I've only had clitoral, so i can't compare.

never vaginal, guys always slam into me excruciatingly hard and/or fast making me numb, so so far penetration is more something to be endured than enjoyed.

Hey Casava.

Have you ever heard of sexual sex, sounds like you have been playing with the wrong boys.

Try some long n slow sex with pelvic grinding, or some rhythmic sex.

The Pubis bone of you and your partner should come into very close contact, your clitoris is very much near to the pubis bone so is stimulated in a more rhythmic way. Use some music to keep the rhythm I suggest silence by delirium or something similar, work with the music and you will not go numb.

No more slam bam thank you mam stuff for you

:)

Oh yes...there is 2 types of orgasms...well 3 if you count anal....well 4 if like me the girl has very very sensitive nipples....well 5 if you count dry humping !!

I find all orgasms in all forms are absolutelyfuckingfantastic!!!!

Ok off to find my vibe now to see if there is a 6th

xFunlovingx

There is absoluetly two kinds and vaginal is definitely way more intense ( and harder to achieve) but once u master it WOW the ulitmate of course is to aim for both a vaginal AND clitoral at the same time! Once you get that you will just never look back ;-)

The subject of which action is best is a worthy point considering casava's experience of being left numb after vigorous sex.

With constant talk about the G spot and some ladies doubting if it exists... it suggests there is a wide difference in plumbing and many other circumstances which result in great variances in experience and enjoyment.

In one sense it suggests that people should experience sex with as many people as possible to find their ultimate partner. Pity that is fraught with numerous problems and not always practical.

On the subject of sex education in school... it's currently restricted to theory... and the quality of which is often debatable. Do wonder in which century practical lessons will become part of the curriculum?

Lets face it... the kids today are having sex at an early age... and it's probably like the blind leading the blind.

So why should it be kept undercover when knowledge and experience would be better conveyed in the same manner that sex therapists correct compatibility problems... sometimes though direct physical participation.

It might sound radical... but it makes a bloody lot of sense when we consider the early native cultures that were crushed by the christian missionaries.

It worked for those early cultures then…

The better the sexual grounding we'll have, and the better environment we'll have to enjoy every facet of sex at its best.

i'm very self sufficient. To compensate for generally uninspiring lovers .

YES YES YES!!

I can achieve both clitoral and vaginal together...it is AMAZINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!

Casava...the best way I find to achieve both (and have relayed to some girls who NEVER orgasm vaginally let alone both) is to lay on top of the guy with his legs straight down and your legs straight just on the outside of his legs....this makes his pelvic bone rub on your pelivic bone....(but wait there is more). If you grab his head and bring him up to your breasts for him to suck and lick...as he does this his penis goes in deeper and his pelvic bone rubs moreso on the clit...Also with you fucking this way...you have more control of the movement...if he tries to take control....just ask him to stop and to allow you to take control of the rythme and depth of his hot hard cock!!

Hope that makes sense and helps you!!

ENJOY xox

xFunlovingx

There are different types of orgasms, and they don't feel the same. Clitoral orgasm is fantastic, especially when you're having it with a partner.  Vaginal is great is a different way, but equally exciting. Like Funloving I have orgasms when the right things are done to my nipples, or orgasms are intensified when nipples are stimulated during intercourse.  I have also found in the past couple of years that I can be so aroused from chatting to someone, or having an intense connection with someone that I orgasm after sex, or from chatting (phone or webcam).  That feels like a vaginal orgasm, even though there is no penetration, or even touch.  Then there are the orgasms where you get so wet...and, for me, are more intense.  Mmmm, it's great being a woman!!!

I agree that vaginal & clitoral orgasms are different and I find I can only have a vaginal orgasm if the guy is long and thick.  If I'm on top and he's long and thick then I get the benefit of both vaginal & clitoral - INTENSE.  I had a fantastic run-on orgasm last week.  Hadn't completely come down from the first one and there was the second... then the third and each was as intense as the first one.  That was fantastic and left me breathless!

Sweet

Thanks to all those who replied to this post. iluvtosmile, i like how you mention the feelings toward the partner and am interested in what other women have to say about if emotions rather than physical stimulation have any bearings on their ability / intensity of orgasm. I guess emotions toward a partner can influence orgasm in two ways. 1 relating to inhibitions and comfort / openness. An the other which enhances intimacy / connection.

Casava

it sound like you need to take some control of your lovemaking, you should be able to orgasm pretty much whatever position you are in, not just on top.

