Well, here goes... My first post on a subject which is entirely relevant to me and my experiences thus far in the online and real life dating realms.Are guys instantly turned off when a young, attractive woman mentions the C word... no not that C word, I refer to the other apparently repulsive C word 'children'. So I'm 26, divorced, 2 young kids and not looking for anything serious... that underlined part doesn't seem to matter, most guys I've told about my children have flipped their shit and run a mile, usually it's revealed when I can't catch up on a whim because I have my babies to look after. I'm out to have some fun, not husband hunting. Having children means I have to plan things, spontaneity goes out the window for a while (or at least until my weekends off!)
Anyway, so I can't hide the fact I have kids, even if I wanted to. I have a 'damaged' body for want of a better term and their names are tattooed on my back. I'm not ashamed of them, I am proud to be their mother; but more and more I find it a hinderance to my chances of being a lover as well. I'm not defined by being a mother, I don't go out and say "Hi, I'm J and I have two children, aged 3 and 2, how are you?" - It is a massive part of my life but not who I am entirely.
So guys, younger guys in particular, what's the dealio? Is a single mum/MILF/procreating superwoman a huge turn off or is it ok? Be honest, explicit in why it's a turn off, I need to avoid people like that obviously! You can't and won't offend me.
with Mrs P,you don't have to reveal everything about yourself if you are not seeking a serious relationship.There are also young men here who are divorced single dads,I imagine they would exprience similar problems.
Most people have scheduling problems ,whether it is to do with family or work committments,few are available 24/7.
As for the tattoos ,I have a tattoo on my shoulder,and have never been asked about it yet.I think you will find most men tend to be distracted by others aspects of your body and are quite incurious.However if someone asks ,give a simple and to the point explanation such as, they are the names of your children who you have shared custody of.That tells the questioner that you are not looking for a father for them, because they already have one.
You are an attractive young women OP and I hope you find what you ar looking for here.x Hugs H
I had a look on your profile it says romance, dinners that kind of thing.
You also have 14 hunks on your friends list, so that may intimidate some nice not so hot guy who may want to wine you and dine you.
Kids can be an issue a some guys do not want the complication and also would not want to get to meet your kids under any circumstance, especially if all they want is to bonk the yummy mummy.
children do make men think of that other c word, commitment.
Just go to the pub if you want to get laid, your pretty just find a bar stool
and they will come.
I am sure you are doing very well , I had to wipe my chin from drool when I looked at your friends list.
as a guy i cant understand why guys would run away just becuase u have kids.. for a start ur very attractive.. even when i was 20 , if a hot lady like yourself was interested , even if she had 10 kids , i wouldnt of said no .. some blokes are too weird.
id say just keep trying , its a big world and there are plenty of normal blokes out there without issues.. i saw your pics you really do look hot ..i think you should change your body type from average to sexy..
While you may think you are damaged goods you are far from it, it is a perfect situation to sort the men from the boys, there are guys out there that would jump at the chance knowing there is nsa but respect the fact you have the courage to lay it all on the line and those that run aren't really worth your time and effort. Respect yourself always
Trust me, this has NOTHING at all to do with you being a single mother. This has to do with you not dropping EVERYTHING to go and root them...In their mind it is "How dare you pick ANYTHING over my cock"! Don't let them get to you hun..They really are not worth getting your Golden Ticket!
I think that your children are an important part of you.
Why should this became a problem?
If you met guys that cannot understand this.... they are missing something. Not you.
Be proud of yourself, as you are.
With the "whole package" !!!
I wish you the best....