When I first discovered this site, I thought to myself, couples on this site must never want to break up. They have the choice and comfort level to want to discover new sexual adventures and effectively taking the need of "cheating" out of the equation.
After being on this site, for about 4 years, I have noticed people on the site like normal or vanilla people break up for the many thousands of reasons people choose to end their relationship. Your friends just happened to be on RHP. So to state that people break up because they swinging, I would say is not looking at the whole picture.
We have introduced one couple who joined RHP about two years ago and are still together. I would say that they are leaps and bounds ahead of us now. We love seeing them at parties, they are soooo much fun.
We have seen one couple come apart, possibly due to boundaries, but would prefer not to speculate.
I would agree with the wise comments above, RHP if anything may have been a trigger, but if the underlying base of the relationship is not solid or boundaries are not agreed upon, then it is only a matter of time till it all comes apart.
Honesty with each other, including sexual fantasies and sexuality need to be discussed and disclosed between couples. Honour each other and treat the other as would like to be treated yourself and the trust will grow.
We have been recently popular with younger couples, whom may like the concept of sharing sex but some struggle with the reality of the situation. We think parties is the best way to meet others and we always look forward to them and often refer newbies to meet us at a party if suits. A party was our first RHP experience, little did we know that three other parents from our school were also there :o
We have had fun and meet some lovely people here. xx
Speaking from experience in swinging in different situations/relationships- swinging creates an extra dimension to a relationship. Any relationship whether that be a commited bf/gf loving one, or a fwb situation.Having swung in both situations, I have found that they are quite similar.You are essentially adding an extra dimension. An extra hobby, an extra thing that you do together that you do with none of your friends. You operate in a team. You plan, get to talk about your partner/relationship with the other couple/person. During the event you look out for each other. We bounce off each other, slip in sneaky hand holds and my bf's lips are off limits to anyone else for kissing. Also discussing what happened afterwards, what we would change, what we liked etc.Doing this adds an extra risk. Like if you arent quite evolved in yourself and in your relationship to see your partner with someone else. I have to admit, when it comes to this, sometimes I am more fragile than other times. Sometimes I couldnt care less, sometimes I wont let anyone else touch him. I know he operates the same. Your trust is tested, your love, your confidence and everything else.But with these risks, come rewards. Rewards for us include extra time together (planning, the event, the debrief afterwards), being able to make each other happy (the smile on his face is the best), the extra pleasure, the extra adrenaline and excitement, the naughtiness, the bonding... and not to mention how much it enhances our sex life when we are on our own. (Not that we had any problem with that before...)
For us, the risks are sometimes there but the rewards far outweigh anything else. We love our life and wouldnt change the fact we are swingers. If we were to break up, it wouldnt be because we are swingers. It would be because we were not the right people to complete each other.
I have no factual evidence to this only what I know to be true and that is I have know 4 couples who have been on here as a couple and also with single profiles that have split up and gone their separate ways. I know 3 of these couples well enough to chat openly to and they all decided to join rhp to spice things up so it would appear the relationship was under pressure to start with. This by no means indicates anything at all......
People break up all the time..Why ?? because we can if we chose to