We were stood up last saturday night of course you never think the hot night you have planned for is not going to happen until after an hour or so waiting lol.

What we did was go online and see if there were any willing players in the very near vicinity. Of course there aint lol.

So we just had to have very hot sex on our own and let our fustrations out on each other in bed.

which works very well lol

But if there was a club within cooeee of us we probably would of went.

mmmm Might have to create a club in country NSW now that would be great lol

 

We are quite positive when this happens, and that's a good thing because it seems to happen more often than not.

Hi Waterbabes If I were you on such late notice I would have taken myself of to the Swingers Club I don't think there has ever been a time when my partner and I have gone there and came home disappointed  , we have always meet great people , great  atmosphere and most important great  playtime .that would have fixed your disappointment especially when you were looking forward to a great night,,,,,,,

We haven't had the misfortune of being canceled on as we usually stay with our tried and trusted friends and don't have the time to be mucked around but I would suggest as Eddie would say phone a friend you know who they are!. I'm sure they would move heaven and earth to save a boring night and avoid that more valuable than gold babysitting privileges being wasted ooxx.

We must admit the same scenario happened to us, we were so glad.The reason being we went to the Couples Club had a ball there with a really nice couple.

Yes, we understand how frustrating this can be as a host, especially when you have gone to the trouble of arranging sitters or even worse kids sleep overs and plans are cancelled at the last minute. You cannot help but feel cheated as planning these nights takes a lot of effort, then you think of what else you could have planned or you get the guilts because you have put your kids and family out.

 

I guess that is why we prefer to meet others at parties, so if plans change there are always others to meet.

 

We have had to cancel last minute on a party before, due to a sitter not showing, etc. But we have never cancelled last minute on a date.

 

Sure we get ticked off and maybe a bit grumpy :( ....But if we meet up again, there will be spankings or maybe a whiping :)

Mrs P will have her riding crop at the ready.

 

Punishment is in order, lol....yes you must pay. x

We've had a few meet first's fall through that maybe might have gone further if the connection was there. We're totally into each other so a night alone is not a negative in our eyes/arms. Of course it would have been nice to build that connection, be able to say you know who and what that other couple are about, and to have a fun night but shit happens. Unfortunately we don't live close enough to any clubs to just switch to plan b... and we don't cam either.

I just wanted to ask. Are the ones that don't turn up people you have actually met in person before hand?

I just ask this because I wouldn't be to confident someone was going to turn up if all we had was online contact beforehand.

We always meet people in person first socially. We then make a time and date to meet again for more if we are all keen. Not once has this resulted in a no show. Like others have mentioned establishing regular playmates that you can trust helps to.

That said I understand some times things happen and there is a genuine reason for some one to cancel. We are never in a rush to just make something happen. So we were put in that situation we would just enjoy the night together just the two of us.

Tim

Agree with Mrs Tri just still  have fun together as a couple

Yep, both people we know very well and both had very legitimate reasons for cancelling. We have no gripes what so ever with either of them and I know we will catch up again soon (when planets collide and moons align!).

On another note, when we first joined sans kids, we had the meet first, play later rule too. Very wise - we are far more flexible nowdays. If we hit it off with people when we meet and everyone is comfortable, we play and that has worked fine for us. We don't get very many opportunities to play, or to go out and socialise for that matter away from kiddie things, so for us, we have relaxed that rule. So far so good! XXX

Yeah, we would have but this really was last minute lol! And it was for a terribly shocking reason too - totally understandable, poor guy :(

I just come back on rhp

The fact is that there are so many factors in life that can get in the way of sex between a couple (if you let it) let alone between 3, 4 or more.

Cancellations are a fact of life in this game and the key i think is to have a back up plan, for us, if we have arranged a babysitter then we obviously dont want to waste our 'us time' so we would most likely hit one of the local clubs or call up some friends and try and arrange something last min, you never know if you dont ask

Funny that this topic should come up at the moment actually because i (Mrs) had an interesting situation just this weekend gone I had arranged to catch up with a couple on my own for some fun, i had met them previously and the chemistry seemed great, i wasnt really up for taking things to the next level at the time of our first meet as i was really tired and it had been a really busy week, anyway i came down sick on Friday and had to cancel (reasonable i would have thought) but the reaction from this couple was that they didnt want to arrange another time and that they were done and dusted with me It seems they have had so many cancellations and no shows that they just don't give out second chances, while i can understand this point of view it does pose the question, how many cancellations is too many? does it depend on how well you know the people involved? for us if it is someone we dont know that well we tend to have a 3 strikes you are out rule if it is people we know well then well we dont really have a rule lol............interesting to hear others view on this.

If we get a cancellation we try to do something else (swingers club or strip club) or call someone up on the off chance they're free.  Cancellations with a few hours notice usually mean we have time to make other plans but those last minute calls somewhat piss us off. Even worse is a no show. In over 12 years of swinging we have only ever been stood up twice...once by a couple we already knew and they just didn't show, call. text or answer our messages. The following night we get a message "Oh sorry, kid came down sick  that morning" That morning!! ??  There's plenty of time to have let us know. That night was ruined...by the time we realised they weren't gonna show it was too late to do anything else. That behaviour is very irresponsible & rude!  One other time we were stood up a few weeks ago..supposed to meet a single girl, we were meeting at a bar...all arranged that arvo...she never showed & didn't answer messages. Next day we get "Oh sorry the jet lag from my trip caught up with me"  ...yeah sure!  No second chance for her.

How many chances do we give new people? , if they are really hot (LOL) and seem genuinely sorry for bailing out we will give one more chance...but only one.  If we get a no show..no more chances!

When I was with hubby , we went to meet a couple , we had the address wrong and no mobile number with us , the other couple were upset as you could understand , and we felt bad about it too , but been stood up many times - part of life

For us anyhow there would be a big difference between a regular well know friend that have already proven them self to be honest and reliable canceling  last moment and some one completely new to us doing the same.

When you think about it . Out of the swinging scene when you arrange to meet friends for social events what ever it might be and your friends know you have gone to some trouble. (Particularly if its something one on one you have planed with your friends) Not like a party where its all good if just one person doesn't attend.

Lets say you have invited your friends over for dinner with a weeks notice and they know your cooking something special and have gone to some trouble. How often under this situation would they cancel on you in your regular life, especially last moment or even worse not even turn up? once in a blue moon and then it would only be If something unforeseen, emergency-family issue what have you.  You would trust your friends reasons are genuine and wouldn't have any  issue with it as you have a history and trust them.

It dose seem to me after reading a lot of the forum that in the swinging scene the odds of some one needing to cancel a date for what ever reason are much much higher than in normal life. Considering this doesn't happen out of the scene to the same extent one could be forgiven for assuming they they are not always genuine reasons.

I guess its the couples with kids that cancellations effect the most after committing to potentially expensive over night babysitting. Not to mention the people who like to host in 5 stare hotels on top of that. We tend to not make to big of a commitment to some one new to us in case it doesn't go to plan although we have been lucky to date.

Jane tends to get that dressed up for a play night that if who even  didn't turn up  I would be able to resist the temptation myself.

Tim

its happened a couple times to us, not heaps..... but when someone does it once, we never give them a second chance. Never......

LOL It's just happened to us after we booked a nice room for tonight, lesson learnt we planned and booked without having their female half being part of the planning. So... Our original plan was to check out the Chateau Vino Friday night launch tonight but we've yet to hear anyone recommend it to us so... we might just have to have a romantic night for two, locked up in our luxury tower. When I put it that way I'm looking forward to it already.