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Are we getting too judgemental?
April 19 2015
It has been our experience that there is the moral/ ethical police for example “you are too old”or “she is too young”, or “I don't agree with what you did”, over to silly nitpickings and this seems to be true every site we have ever been on over the last ten years or so.
Judgements can destroy people and is what Is wrong with the world today. Forget the judging live in peace let people enjoy their freedoms and lets not the world be even a worse place because of the few people out there that stop true expressions in a very hypocritical way.
No one likes to be judged and to my way of thinking it is a crime and I have personally seen the damage it can do to others.
A kinky lifestyle by it's very nature begs freedom of expression, think about that...
Comments
RHP User
9 years ago
isn't your own post full of judgment of vanilla people and their thinking ?
You've made some broad sweeping statements, based on what exactly ???
Personally I have no issue with your chosen lifestyle at all but it wouldn't be for me, but from your other recent post, and the above, I believe that is indeed you who are the one making the judgments
If you want to live in peace, as you have just written, then I suggest you stop drawing attention to yourself by posting on a public forum as I agree there will be many that do not understand nor condone your lifestyle choice and you will get slammed and simply go about your day.
Why do I feel that your posts are all about advertising, self promotion and continual justification and then you have the audacity to tell us what we should be thinking aboutRHP User
9 years ago
Your central assertion is untrue. BDSM is completely mainstream now. Very few people are shocked by it or judge it anymore, and those that do are people who judge most sex harshly and probably have their own issues to reconcile.
Other aspects of your professed lifestyle are much more likely to raise eyebrows. Particularly the cult-like vibe your profile exudes.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Twinkes' isn't your own post full of judgment of vanilla people and their thinking ?
You've made some broad sweeping statements, based on what exactly ???
Personally I have no issue with your chosen lifestyle at all but it wouldn't be for me, but from your other recent post, and the above, I believe that is indeed you who are the one making the judgments
If you want to live in peace, as you have just written, then I suggest you stop drawing attention to yourself by posting on a public forum as I agree there will be many that do not understand nor condone your lifestyle choice and you will get slammed and simply go about your day.
Why do I feel that your posts are all about advertising, self promotion and continual justification and then you have the audacity to tell us what we should be thinking aboutRHP User
9 years ago
judgement is within us all on a very basic level that's called preferences....
And as far as I can see....I'm happy with my choices therefore I don't feel judged....
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I make no excuses. Feel free to judge me for it.
RHP User
9 years ago
On a daily basis...it's a protective behaviour...if you live any kind of alternative lifestyle OP you will be judged..people fear why they don't know or understand...xxFreya
RHP User
9 years ago
Especially in Australia, peeps are super conservative and judgmental about anything sex related ..seriously, bdsm is NOT main stream at all ..99% of the population would definitely think youre in need of psychiatric help if you told them about your sub life or dom life ..Even talk about light spanking or restraining your partner is considered serious taboo or even abuse .
Tv is the worst..time and time again you hear tv host comment on celebs showing too much skin , and whore shaming is rampant everyone know ..its considered normal to whore shame any woman who who wears a skirt or acts flirty ..totally agree with you O.PRHP User
9 years ago
It's not the judgment that is the issue, it is the self that condemns when one takes that judgment as worthy of merit. If that be so then there must be an element of concurrency with the judgment. It is the guilty that fear the bitter expressions of judgment and feel its bite, while the innocent will see just empty words.
Are we becoming too judgmental? No, but maybe we are feeling more guilt for which there is only one's self to blame.RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Aussieguy40_5' Quoting 'Twinkes' isn't your own post full of judgment of vanilla people and their thinking ?
You've made some broad sweeping statements, based on what exactly ???
Personally I have no issue with your chosen lifestyle at all but it wouldn't be for me, but from your other recent post, and the above, I believe that is indeed you who are the one making the judgments
If you want to live in peace, as you have just written, then I suggest you stop drawing attention to yourself by posting on a public forum as I agree there will be many that do not understand nor condone your lifestyle choice and you will get slammed and simply go about your day.
Why do I feel that your posts are all about advertising, self promotion and continual justification and then you have the audacity to tell us what we should be thinking about
Pray tell why ?RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with GoldCoastCple69 - sex and nudity (little on BDSM) is still way less acceptable in the media and TV than say violence.
Just see how much of a media over reaction occurred with the book and movie 'Shades of grey'; the coverage of the couple filmed having sex in their office (lost their jobs); top models getting arrested for indecent behaviour after a semi nude photo shoot in the city.
It might be becoming more mainstream amongst the population but you would get such judgemental and deriding comments through our highly conservative media.
- Posted from rhpmobile
inspirit
9 years ago
No it isnt mainstream. Some aspects are. Like light B & D. The rest isn't at all. Sure your saying people accept it.... but do they really.
Was the OP talking more about the aspects of S & M in a previous post. I don't know. Interesting tho how conclusions are jumped too.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Truth to be told, and by reading your posts, you seem to be the one with a complex, and the judgmental one, really.Perhaps you should take your own advice, rather than use it like a back talk rhetoric, and go about your business as you wish. Vanilla or not, everybody has the right to chose what they want to do, experience, live,etc. So if you don't like being told "you are to old" or " I am not into that...." move on........ Being judgmental does not mean stating an opinion. Even saying that something is "bad" or "good" is not necessarily judgmental (some will argue that labeling something as "good" or "bad" is wrong). Not being judgmental does not mean to be opinion-less, spineless, non-skeptical, not being exquisite, being indifferent to whatever. If this was the case then no discussion or analysis of reality would be able.
RHP User
9 years ago
But, I suspect that the judgement of some towards the sexual mores of others is fuelled by fear. And to judge it irrational fear might be unfair. Fear of anything unknown is understandable, I think...it's a brutalland out there, populated also by monsters that look and sound like you and I. Too ignore that fact could prove dire.
But I do think that judgements and opinions that will cause offence should be kept to ones self. If no one is being harmed, there is no need to foster bitterness anywhere.
Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Their time in this place was rather...... brief.
DGRHP User
9 years ago
Judge me not. Simple really
RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' No it isnt mainstream. Some aspects are. Like light B & D. The rest isn't at all. Sure your saying people accept it.... but do they really.
We mix in different crowds.inspirit
9 years ago
Quoting 'Rick_Blaine' Quoting 'inspirit' No it isnt mainstream. Some aspects are. Like light B & D. The rest isn't at all. Sure your saying people accept it.... but do they really.
We mix in different crowds. I am in WA after all. Conservative ring any bells :-)RHP User
9 years ago
When it comes to sex,whether it's fairly vanilla or not...more fifty shades of kinky awesome,you will be judged unless you are happy to share with those that you trust or the cognoscenti here...even then you will be judged by some...family and friends,work colleagues ,neighbours,who ya gonna tell...xxFreya
RHP User
9 years ago
I have always enjoyed a little kink but until 18 months agonever went full on and in fact my sex life was patchy as Ilooked for a full time partner.Then started dating kinky younger girls and got subs with moresex than I can handle.I know what I prefer so to hell what others think.
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