I think what you need to remember about this site is that women get an enormous number of messages sent to them every day. You have to find some way to deal with the volume, and narrow down who to actually meet. Of course some women use physical fitness as a selection criteria. After all, it is primarily a sex sex site, so why not be clear about what you find physically attractive. Is it shallow? Well....yes. But hey, why not? Women can afford to be picky on a site like this. If a guy had the same sort of thing on his profile I doubt he would have any luck at all ;)
I too read a lot of women's profiles, and the ones that I find particularlyare the obviously overweight women who 'demand' their playmates be in peak physical shape. I do wonder how well that works for them? But personally, out of the males that I have met up with it hasn't been the ones with the best abs that have kept me going back for more , there are much more important qualities in a playmate in my opinion!
It may come as a bit of a surprise...but being nice to someone (even if you have already agreed on nsa sex) will go a long way. The occasional compliment is appreciated. Engaging in a little bit of conversation, showing at least a small amount of interest in my life outside the bedroom.
I'm not talking about a relationship, but seriously, is it too much to ask to have a bit of a 'buddy' in a fuckbuddy? or a 'friend' in a fwb situation?
I have met guys from here with bodies like grecian gods, but if their head is too far up their own backside then the sex isn't fun and I do not enjoy their company. I would much prefer someone that I can enjoy hanging out with, can have a laugh with, and don't feel used by when when we go our separate ways.
Oh, and of course, great skills in the bedroom helps...but that is such a subjective thing and EVERY guy says he is awesome in bed ;)
NSA= no strings attached . Sorry about that, I thought it was standard lingo!
Given the disparity between the number of blokes on here & the number of women, the ladies can be a bit "picky" which can be seen as shallow. However thats no different then meeting someone in a club or shopping centre. But then in saying that meeting or "bumping" into someone face to face lets you get to use all your senses of
sight (are they visually appealing to you)
sound (the tone of voice & does it convey the right inflection of humor, sincerity, etc for the conversation)
smell (do they smell nice, or is their personal hygene lacking & then theres the subconscieous pheromones)
touch (a lot can be gleened from a handshake)
taste (well personally I dont usually lick people in public but......... even a kiss on the cheek can give hint of someones personality & or prowess)
Also in person the other persons confidence in themselves is easier to spot or pick up on, where as in text confidence can convey as arogant or concieted.
Then add to all of that that online we have a fair degree of annomymity & some people both male & female can be keyboard warriors. Which leads me to Cherries comment about every bloke will say their great in bed, again personally I learnt a long time ago not to write checks ya arse cant cover. The dynamic's between 2 people is very much subjective & just like cheap shampoo results may vary.
I would or could delve more into the above but theres not much point if you cant break the ice & get that first invite. But again in saying that I have meet more then a few delightful ladies off here & more the most part I do get that 2nd 3rd or more call back (whether or not anyone believes that I dont particulary care, those that know know whom they are) & theres yet another aspect of sites like this & that is that Darwin is a small place so discretion becomes a factor for some people.