for the answer?

 

Casper74

 

Casper is pretty much on the mark, although I have to say that I generally have alot more luck clicking with people I message first.
What makes me message? Ok, I do a search, so at least a person falls in my age preference :P (sorry but it shits me getting flirts/messages from ppl OUTSIDE my stated preference). What do you see? Photos.

A great photo: Head shots win, hands down. Artistic shots win. Quirky shots win. (I know I don't have a headshot at the moment, but... in my defense, I'm not actively seeking playmates and the current pic was specifically for one person's benefit). My advice? Put on a nice shirt, smile, and maybe take the photo somewhere interesting.

So in order of priority: Age, Name, Photo. Nail those three and you are 90% of the way there, because then I'll look at your profile.

Refer casper's points #2 & #8.

Oh and for the love of all you find holy, please DO NOT head a message with "hi" with content of "how you doin" or a variation on this theme. It didn't work for the last 492 guys, it ain't gonna work for you. READ her profile. Take something from it. Use that in your opening message. Simple. PLEASE. Lol.

(disclaimer: I'm not looking, don't bother trying it here :P)