Figure out what works for you, set the tempo for yourself and tell your lover what is working and what is not. Even doggie you can set the standard, instead of him just ramming you, you can be the active tempo setter. try spoons or some other positions that the male finds hard to control then you take the lead

I must say one of the great pleasures for me when having sex is seeing the satisfaction of my partner, whether that is by the look on her face or the body language exhibited. its much better sex then.

I hope you solve your numbing problem

Ms sweetwithdesire, that run-on orgasm was a true multiple orgasm as opposed to several sequential orgasms.  With sequential you have a distinct end to it and take time to build up to the next one.  As you noticed with the multiple, you actually hadn't come down to earth before you were swept away again. Wonderful isn't it?  For me I always have sequential and occasional multiple. There is no making multiples happen either, they cum of their own accord. As for clitoral, vaginal and g-spot orgasms I find the intensity varies and if you add nipple stimulation it's even better. Yes, Mrs sweetiepie, how much fun is it being a woman! Colette.

Funlovin's suggestion is on the money however i believe a girl is in charge of her own orgasms and needs to understand how her individual body works in order to best describe it to her partner so my tips are:
To find the best way to have a vaginal orgasm (assuming you don't have any trouble with the clitoral variety) get some quality alone time and have a play when you are just about ready to cum via clitoral stimulation insert two fingers inside you and feel the muscles that contract as you come. these are the ones you need to learn to focus on to achieve a vaginal orgasm too.

Then you work on finding your Gspot (which has been described in other posts) but basically it is easier to find when you are aroused and you find it on your front wall inside (it will feel like a spongy patch) work on various types of stimulation to see what feels good, if it feels like you are going to make yourself pee you are on the right track

Once you have discovered these wonderful locations it is time to train the muscles for JOY!!! with a caring sharing partner during a slow and sensual session, sit on top of him with his legs out straight and as you go practice those pelvic floor exercises we are always being told to do (FYI this is a much more enjoyable way to do them) it actually feels great for the guy too as he can feel you grip him and you can tell when you are clenching the right muscles because you will feel the ones that you felt with your fingers while you were coming before grip his wonderful hard cock. do this in a rhythmic fashion and feel the pleasure grow, relax and then lay as described by funloving and with practice you will get there, the stronger the pelvic floor and the more control you have the easier it gets and the more mind blowing it becomes as you need to concentrate less.

It was actually through self exploration and pelvic floor exercises that i discovered that i can bring myself to orgasm without even touching myself!!!

As with Sweetiepie i find that i am capable of a variety of orgasm options and it is such a world of discovery with so much fun to be had, best of luck to all and hope this is helpful

This has been a community service brought to you by WBYM lol

Reading WBYM's community service announcement was almost as good as doing it. So many fond memories of past encounters... pity not everyone has WBYM's wonderful approach to problem solving :)

glad you approve of my advice

that does sound great wbym.

when i find someone caring and sensual in bed as well as out...i'd definitely like to try it.

so far my luck has been pretty bad. I mean, absolutely great guys out of bed, in bed it's like they're mr hyde. like that Lily Allen song 'It's not Fair'. When you make suggestions or even beg them to touch you in a certain way, they have either flat out refused or they go soft or don't want to go on because they're bored! I don't get how such good guys out of bed can be such selfish pigs in bed!

My picking radar is massively faulty!

How sad for you, i tend to agree with sweetiepie that a great kisser often = great lover but also i have to wonder, do you talk a lot BEFORE getting them to bed to see if you both enjoy the same things?? or are they all just talking it up but not delivering?
What is with those silly Melbourne boys???
Anyway hope you find that right guy to help you out otherwise perhaps a trip to QLD is in order happy to lend my hubby out and there seems to be some real quality up here from what i have heard and experienced

No, I haven't had any luck there either, one great kisser pretty much tried to bore another hole with his fingers in my vagina because he was convinced he could make me squirt that way. apparently i did squirt, there was wet spots on my sheets, but I didn't feel anything at all...i usually associate squirting with an extremely intense orgasm...and i definitely did not orgasm then.

and the other left me bruised split and bleeding for days after because he was so excruciatingly rough and hard. when i said no, no, stop, he thought that was all part of the sex talk and kept going. thankfully he came within 5 mins.

that is some terrible luck you have there girl, glad you are still here with us by the sounds of it you could have easily thrown in the towel and given up! yikes! my poor pussy is crying just thinking about it

OK plan B: go to the local sex shop, get yourself an assortment of toys and do it your bloody self!! (well you know what they say if you want a job done right, do it yourself)