Have you put i forward to spice things up? Maybe she might want some fun too! :-)

I dont think that is a problem at all. I am married but the bedroom is more for sleeping partnership rather then sensual fun stuff. My vibrator can only please me so much and yearning for more, as long as there is discreetness and knowing your living on the edge and accept your fate, why not :)

How would you feel if you found out your partner was doing the same to you? i.e. screwing other men behind your back or in the case of Krystal what if your guy was screwing other girls behind your back? are you saying you would be ok with that if you found out? what if the partner sleeps with the wrong person an brings something nasty back to your bed room? would you be happy then?

Great to see people having fun, dont know about the other parties involved though.

If you had an open relationship, it would not be a problem.

BUT I do agree with new2darwin, you have to think of your partner, how she would feel. 

Sorry, but after being cheated on, I will tell you it hurts.  I have been left with HUGE trust issues, my confidence has been shattered, I still have nights i wake up in tears, because it keeps replaying, how I walked in on my husband and this woman, then finding out all about the others, then having his new g/f abuse me on the phone, I mean I was the one that had the right to scream, she had smashed my marriage apart.

It all comes down to conscience, are you willing to hurt someone that badly?  For the ones that sleep with married men, do you ever give a thought o the other person, that you are causing so much hurt and damage to someone else who does NOT deserve it?  What if there are children, you are also smashing apart their family. 

When it comes down to it, there are better things to do in the bedroom to spice things up than cheat.  IF you feel things are stale, try to liven them up.  If you fancy someone else, then have the guts to be honest and finish it, give it time to heal and still be honest before you move on. 

If you do cheat, and get caught, have the decency to appologise and at least give that person back the dignity they have had shattered.  Don't just make things worse and treat them like yesterdays trash.  If you can be adult enough to cheat, don't use b/s excuses either.  Take responsibility for the hurt and harm you caused, and to use a B/S excuse i got, don;t say you are not repsonsible for YOU own thoughts etc, too damn right you are, you chose to cheat, to hurt in the lowest sense of the word, now YOU fix it in whatever way you can.

Sorry, but its a sore point with me, after being married to a serial cheater who never took any responsibility for his actions, I will never condone cheating.  My advice, don;t do unless you want WW1, 2, 3 and 4 rolled into one, because as they say, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned :)

I've been on both sides of the equation.

I tried to brighten up my sex life with my wife for years, with very limited success. She just wasn't interested, so I began looking elsewhere.

I ended my marriage, and she has no idea of what was happening, and I will never tell her, the only point would be to hurt her, and there is no need to do that.

I then moved onto a relationship with a woman who has probably had more partners than hot dinners, and I tried to get a lot of hot dinners into her.

She is unable to help herself, and it's not honest sex either, it's essentially repayment for grog, dope and gaspers.

I tried to talk to her many many times, but honesty and taking responsability for ones actions weren't her strong points.

We finished up 6 months ago.

I recently got an offer from an absolute stunner, who is being negected, bottom line is I said no.

In the end it's a personal choice, I'll live with mine.