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Aug 21, 2010
kinky_rodd23   Man 34yrs
Hi Girls, Is there really two types of orgasm ( i.e. clitoral and vaginal ). Which one do you prefer? I seem to remember that a vaginal is more intense but i'm sure that different females have there preferences here. Also, is there any sort of action that gives you a bigger orgasm? TY...
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casava   Woman 33yrs

i love my toys...

wbym...

i have a huge collection of toys...they're spilling out of my bedside drawers....though my favourite has always been the lelo and layaspot, oh and the rabbit as well...lots of great squirting orgasms thanks to that one.

i'm an optimist...hence why i'm still here...though taking a break now after the last lover...absolutely gentle as far as penetration is concerned, but a massive starfish. didn't like to kiss, no oral, massive intimacy issues, had issues touching people but loved receiving their touch and would just lay there while I sucked him off till it was his turn to get off. then he'd bend me over and take me from behind only. i felt absolutely emotionally, spiritually shrivelled and sucked dry.

man...i don't know how i pick them!!



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casava   Woman 33yrs

yes..they do talk it up...

yes, i do try to get to know people and i'm very open about my likes and dislikes...and they all make the appropriate noises about how they're different...but the reality doesn't quite live up to their claims.

absolutely nice guys out of bed, which is what draws me to them...in bed a complete disappointment.

though it's not all bad, there's been a couple of exceptions, one I've met here actually who's pretty damn good. but it's just a mindless fuck, absolutely no intimacy or connection, so I don't like to see him that often.
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70chilloutdude   Man 42yrs

whoa....

Quoting 'casava'
                                  wbym...

i have a huge collection of toys...they're spilling out of my bedside drawers....though my favourite has always been the lelo and layaspot, oh and the rabbit as well...lots of great squirting orgasms thanks to that one.

i'm an optimist...hence why i'm still here...though taking a break now after the last lover...absolutely gentle as far as penetration is concerned, but a massive starfish. didn't like to kiss, no oral, massive intimacy issues, had issues touching people but loved receiving their touch and would just lay there while I sucked him off till it was his turn to get off. then he'd bend me over and take me from behind only. i felt absolutely emotionally, spiritually shrivelled and sucked dry.

man...i don't know how i pick them!!


Oh my god.no kissing...no oral...no touching....3 deadly sins in my book I'm afraid Casava...Tactile rules!!!....Kissing is one of the biggest turn-ons...and as for oral...
Good Lordy some guys give the rest of us a bad reputation...but not me ...he he

Keep smilin...back in the saddle for you.....pick wisely....lol
Chill

                               

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ChasingMidnight

...adding to the list.

Quoting 'Colette'
Ms sweetwithdesire, that run-on orgasm was a true multiple orgasm as opposed to several sequential orgasms.  With sequential you have a distinct end to it and take time to build up to the next one.  As you noticed with the multiple, you actually hadn't come down to earth before you were swept away again. Wonderful isn't it?  For me I always have sequential and occasional multiple. There is no making multiples happen either, they cum of their own accord. As for clitoral, vaginal and g-spot orgasms I find the intensity varies and if you add nipple stimulation it's even better. Yes, Mrs sweetiepie, how much fun is it being a woman! Colette.
Well spoken...and a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.  A lot of knowledge is...delightful.  Of the erogenous zones on a woman that are described...the clitoral has the densest concentration of nerve endings of any part of the skin and indirect stimulation is often the best.  Another is known as the Skene's gland...or the "U Spot".  And within the vagina, is a small area of tissue which similar to the palate, and may involuntarily contract when a woman is sexually aroused. This is the Gräfenberg spot, or "G spot"...and should never be overlooked.  At the deepest point on the anterior wall of the vagina, located near the cervix, is the anterior fornix,or "A Spot".  Other areas known to be orgasmic for some women include the rectouterine, the perineale, and the uterine zones, which, when stimulated can result in the ultimeate inner uterine climax.  I am enjoying exploring the apex of the learning curve.
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I think one should never forget that perhaps the most erogenous zone on either the female or the male...is our mind.  Our thoughts before, during and even after may trigger any number of responses in our bodies...and some that are yet unexplored.  Never say never...try anything twice and more if you like it....and always be prepared to be both a willing student and an evne more willing teacher.
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Could be time for a bit of advanced study. 

