Ok, I've noticed lately a few men asking where they're going wrong, why aren't they getting any kind of success with women on this site... The fact of the matter is, there's just way too many men for every one woman. Look at the number of people online, and the number of women looking for men, compared to the number of men looking for women...it works out roughly to be around about 10 men for every 1 woman. It's stiff competition. Anyway, I came across a post from a similar forum from a lady who addressed the issues more succinctly and articulately than anything I could ever write... I'm aware the reality is that the people who need to read this won't, or aren't even aware of this section of rhp, but to those that have somehow filtered through...hope this is of some help... ***************************************************** ***************************************************** ***************************************************** There are so many questions posted by members on how to improve their chances of meeting up potential partners that I thought I'd share some insights for the guys, from a womans point of view. after all, our view counts as we're the ones your trying to make an impression on! take them or leave them as you will. THE PROFILE your profile is the first impression a woman will have of you. if you look at your profile, would you be interested in you? Take a few minutes and give it some thought. You have to not think like a guy. after all you're not attracting guys. and If you are, then keep thinking like a guy. this is basic marketing- writing TO YOUR AUDIENCE. not to yourself. Saying "yea I'm god's gift to women" might impress you, it wont impress her. enough said. Be yourself. be upfront and honest. share some things about you that doesn't pertain to your sexual preferences. any hobbies? anecdotes? pets? let some of your personality come through. Women know this is a site to find sex partners. we know you want to have sex, thats a given. what we Do want to find out is if youre also a good person, sane, not a psycho axe murderer. just stating "your here to have fun and sex" isn't enough foreplay for us to want to write you back. THE PHOTO ok this can be a deal maker or breaker, and here's where you should put in a little effort. Man there are some awful photos on this site. for the most part, guys think right up front in your face. women tend to be more creative romantic thinkers. its just the way the two brains are wired. Putting a photo of a close up of your dick head so we can see every pore and freckle isn't going to have the same impact as your naked form silhouetted against a window. if you're more inclined to a face shot, make sure we can see your face! take off glasses and hats. Un-clutter the area so we can clearly see you. smile. look alive. see what angles your face looks best at and use that angle! double chins shouldn't be taken full on as it makes the face look bigger, for example. the body shot can be more particular. if you aren't in the best of shapes (round not being a shape here), consider angles to show off your best attributes. have a cute butt? great legs? show us! standing like a schlub with a belly hanging over a cock is never ever going to be attractive, neither is obviously sucking your stomach in to disguise the fact that your chest has slipped majorly. try lying down. or on your side. the spread leg thing either on your back or bend over from behind will have you viewed by every gay/bi guy on the site. you've been warned. THE DICK PHOTO I'm sure some women feel differently than this but unless you have a truly superior dick, be very careful about these shots. some NO-NO's: - so close that we can see hair follicles and pores - just the head, or barely sticking out from a thick thatch of hair - the underside of your dick. - Any photo that includes you doing ANYTHING to another woman. (if you have her, what do you need us for? it turns YOU on, it doesn't turn us on) - having 4-5 dick shots on your profile is also an overkill. Again, women are more creative romantic thinkers. not IN YOUR FACE. There is something to be said for a little mystery. a good pose. THE SEARCH So, you've found someone who interests you. PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR PROFILE. we say what we mean on it. if it states no guys under 30 and you're 24, DON'T WRITE. unless of course, you like rejection letters or not getting responses at all. if she says she's looking for women, DON'T WRITE. if she says she's looking for single guys and your married, DON'T WRITE. getting the picture here? regardless of how hot she is, RESPECT what she's looking for. if you've signed on with a standard membership and are sitting back wondering why women don't write, its because most women don't really browse men. women get so many emails they can for the most part, pick and choose. there are very few woman who actually have a paid memberships so cant initiate email contact. sorry, thats just the way it is. you need to be able to initiate contact with us! winking is fine, but if she cant email you, you're winking up a dead end. THE EMAIL now. first of all, BE POLITE! jeez. regardless of what sort of site this is, a little politeness goes a long way. very rarely will a "WANNA FUCK TONITE" email get responded to in the way you want. most women aren't sitting around with their legs spread waiting for the first dick wagged in their direction! You want to think of communicating via email like a ping pong game. The idea is to get the conversation flowing back and forth between the players. Open-ended questions are the types where the other person can answer with more than a yes or no. For example, "I see you enjoy bungee jumping. how long have you been doing that for? where's your favorite place to jump?"  closed ended questions only require yes or no for an answer and you've dropped the ball. conversation closed. You want to avoid them. Statements that dont require any sort of response are also best avoided. Don't send personal information in a first email. no phone numbers, no instant messengers, no regular email addresses. it comes across as being desperate which is in no way attractive to women. You also don't know if the woman who seems good on paper is actually a desperate stalker. If you get a decline of any form, move on graciously. calling her a slut or bitch or lesbian because she's not attracted to you only confirms that you weren't her type anyway. there are tons of fish in the sea. You men have so much competition you need to make yourselves stand out in a crowd and stand out to the women you're trying to attract. You MUST put forth the effort if you want success. It's very one sided, but that's how things are on here. yes this is a site to find sexual partners among other things. However, it is not your "right" to get laid once you get on the site. nor is it our "obligation" to spread legs to any guy who writes to us. Regardless of what sort of photo a woman has up DO NOT THINK FOR ONE MINUTE that this woman is a whore. you aren't going to be paying her anything. she'll only meet you if she's attracted to your photo, profile and messages. And she's better at advertising herself than you are because she put up what attracted YOU to her profile. (remember men=in your face women=creative romantic) WOMEN ALSO NEED TO FEEL A CERTAIN SENSE OF SAFETY WITH ANY MAN WE DECIDE TO MEET. just something to keep in mind. And we've come to the conclusion of how to be successful 101. Your homework is to revamp your profiles and take a better photo than the one you have up by next week. yes there will be a test. ok no there wont, but I do hope y'all have picked up enough to tweak your own profiles and have some success on this site. best of luck finding what you're looking for