We go through our adult life looking for the one..Then when we think we have found it , we let it go..I have had many great sexual partners but is it more lust than love..Are we really meant to be with one sexual partner during a long relationship?
I was little more than a kid when I got married. So much so that when
my bridesmaid said right before we left for the church...'you can still
back out you know' and I said 'nah, its cool, I'll just leave him if I don't
like him later on'
And I did....5 minutes later (2 yrs actually)
I just couldnt for the life of me comprehend being with one person
for the rest of my life despite being raised in a family of happily
married parents and grandparents.
My philosophy has changed somewhat now tho, probably due to
having a few more years under my belt & sharing what years
I have left on this planet with someone is not nearly as daunting
as it was....oh so long ago!
Uhoh, epiphany central!!! that might explain what I'm doing here (RHP)..
tho I reckon I hung a left instead of heading to RSVP or similar. Euwww Yukki
lovey dove stuff...Im gunna hurl....LOL
Whoa! Thanks Trish, for your consistent honesty and bravery
in declaring where you've been, and in which direction you now
wish to take as a consequence!
You have inspired me to do likewise!!
Looks like we are both teetering on the edge of a brave new
world!!
There is a difference between sex and love and monogamists? seek to keep those two distinct concepts united. I think guys are most likely to be polyamorous and women are more likely to be .... clingy. :p Of course, there will always be those few who do not fit into my two broad categories, none the less, order has to start with some kind of system.
If we break away from our social conditioning that demands us to stay with "the one"... I think we'd all be a whole lot healthier and happier as a society... and shag more partners. Now what to do with all those pesky kids... lolz.. there are too many of them anyway, I mean the world is made of finite resources.... lolz... I know... send them to a kid farm... I mean, we all need jobs to help pay for all the linen we'll tear up through all that aggressive rooting... so yeah.. jobs down at the kid farm.
Hugs
stalky
In the animal kingdom there are animals that mate for life and animals that mate with the most likely to bare offspring.
Life mater's tend to be the passive, bottom of the food tree kind of creatures, where as the beasts that change partners based on health and breed ability are more aggressive.
As humans are higher up on the food tree and more aggressive than most animals it stands to reason that we fall into the category of the shag-a-rounders.
BUT... social and religious dogma pressures us to conform to the “one mate for life” constraint to make us feel more ethical and moral than our hormones really make us.
When it comes down to it no two people are 100 percent compatible (or incompatible) so whoever meets the right balance is probably the person you should most likely spend the rest of your life with.
For example, my first girlfriend only liked me because I could give her multiple orgasms, on a social and intellectual level we were nowhere near compatible. My second girlfriend was the complete opposite. Now I have balance with my fiancee where the sex is great, the social aspects are great and the intellectual conversations are on par... balance.
My fiancee and I have an agreement on external relationships based on a few strict rules of engagement and love to have other couples for mutual consensual fun... more balance.
There are only a handful of supermodels in the world and only one Brad Pitt / Hugh Jackman, everybody else is just like your average John or Jane Doe. Given the number of people in the world and the variances in life, there is WAY more than “One right person” for anybody.
The short answer to your question, depending on your social and religious beliefs, is No.
I dont understand. I mean, you can call me lots of names heymumma... and I don't moind. :)
Stalky
To quote mahjong...erm...majere
Thank Goodness I'm no longer a breeder!! It really is a brave new world out there...so many
flavours previously untried due to a biological urge to procreate! Hm, where have I heard that before???
Righto.....operation tickle my taste buds.... begins.....
The life of an agrressive garden snail. They'll fuck anyone... errr... I mean any other snail... they're even happy just rooting themselves. I hate snails. Lucky bastards.. expecially the really really agro beastly ones... they do it for hours.. stuck together.. multiple orgasms... their little shells shudder if you look closely... and tortoise.. have you ever seen a giant tortoise root? Man that's noisy sex right there... I took teh kids to the zoo a few years back... maybe about 15 years ago actually... and those damb tortoise were at it all day long... you could hear 'em all over the zoo.. lmfao.. so aggressive... in slo mo.
whilst reading Stalky's latest contribution....
fark, glad no1 could hear me....almost as embarrassing as a badger
burp....
(randy slow mo snails....shuddering shells...LOLOLOL)
Oh yeah... and all pigmy three toes sloths are total cock sluts. They must be really really aggressive fuckers.. I mean in complete slo mo. I love the animal kingdom for its diversity. Hmmmm diversity. Now there's a concept. :p
to satiate our sexual hunger??? Isn't there a law against that kinda
thing?
Oh...and I certainly do not intend placing the humble randy snail
nor the cock slut three toed sloth on my 'to do' list...
However, I DO know a few blokes who fit that description...is that close
enough??.....LOL
I thought my relationship with my fiancee was messed up, but I see there are others in the same boat! Sweet!
Lolz... Apply choccolate 1st.
Stalky,
Ever read that thing about pigs orgasams lasting 30mins... I aspire to pigdom... wait, that don't sound right... beastiality is not legal nor is it right.
I think, as usual, I've been misunderstood.... I'll go back to my box now.<sigh>
Probably not.....I remember reading something like 60% of guys cheat and 80% would if they could get away with it...not sure about the women.
Divorce rates are usually over 50% too.
Ubd I dont get it ? you are here but you only want one partner ...... but you are a couple?
Can you explain this more !
customer i see what your saying but being here just seems to confuse you more, you say ? Is it time to just stop being on here than??
sorry very very new to this
I really don't think humans as a whole were meant to be monogamous... but that's not to say we can't be... confused?
While I love that my husband loves to share me with other men if he turned around tomorrow and said no more then I could spend the rest of my life with him alone and still be perfectly happy emotionally and sexually.
I think in the end it all comes down to choice, if you want just one person then you do... if you want an open relationship or swinging partnership then it's something you broach early in the relationship to ensure it's something that is mutually agreeable.
Mrs Sassy