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Time4me2know   Man 40yrs

Feedback & an Understanding Technique helps

Casava, I recommend getting a lover who can read your responses.  I had a partner who only ever had clitoral orgasms, mainly because she never had the right attention.  What works best in my experience is having the woman prone, with a few pillows under her hips and her knees slightly apart so her bum is just a little in the air with her lover kneeling behind her.  The woman should receive plenty of caressing of her legs, back and bum, and foreplay on her clitoris, BUT NO PENETRATION YET.  Only after the woman has become very aroused, her lover should slowly start to penetrate her with a few fingers.  This should be gentle, slow, and NOT VERY DEEP.  Almost instinctively, when the woman craves a little more contact, she'll push her hips up towards her lover a bit.  This feedback is the cue to give her a little more depth.  Once full penetration has been reached (and you don't need to try and tickle her tonsils, depth isn't the key) her lover should start to ensure that the penetrative strokes stimulate the wall of her vagina closest to the pillows under her hips (so downward strokes are made).  This needs to be gentle, like stroking a kitten.  The woman will want the pressure of the strokes to increase, instinctively she will raise her bum so there is more downward pressure.  As she raiser her bum higher and higher, her lover should move closer between her legs so that her knees are further apart.  This positioning puts gentle tension on her mussels in her groin as she raises her hips higher.  Plenty of foreplay, slow penetration with a few fingers, knees apart, bum in the air, gentle downward pressure, will all cause the woman's G-Spot to swell.  This will feel like a small knot of mussels and is very subtle.  Once the G-spot swells, everything becomes easy.  The woman will respond to its stimulation by raising her bum to get more pressure on the G-spot and her lover should comply and focus more strokes on it.  This feedback is a self-fore-filling cycle!  The lover will feel the woman's vagina convulse when she comes:  there's no faking this.  Importantly, unlike clitoral orgasms that result in wonderful sensations but also a tender and hyper-sensitive clitoris that the woman may not want to be touched for sometime, G-spot orgasms are (apparently) more intense and the G-Spot can continue to be stimulated after the first wave, so as to bring on more orgasms (I obviously don't have one so I'm going on what I've been told and seen through my own interactions.)    I know that this might sound very formulaic, but it is not, so long as things go slow, as this gives the woman the space to communicate her responses so her lover.  If she's not pushing her hips and bum up into the air, then don't give her more pressure, but adjust the strokes according to her responses: let her respond and keep the cycle going.  This is more important than speed or thrusting, which looks dramatic, but often is just distracting for the woman.  Plenty of caressing of the woman's legs, lower back, and bum while she is getting gentle penetration also helps to stimulate her: it is about total stimulation and pampering.  The woman needs to know that she is the centre of the universe and that everything will be done to give her satisfaction.  It is not easy, but it is worth the effort.  It can be confronting for some women to position themselves with their bum in the air and their knees wide apart and their lover kneeling behind them and working on their vagina with their fingers (and mouth) as it all seems just a bit like contrived porn-star positioning. Try it and smile. Matt x. PS:  You'll notice that I've used the two terms "the woman" and "her lover".  I've done this because this technique is cock-free.  A bisexual girlfriend of mine taught me all about this.  A woman can be brought to orgasm (or orgasms!) this way by her male or female lover.  It just takes a little perception on the part of the lover, and trust on the part of the woman.  Good luck, happy to discuss anytime. M x
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orcaboy  

Man 40yrs

Kegal exercises

I give these exercises to some of my clients, they are called kegels , they help both men and woman in obtaining increased control  and thus better orgasms, try them
The aim of Kegel exercises is to improve muscle tone by strengthening the pubococcygeus muscles (PC)of the pelvic floor. Kegel is a popular prescribed exercise for pregnant women to prepare the pelvic floor for physiological stresses of the later stages of pregnancy and vaginal childbirth. Kegel exercises also increase sexual gratification

Factors such as pregnancy, childbirth, aging, being overweight, and abdominal surgery such as cesarean section, often result in the weakening of the pelvic muscles. This can be assessed by either digital examination of vaginal pressure or using a Kegel perineometer. Kegel exercises are useful in regaining pelvic floor muscle strength in such cases.

Kegel exercises —are helpful for women who have persistent problems reaching orgasm.

