you didnt have a threesome though did you? your wife had sex with a younger man while you sat in the loungeroom....you need to be there, you need to be a part of it, for it to be a true threesome. feeling awkward and unsure is natural. its a big thing to share your partner with another, but every time you do, it gets a little easier, and absolutely can be sexier each time.... communicate your wishes, your desires and your hesitations and fears.... its about the two of you after all..... and should always be as much fun as you can make it..... have a laugh and play with it...........

Naw honey, you have suffered what lots of other spouses (male and female) have suffered.

There is every chance that she got all "kid in a candy shop lust drunk" with her new toy. This could be really successful and super hot in the future for ALL of you.

You need to select the right guy/girl who has done this quite a bit before though, so they have experience in being a thoughtful and respectful 3rd wheel. There are lots of people who know how to be a good 3rd wheel and put the enjoyment of the couple first, as a third wheel you must understand that YOU are there for THEM. We enjoyed a number of amazing MFM experiences because we selected the right people. Also, what i learnt after our first MFM is that it's HER responsibility to include you and to remember that it's the other guy who is the extra to the couple. The guy should kind of be your assistant, directed by you if neccessary in how to pleasure your wife (as you are the one who knows or should know her best). Choose a guy who is happy to be your sidekick here and everyone will have an amazing time.

Have fun!!!!

xx goodgrl

You have to get in there with her...heaps of fun to be had:

....split roast

....and then swap ends

....lick her out......yummmmmmm

....Kiss her on lips while she has another cock in her.

....Watch her facial expressions as he penertrates her for the first time.

......an hour later....coffee break and start from the beginning again.

.......DP?????

Its 3 people playing together!  not one on one sex swapping.

The first three posts are all great! I took in all the input.

Gee, as mikeandshel pointed out, you didn't quite really have you first threesome.

Be great for you not to get your wires crossed next time...as it would appear you both missed each others company during the experience.

 

Have a  good 'un!

I don't think you were left out,think you left yourself out.

Maybe your wife did get a bit carried away with the situation but really hiding in the corner will do no one any good.I am sure your wife enjoyed it but i am even more sure of the fact that she would have enjoyed it twice as much with a second set of hands all over her .Unless there was some mm bi play expected it really was all about her (as it should be)fot the night.

Try again but make it a night you will enjoy as well by being an even participant,this in turn will make her enjoyment trifold.

Everyone wins.

Mr Luvsilver

I  was left out but that was by choice...  As a birthday present to Mrs JJ,  we meet with a young guy who contacted us here on RHP. After a few messages and a video link up we agreed to meet at a neutral location for a chat.  All went well and the guy commented on  how attractive Mrs JJ was saying he was expecting a more average looking woman..
After that meeting we contacted him to arranged to meet him at a city hotel...  The deal was that this was for Mrs JJ only as Im as straight as a dye.
Cut to the chase,  after drinks in the bar, we all went up to our room which had only 2 rooms,  the bedroom and a bathroom. Already mrs old me she didnt want me too far away not really knowing the guy.  It didnt really fase the guy or me being there, but I really would have liked another room close by to go to' but not a bathroom.
Now I dont know if it was because I was there'  but the guy didnt realy get into it as much as both of us would like. All started off well with some passionate kissing and lots of gropeing from both. But then it seemed he was stuck on his back, and it was Mrs JJ doing all the prompting.  The big shame here is he was extremely well endowed with 9 ' + and thick so Mrs again took the lead and mounted him..  So where am I going with this ?
The bottom line is Mrs JJ was so frustrated with his attitude that she has sworn never again, even though he texted us some 1/2 hr later apoligizing for his performance because of his anti depression medication.  However' he did cum big time when Mrs was riding him.
Finally,  after we came back from dinner, Mrs was still so dissappointed she could not even get in the mood again and we both turned over and went to sleep... that was some 12 months ago now and she still feels uneasy about meeting with any guy again.    So her first experience was mixed with some good and bad, and mine as a 3rd person not good as I would have liked..    So yes'  if theres no thought to all,  it can be a dud...  But being the optimist I am,  I believe it could be great if done right..  I also came to the conclusion that its not all about her..  unless her man is happy to let her have some fun 1 to 1... 

...Mainly because it all depends on communication. As the male of this couple, I find that most people are very awkward talking about what they want to do in front of others. Also, to be blunt, it can have an interesting effect on guys... some guys are much quicker from the "spectacle"... and some take much longer because of the 'stress'. Plus; guys tend to assume the other guy is judging them... and so don't want to come too soon; or make too much noise!

