Friends and playmates.

Jan 14, 2012

jennylee1903

Woman 45yrs

For many years, our best friend would join hubby and me in bed. It was a wonderful relationship (and it still is) but when she found a new man, who doesn't play, that side of our relationship ended. Perfectly understandable, we harbour no resentment and we are still all good friends. My purpose in joining RHP was to try to find another lady, or even a couple, who would be interested in a similar relationship. It seems that most swingers prefer to keep their playmates seperate from their social lives. I can see where they're coming from but I find the sex isn't as satisfying without that close connection. I have made contact with some people on RHP who seem to share my attitude but they have been at some considerable distance making the social side of the relationship difficult.

What are your views on swinging? Closeness versus anonymity.

Jan 15, 2012 Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply

Stalky

Two separate worlds for me.

Anonymity goes a long way to avoiding the awkward circumstances where you feel it is difficult to say "next" if you want to. You can just say it without remorse or risk of splitting up your lifelong friends and, potentially your family. Plus, swinging is a bit of realised fantasy and role play in an otherwise "normal" life. An escape. You can be Carmin Miranda if you want to and you can dress up and adopt a completely different character each time you venture out into your secret world of slut. It's more difficult to do those things unless you're largely anonymous. It's difficult to be taken seriously as a district court judge if you are wearing a bra on your head. Hugs Stalky

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cavey50

Man 52yrs

how good would it be?

How goos would it be IF we were able to have a coupe over for dinner and a nice evening, then go... "Hey, we are going to bed and get cosy: want to join us?"

If you feel comfortable enough in a couple, Or a single to suggest this, then what a good evening it could turn out to be.

I dont do long term relations now, but, I USED to :)

AND some of them have had the added extras of friends with benifits, where either one of felt at ease enough to ask/suggest.

I have asked couples myself.

In some cases, something has come of it, in others, they have got bent out of shape.

Good Luck JennyLee..

I hope you find someone, OR a couple to play with again...

AND.. who knows.. you "FRIEND" might talk her new BF around :)

caveman

Jan 17, 2012 Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply

imagineers

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 42yrs

luck o the devil

know xackly what you mean. We have been lucky enough to have had a few fem friends who where comfortable with us both as a couple. Actually 3 have asked us.

Would love to have a regular as well. Maybe wont find her here but will keep lookin.

Maybe Mormons have something right.

Count yourself lucky to have had the experience I doubt it is as common as we think.

Good hunting

Neil

Jan 28, 2012 Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply

jennylee1903

Woman 45yrs

Anyone else ...?

I appreciate your thoughtful responses but had hoped for a wider cross section to get a better feel for the way people approached play. Why is it that someone can start a thread every couple of days to talk about the size of a dick and get a huge response but nobody wants to get serious?

Jan 28, 2012 Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply

Paradisepair

Couple Man 40yrs Woman 40yrs

Good point

We have set some rules up, and no friends is amongst them. To a) protect our friendships from unnecessary complication and b) it's just cleaner that way. That said we happy to befriend playmates.

Jan 28, 2012 Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply

MrsPeachyPear

Woman 48yrs

:-)

When I first joined RHP with the Mr after having experienced play with friends of ours, our ideal was to form a friendship. We met some wonderful people but over the long run our best ever play time was anonymous. That was through the local paper and after one ph call hehe.

Hugs... Mrs P