How to do Kegel exercises

It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:

Find the right muscles. Insert a finger inside your vagina     and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should feel your vagina     tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and     feel your pelvic floor return to the starting position. You can also try     to stop the flow of urine when you urinate. If you succeed, you've got the     basic move. Don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream,     though. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your     bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete     emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract     infection.Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic     floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Contract your     pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, then relax     for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping     the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds     between contractions.Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic     floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs     or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the     exercises.Repeat three times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10     repetitions a day. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every     time you do a routine task, such as checking email, commuting to work,     preparing meals or watching TV.
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xFunlovingx   Woman 51yrs

...

My last post on here didn't make it...and this one probably won't either...but I have a right to speak my mind...

Casava...don't you have enough respect for your body to force these guys off you if they are hurting  you as much as you say? I cannot believe that you allowed a guy to keep "slamming" into you for 5 minutes.

No wonder guys believe that "no" or "stop" means nothing and keep going...

It horrifies me that women don't speak up when things are uncomfortable or painful (not in a good way).

A very disgusted

xFunlovingx

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casava   Woman 33yrs

learning experience.

xfunlovingx,

no i didn't. it's called being young and completely fucked in the head, when your first introduction to sex was being raped at 16 and the no was definitely ignored, suffice it to say it wasn't exactly a gentle experience. so you get a little older, and you start thinking that's the norm, of course you don't have any respect for yourself...things like that don't happen to good people, i must have done something bad to deserve it, and all stupid self hating shit like that.

you wake up one day, you've got two choices, either end things now, or really end things now. i'm still here, so obviously i didn't pick the second option.

you don't get over it. you may forgive yourself, you may like yourself and respect yourself now. but the scars are still there. in your head you still associate penetration with pain, even though since your reincarnation all of your partners have been gentle if uninspiring lovers.

as for the guy who first started this particular avalanche...he got his just desserts
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eunuch   Man 56yrs

No means No!

Just mulling over casava's unfortunate experience.

Seems like one step removed from rape if it were to go much further.

I can understand someone avoiding a kiss if there is bad breath or rotten teeth... but disassociating affection from the sex act is like using the woman as an object for relief like an unpaid prostitute.

Unless its something the woman specifically wants like a gang bang in a sex club.

Tend to think greed also applies to sexual needs as much as it does to a desire for wealth.

It seems that too often the short term orgasm is more important than a longer term mutual enjoyment.
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eunuch   Man 56yrs

Sad to learn of casava's situation

My sentiments go out to you and congratulate you for not tossing it all in.

Life was not meant to be easy (unless you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth) but some times its outright unfair.

Do hope you find a support mechanism here as there are many well meaning people on this site (particularly a number of classy ladies) who can offer help and encouragement.

Best of luck in he future...

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orcaboy  

Man 40yrs

Sorry to hear about your bad experiences Casava

Casava

I feel really bad about your bad experiences, I hope you cut that 1st guys balls off..

We (guys) are not all like that, and i hope you find the right gentleman for yourself, A guy that cares about both you and himself.. The best sex is when the 2 of you work as one, I hope you find that soon


You can take control of all your relationships, whatever form they are, sexual, friendship, client/customer or family, and make it  good for YOU. Take control of everything, and be strong and keep smiling, that lovely smile that you have

Orcaboy

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xFunlovingx   Woman 51yrs

Casava..

Alot of us are in your position...some of us alot younger than you were and alot that it happened later in life. Trust me I know EXACTLY how you feel...mine starting when I was just a child ... but anyway I don't want to go off topic here. If you read the posts in SWB you will see that you are not alone in this and that there really are alot of women out there to help. If you read my forum post in there...you will see what help there is out there and also that there are alot who will listen and help! I got upset at your posts and what you wrote as I am a rape/abuse survivor...it is time to take control!

Come over to SWB and you will get all the help you need...not in here for all to see.

xFunlovingx

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casava   Woman 33yrs

thank you for your support.

xfunlovingx,
thank you for your kind offer. i understand where you're coming from and I'd have the same reaction as well if i read what I wrote previously and didn't get the full background.

and i have posted in swb, but many years ago, and it did help with my recovery. rhp has been a catharsis to me over the years in more ways than one, especially the forums.

it's what keeps me coming back here.

orcaboy,
that guy did as good as get his balls cut off. :)
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sjf12   Man 31yrs

wow, so many responses

haven't got time to read them now, but i am telling you all now, that yes there is two types of orgasm, and that's coming from a bloke.

the second orgasm you are refering can also be called female ejaculation, or more commonly, squirting.

and YES , every woman does have a g spot

i believe it's the most sensual thing you can achieve with a partner.

