Cougars,also known as the mountain lion like to stalk their prey....oooohhh you are referring to women,sorry....

Most women 30-45, I imagine, would recoil from that term,actually most women of any age ,it implies  predatory behaviour

and wishfull thinking on the part of young men.

You are a guest,waiting for women to contact you,most women are guests ,men contact them,so therein lies your problem zacarak.You need to upgrade to have any chance.x Hugs H

Cougars,also known as the mountain lion like to stalk their prey....oooohhh you are referring to women,sorry....

Most women 30-45, I imagine, would recoil from that term,actually most women of any age ,it implies  predatory behaviour

and wishfull thinking on the part of young men.

You are a guest,waiting for women to contact you,most women are guests ,men contact them,so therein lies your problem zacarak.You need to upgrade to have any chance.x Hugs H

I agree, I am 30 years old I would not appreciate being called a cougar. First thing you need to remember, just because you are younger than them doesn't mean you are doing them a favour. Secondly don't assume they are interested in you because you are younger. Thirdly don't treat them like a novelty because of their age difference.

Sorry if my post seemed a little harsh. I really think the best thing to do like I said is approach them as an individual not as one homogeneous group.

Hmm, this is news to me. I better strap myself in for the ride once I tick over that milestone in 5 months.

Uh, I can give you some advice for approaching women in generally on RHP:

I've just read back over this post before submitting and it sounds pretty demanding, but I'm rolling with it anyway. I guess you could say it's my ideal - obviously, there is room for people to be human.

- Pay attention to detail. This covers lots of things such as reading the profile thoroughly, having good spelling and grammar on your own profile and in the messages you send. It shows you actually care and this is important.

- Don't flirt or message off the hook. That shit is annoying and will get you blocked really quickly. If she doesn't reply to your flirt or message, it's not an invitation to send another one. She may not have gotten around to replying to it yet, but if you send a second one, that can be a bit creepy and may put you in the no-reply basket.

- As the other women here have said, be interested in her as an individual person. I like to get to know a man - usually by discussing politics, travel, books, food, wine, sports or other activities. There may well be women out there who don't want to get to know you first, but I'd suggest they're in a minority. So maybe think about questions or topics you find interesting to discuss (other than sex). If you can get inside her head, you'll find her much more open to other activities.

- I agree with Tart_Du_Jour, most of the younger men I've met haven't been doing me any favours. I have one younger friend (not by much I might add), who is incredibly pushy and it's the biggest turn off. Please also remember manners i.e. if you're ever invited for dinner it's nice to bring a bottle of wine or whatever. I can't think of a better example of good manners just now, but you catch my drift. Being respectful is really important to anyone.

And so on and so forth.

Hi hon

I am beyone cougar

here is an old pole cat. approach

 

 

Make sure you have a back seat of a car and that the lights do not go on when you open a door. Sudden light of any kind  will make the pole cat look for something tocover herself, much like a vampire in sunlight

 

Sudden light will also turn you into a stone, as in greek tales...no I do not mean greekbums kido, go google

 

Make sure you have your wobble boots on, as in so much booze that you have to stagger to the car. Pole cats do not need to be drunk, as they are drunk on the very thought of a young studly dudly like yourself.

 

Pole cats have a bag full of condoms, lube and incontance pads

 

Do not under any circumstance let them on top,as if you happen to open your eyes you wll think you are bonking fred basset hound the jowles are so floppy and we drible when excited.

 

no we do not wax, we just have a bald spot on our flange when we are so old

 

oral sex...no teeth your dick and my mouth,could this be love?

