Fairly new back to the Singles scene, and whilst I consider myself (and am told) fairly attractive with a figure most women in their forties would be happy with, I always struggle with the fear that the Fellas I organise to meet are going to think " Oh no..Is that HER!", lol.
I'm intelligent, can hold a conversation... and if not, my chest seems to keep mens' attention, lol.... yet I seem to stop myself meeting anyone new because of ths fear?
Is it natural? I've been in a long term relationship prior to becoing single and whilst its' all exciting, explolring my boundaries, the thought of getting to that point and the whole being naked in fromt of new men terrifies me sometimes! How do I get past this feeling?
Women are so hard on themselves. Some men like us lush and curved , some like us thin some love big bushes of pubs
Men have a variety of taste and when they are hard they tend not to see your lumps or bumps , what the do see is your pleasure in what they give you.
Lusty confident women turn men on, Men tend not to notice the details of your saggy tits or what other flaws you think you have.
Pin your ears back and enjoy, but a word of caution
For a lot of men its just pure animal sex, if your vulnerable or think something else my come of it then do not think RHP will get you a man
It may, but that is rare
It will get you laid and as many times as you like.
It can make you feel good about yourself, very sexy and desired.
It can also make you feel less of a woman if you can,t deal with me fucking you and then not talking to you again, or getting you to suck their cock and then zipping up. It comes with the territory.
A hard dick is like a charging Rhino, it cant see to much
Tuscan Red, brilliant as ever, I agree wiht the ladies above.
You just have to love yourself and then getting laid is easy.
There's being careful and thoughtful mand then there is overcompicating it. Somewhere in between is about right.
And just be aware that guys here think you are a super model when they first message you and then if you reject them they can at times tell you all sorts of things to deflect their insecurities about themselves onto you....What out for those ones, just had once of those nitwits who is new to the site and wants to "Collar" his women folk off this site, loved me up til I said no, and reminded him I have my own property, then suddenly I was ugly.
Here as with everyhwere else in society you will find the good, the bad and the down right insecure....
So, enjoy. And learn to use that litle button called "Block" so to avoid becoming defleated when your polite decline gets fireballs in retaliation.
Yeah a long table cloth
A man down under
Its dinner at the Y
Do you send them a recent pic of yourself or cam before you meet to see what each other looks like? If you have given them access to either...then I don't see the problem! They are wanting to meet you knowing what you look like!
If you are sending old pics, then, I would say that honesty is the best policy and no wonder you feel nervous!
I'd like to say a huge thank you to everyone who contributed a thought or piece of advice on my Topic!
It has been wonderful to read ur thoughts and I feel I now understand that I HAVE in fact been VERY hard on myself in the past.
I guess being that I'm now in my forties and not exactly feeling the most confident about that fact in itself, I fell into the trap of expecting rejection everywhere I went. That is now OVER, thanks to you guys, so a BIG PAT ON THE BACK to you all from me.
Yes. my profile pics are really me, taken within the last couple of months, and not photoshopped, (don't see the point) lol.
MissOpenMinded, you are certainly one altogether lady at just 24, thank you so much.
Woohoo! I'm gonna like me from now on, lol xxx
Hate to rain on anyones parade, but I totally can relate to where the OPs head is at...although Im glad to see shes had a great rethink thanks to the lovely supportive posts she has received...you go girl !!!
But rejection still hurts..especially when you dont understand it..
Ive been chatting to a lovely guy over the last few days..he sounded perfect and wonderful...ticking all the boxes..all was great..
Tonite he asked would I like to meet up for a drink..I said yes...he said shall we exchange pics or shall we just meet up...?
..now anyone looking at my profile will see theres a great deal of me on there pic wise.....its not like theres any big surprise....and I am totally honest in my profile...and my pics are only 6 months old (thanks Tuscan Red)
..I said sure heres access to my PG - meanwhile he has no photo on his profile nor did he offer to open up his PG... but I was quite taken with all that he wrote...I can see beyond the physical ..Im pretty sure Im the only person in the world that can !!!
So 20 minutes ticks by and no reply to my message after I opened up PG for him......so I messaged him again "Ah is that a renege on the drink offer ? "( I wanted to know whether to go home and get ready or alternatively hit the gym which was my original destination..
He took a while to respond and he replied...No that he didnt think I was rite for him...having said that he was very polite which I appreciated.. and I do not fault him in any shape or form...
but hang on...I was purely judged on my looks but lets face it, most of me appears on my profile...??? go figure...now dont get me wrong had we met for a drink and there was no connection...I could fully understand it and no problemo, but Im buggered if I understand, mega connection over several days, most of my pic showing and Im totally honest on my profile and his been messaging me for days with future plans of us going to the footy and going down south for rides on his motobike
Can someone please enlighten me, cause Im obviously not getting it...was I played and too stupid to know ??
Looks like a DVD and pack of Lindt White Choc balls for me tonite....:(