 

It's all about discussing it first... which can be done very seductively and not sound like a biology lesson. Figure out if there are any rules, and who is comfortable with what.

 

The best times I've found have been when the other guy has been confident enough to joke around and almost make a game of it - being able to say what we want, because frankly the girl has normally been too busy to really make the decisions anyway!

 

Still, talk to your mrs first... especially if you're a little shy. Tell her you want her to involve you. Give her suggestions of things she can do to make you feel involved. Tell her what things you're hoping to experience; and ask if she can make it happen for you. You're 'letting' her be with another man... i'm sure she would love to repay the favour by making sure you enjoy it; and you feel special too! I suspect from the OP's story; that she wasn't sure what you wanted... and possibly thought you wanted to be alone and not involved by you choosing to sit out in the lounge room?

 

If a guy is too nervous to have the other male in the room - then he's not the guy that should be involved. Find someone else... there are so many single guys on RHP that it shouldn't be a problem!

 

And just like all sex - they're not all going to be mind-blowing. Some are going to be forgetable. It doesn't mean you don't try again!

seems the OP's gone and left us? bugger hey?

I agree with goodgirlz. The introduced person has a job to do. His/her job is to involve the couple and make them both have the time of their lives. Of course there's an ulterior motive for doing so. What it means is that he/she will get an invite back. The third person is commonly known as "the fuck". The fuck's job is to make sure everyone gets off and then fuck off. It isn't that difficult a task to learn, but as a couple, you need to make sure that the fuck understands its role. It's not there as a proxy spouse. That's where lots of guys and some women get it wrong. Blokes are very sensitive to other blokes who think they're there as a proxy spouse! You can just sense it, maybe it's their attitude. It seems to me women just don't have that testosterone driven sensitivity built in. An accommodating fuck will know his/her place... and back off if it seems one spouse is not being involved. This, is just good manners! Hugs Stalky

Being open and honest about the experience to your wife can only benefit both of you in the long run and finding someone who you're both comfortable with helps too. Sit down and talk about it, tell her you did feel a bit left out and suggest maybe next time you get someone who you'll both enjoy.

Buddy grab your girl by the hair drag her to wherever you want her make her do what you want !! Be the man dont let her take control she wants you to do that and dont let no stranger predict the way it will go !! Infact make him work for it next time !! Its your fantasie and your porno be the director and take control !!

That was a type of three-some. Where one of the three was dis-regarded. Being the male of the entertaining couple, you have a lot of say, or you should have. I suppose it was enlightening for you and your girl, though a more detailed arrangement may be a good idea for your next encounter. one that encompasses all three being involved from start to finish.

We've had almost every type of threesome mentioned above, from very active and hot threeways, to Mr sitting out in the living room.
Communication seems to be the key, as far as we have found. The group activities only started to get good with all of us when we made our desires known to the other. Otherwise there was way too much "I thought you wanted X, You thought I wanted Y when we both wanted Z" type of problems.
But in the end, Mrs has enjoyed the MFM's we've had. Seems we find that extra male talent faster than the female lol.

I was a 3rd for a couple who's male just wanted to watch, but I asked him questions on what his wife liked and we got into quite a bit of chat about it before the meeting. I also suggested it might be nice for him to join in occasionally which he acknowledged but did not agree to at the time.

But later during the playing, he did join in as I suggested and she loved it as did he...it was great to see that not only I and her were enjoying the session but he was too.

ET xox

I couldn't agree more. It can be difficult thing being one woman between two straight men. Of course she has some responsibility to her primary partner because when the night is over and the extras have gone home she still wants a relationship with him BUT if he is uncomfortable with what is happening then it is HIS responsibility to speak up. If HE wants HIS cock sucked then he needs to put it where she is not stand in the doorway waiting for her to notice and move herself and her partner over to him.

 

In this situation she has two guys she has to 'entertain' so to speak. It can be a bit complicated making sure things are even or fair. If she is used to you not being that interested due to you being the one with the lower drive it may not have occurred to her that you were that interested. Also if the other guy was a bit more demanding or giving her more then she can't just turn her back on him in favour of you.

 

As everyone else here has pointed out selection of partner is important and so is communication. Choose a partner who won't push someone out of the way and you are both comfortable with. Also speak honestly and LISTEN honestly to each other. Work through your feelings and issues it might not be easy but you will reap the rewards.

 

Mrs Jones

So much easier when the 2 guys are at least a little bi friendly, that way you could have helped things along and nobody gets left out! It must be a nightmare in a lot of MFM 3somes when one, or worse, both guys are scared of getting close to each other for fear of touching privates!