 

comeon sonny , give the cougars a miss, stuck up tarts that they are

once you had a pole cat there is no going back to under 60...grrrrrrrrr

You  are terrible Muriel,lmaox Hugs H

What Hesione and Tuscan said plus...I don't really think of young guys as all that attractive...having discussed sex with people on here and my own observations, guys your age tend to be quite selfish, short lived lovers. Give me a man of refinement, culture, experience, or perhaps experience and big strong hands and possibly loads if staying power and I am going to have more interest. Also, not seeing oneself as gods personal gift to all women helps, even better if you don't see yourself as better than god...also, being willijg to stop, look, listen, learn ...and then cross the road is helpful before such encounters... If you consider it your pleasure to give her pleasure, you will have far more pleasure yourself, as she will return the favor unless she is a starfish in bed...can't help you with those ones... People with imagination tend to be better lovers also by the way, as they can think of new ideas, positions, locations, so it never hets a boring routine of same same sex...note Tuscan's highly imaginative answer,.infact all the above ladies have demonstrated that... But we are individuals, I hate the idea of a car seat, its so teenager, and if I have to 'break you UN's I am going to find it pretty boring...unless I have my whip out, but I am thinking you havent even seen that sort of stuff yet sonny...additionally, some women can't stand the idea f bonking someone young enouhh to be their son, especally if they have sons, and its that whole maturity thing... For me, if i am going to invest an afternoon, its not cause I think you are doing me a favor... I could feel quite the opposite... I would hae started with the approach mountain lions with caution, but Hesione said it for me... P.S I am a bit feline, but a whole lot human...Tuscan, I hope I have your volume of humor when I get to 59. Love you ladies. X x. Good luck, son

My phone and I aren't getting along...I don't want to have to "break you in"... Also, some guys have sent me emails on here stating they were after some "cougar action" with me... Big turn off, by the way.... I bothered to respond to one of them once, with "then you have a choice, your local zoo, or certain parts of North America, enjoy your trip, and remember to follow your tour guide's safety directions."

Nope, that wasn't a sexy cougar growl, that was me expressing my distaste for the term cougar and for the idea that young men should be able to click their fingers and get one into bed. I like men young and old. But when it comes to sex and relating, I like maturity, experience, intelligence, and a great deal of skill. It's not inconceivable to find this in a 23 year old, but bloody unlikely I reckon. If you want to stand out among the crowd young man - and it's a hell of a crowd - you'll need to put some effort in. A profile pic, tasteful and enticing (no, not your cock, unless it's 9" and fat, which will draw some lovely women in for sure). A well written profile talking a bit about you, a bit about what you like sexually, a bit about what you have to offer. A paid membership so you can contact women. Remember it's a numbers game - you'll make a lot of contact for very little response. That's just how it works. I'm also curious about why you're so keen on older women. Age is not a guarantee of good sex so be careful what you wish for ;)

I can give you one piece of feedback. One rookie mistake that I see in chat quite often.

Tuscan, you are too funny!

 

 

 

30 year old cougars! lol

 

 

The term conjures a 25+ age gap to my mind, not that i use it.

 

 

 

My Son will be your age. That blows any chance, IMO.

Yep, nothing makes my blood boil more.....and the guy who said it to me was only 4 years younger!!

 

My tiny bit of advice, show that there is something different about you and you never know, it might just spark some interest. Oh, and definitely upgrade as Hesione said! Mrs Waterbabes xxx

Theres a presumption here that all us women over 30 are just aching for you or one of your mates to come please us poor old soles...  Pffft   

Sorry' but not so young man...  the minute you mention the word 'cougar' is the moment you signal where your mindset is, so more likely than not ' we just move to the next profile looking for something with abit more maturity...

Sadly' there's a common miss beleif amongst young guys that married or older woman on here must be unhappy, oversexed , or just plain desparate, and waiting for a young stud to come and satisfy them ?  Wrong again...

My advice is the next time you're sitting around chatting with your mates'  let them know the perception they have is wrong' negative and untrue  .. 

Yes' cougars do exist' but they will choose you if they want you..  not the other way around... so dont hold your breath..

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news' but you might be luckier at the clubs and pub's...  thats where we all started at your age....

As an old dodderer with one stiletto in the grave I hate the term cougar.

Like all cats, I bite, I scratch and have been known to roar...loadly....

From Behind

Great guide, GreyEyes.

 

Conversational skills are a must. The 'cougars' aren't always interested in sex alone.

 

And now I have first dates with two lovely 30-somethings lined up

Maybe you young 'uns are a cougarette.....a cougar in training.