If you are kind of new to the m/m bit there's something most guys overlook. Just becausae you are curious about same sex play doesnt mean that you will be turned on by every guy you meet naked in the dark. You do meet people that you think you might like to play with only to discover that you bore each other in the bedroom. It's not either person's fault, I think it's just that sometimes you meet lovers who just doesn't push your joy buttons and you struggle to maintain an erection. My first deliberate encounter with another guy was just like that and I thought... wtf.. that was ordinary, so I must be completely straight. well, I've discovered that I'm not.. that there are guys who do have the ability to make me get to the point I want to be... and that they are a rarety but well worth the search.
Another misconception is that guy on guy is all about penetration, whereas some m/m contact doesn't involve any penetration. Some guys into m/m dont like anal sex for instance, some don't like to suck dick, some don't want to be receptive, some only want to be receptive and so on. It can be difficult meeting a guy with whom you are compatible! In my experience, even if penetration occurs most interludes culminate in one or both dudes wanking to complete the deed, so there's more to it than the penetration focussed style hetero sex.
Of course, with mmf there's more at stake. mmf, even bi mmf is usually all about the woman. So treat it like any mfm ecept with more options... lolz. the same issues arrise... for first timers I think issues usually relate to performance anxiety or jelousy. The sheer fact that there is another guy present is very stimulating for women and guys usually make the mistake of assuming that her excitement is caused by the other guy's skill, talent or equipment..... which makes you feel anxious.. but the truth is more likely that she is not being excited by him, so much. More that she is excited because there are two of you paying her all this attention.
Just some quick thoughts....
I think the secret is to relax, really let your inhibitions go, and enjoy all that physical contact. You don't have to do everything at once in your first mmf... there will be others... just relax and do whatever it is that you feel like doing intuitively and you will surely enjkoy the experience.
The first time issue is always some what of a scarie thing to be honest. I am assuming that it will be the first time you have had a sexual encounter with a guy and the first time you have both been in a threesome. This will sound really silly but you two have to be sure you want to try this and exactly the level you want it to go to.
So it is important that you both are will to see each other engaged in sex with another man and not get upset by it. On the balance of probability you are both going to enjoy it and you have to remeber this is just about sex and no he will be no better or no worse than you. He will not suck your cock any better or any worse than your wife/partner so these question should be out...you would be surprised how tempted you will be ask that sort of Q.
Once you both know the limits you want to do then you have to find a person who will respect those limits so it would be best to find some one who is not a virgin so to speak for this type of activity...three virgins would just be plain awkward.
Once you have these elements under control remeber one thing this is about having fun...enjoying your self so do just that and nothing more...relax enjoy...
As Gazza said you will find that as you go with the flow some things will just come naturally if you are worried about going down on a guy for the first time do it at the same time as your wife so you do a double act it will help you relax a little in that situation.
come over to my place for drinks first. if your or your girl happy for mmf or mmmf after initial meetings and discuss our limitations (i have another male friend who would love to play mmmf too). then we can have fun in my bedroom.
drop me an flirt or message. if you are interest.
MMF is the best. just dont be to quick to rush into anything, for the first times should be the best times.
I know it can be very hard to find the right bi guy, just keep talking to people from here and after a while youll find someone that is smart, funny, interesting, and hot assss.
Hi, I'd love to know if you have found someone yet and what you both thought of the experience. My ultimate fantasy is to be with 2 bi guys... well actually I'd love a 4some with a bi girl and 2 bi guys and mix and match and goup sex in every possibl combination... so I'd love to hear how it went for you two.
Go with what love curvie say's.
Both the female and male need to be able to enjoy the pleasure of seeing and doing.
First time my wife seen me with a guy, she was going to leave me.
To her I was sick.
Then we played again and she pushed me to do it and wow.
Must admit I enjoy'd watching her and the guy just as much or even more.
What a turn on for both of us once we both found new open mindedness.
Oh, if only I was in your area and the age group you are looking for!
It is interesting to see some of the comments about the difficulty of finding Bi guys - I have noticed that a lot of profiles specifically don't want interaction with bi-guys (ironic as the female in the relationship is almost always Bi). So I don't note in my profile that I am bi-curious - it seems to scare most couples off...perhaps I should change my profile??
Anyway, good luck in finding the right guy ;)
wish i was in there