I agree with you Saturn, and I'm not sure there's much place for self-righteousness or sanctimony on here, to be honest.
Since when did being in a relationship equate to not being entitled to develop as an individual? Reading the forums and sex secrets is akin to reading erotica. Is that something he should have 'confessed' too. Is he not entitled to learn, explore in his mind, uncover aspects of himself and get comfortable with those, before having to reveal the whole thing to his partner, if he has to reveal it at all?!
To the OP, I agree that now your partner has opened the door, you could sit down with her, Google swingers and go exploring together. A note of caution - swinging can be fraught and has ended many a solid relationship. Tread carefully, and maybe agree on some ground rules, so things don't get out of hand.
Good luck! Have fun xxx
Just what I was going to say.
Aint hindsight a wonderful thing?
Dontcha just love it when all the sancitmonious, holier-than-thou, I-never-lie or cheat brigade condemn? Boy it would be so wonderful to be that damn perfect.
Careful folks....some ones halo's will slip and it wont be "Slipperies"