if anyone is interested in knowing more, femplay australia have a dvd called The G-spot & female ejaculation. it will tell you just about everything you need to know on the subject

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Polar_Bear_Girl

Thanks for the DVD recommendation

Whilst visiting my old man for Fathers Day he wheels out the "I was watching this porno the other day and the woman squirted all over the place".. I've never heard of that before (oh dear, no wonder Mum's gone off him after all this time).  Then he went on to say how he had to ask his Dr what it was all about.  I might order that DVD and get it sent to him. Not that it'll  do the poor bugger any good on the blood pressure meds he's on.  (Damn I should have nicked his viagra script)
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captainkaos  

Man 40yrs

Why do you need a viagra script polar_bear?

Is there something you are not telling us?
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Polar_Bear_Girl

Hahahaha

Well *I* don't need it but really... would love a day or two of solid fucking, and if that helps me get that, even better.
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santabella   Woman 61yrs

female orgasm

I know excactly what you mean...and agree entirely.  They probably watch too much porn....
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eagertongue4u   Man 52yrs

No-one should think they know how to please everyone

Quoting 'casava'
When you make suggestions or even beg them to touch you in a certain way, they have either flat out refused or they go soft or don't want to go on because they're bored!

Casava, that is absolutely disgusting of ANY guy (or gal) not to want to take direction from their lover on how they (he or she) likes to be pleasured. Not everyone is the same and learning from others is the best way to expand your "reportoir" of techniques.

ET

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CumAgainForFun  

Couple Man 41yrs Woman 43yrs

Female Orgasms

Hi All,

          Very interesting array and disturbing topics have come out in this forum, and I feel compelled to add my 50 cents worth.

1) Yes there is at least 3 types of orgasms for women (lucky us!).

2) I think it is really sad that humans are not educated and are so out of touch with their bodies ( and emotions and minds) and most do not even know the location of the elusive "G spot".

3) Clitoral orgasms in my opinion and experience are much more relative to the location and can be just as intense as vaginal orgasms, there are more nerve endings located around the clitoris than any other location in the body ( includding the head of a mans penis).

4) Vaginal orgasms in my opinion and experience can make your uterus contract for days if you are lucky enough...mmm.., and can give rise to multiple orgasms.

5) Some women can orgasm and ejaculate similar to a man.

6) Some woman can orgasm with just nipple stimulation , or without any touch at all.

7) Some women can have "wet dreams" like some men experience.

8) I think it is personal preference of the individual woman as to which one they like best...personally I like them all !!

9) There is also many different types of sex. Sex, love making or fucking depending on our moods at any given point in time, good communication between the parties will indicate which type is appropriate at the time, and a great lover can read this in their partner/s and give rise to fantastic sex, love making or fucking.

10) I would like to comment on Time4Me2Know techniques and knowledge , his techniques is loving and caring and sexy and you would have to be dead not to get wet and stimulated  by his techniques.... the pillow technique under the womans hips certainly help achieve the vaginal orgasm because the penis is stimulating the "G Spot" which is

however...

THE LOCATION OF THE INFAMOUS grafenberg or "G Spot" is inside the FRONT wall of the vagina aproxamatly halfway between the back of the pubic bone and to the front of the cervix, along the course of the urethra and the bladder where it connects with the urethra.

This information is freely available on the www, including pictures... I checked!!

The perfect penis to help you ladies achieve the vaginal orgasm is the one that bends back towards a males body when it is erect.

11) Back to the mind...In my opinion a great fuck starts well before any ones clothes are off, thats why alot of women prefer men that can communicate, both verbally with their minds and then their bodies.

12) No means no.  That WAS rape. Casava it made me very sad to read your comments.

If a woman says no at any point during sex a man can be and will be charged for rape.

If the man was a decent man, (which obvisiously he wasnt - selfish and ONLY interested in his own gratification )  He would have stopped.

13) Unfortunatly back to education. I am all for more in depth sex education which should start in the home and not left for strangers to teach our kids at school. Lets all make a greater effort to sit down and really talk to our kids about the nitty grittys so they dont have to get their education in forums such as this at age 29+ (age of youngest that commented to this topic). That they know and respect themselves and their partners and their bodies and dont live half their lives such as some in the sexual dark. Wouldnt you like to gift to your kids a healthy respect filled fulfilled sex life?

Happy Healthy sex lives,

CumAgainForFun xx

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