Hey everyone

Thanks for all the tips - I have lots to try :)

Looking forwards to a whole lot of pleasure!

Mwah Mel x

WoW - Random. You must have very intersting toy box. Tell me - do you share your toys?

Meeka

sounds like a speculum

Don't women lose control of their anal muscles, as reported by porn stars? I saw a report that porn stars later couldn't with hold pooping their pants.

HAHAHAHA Love that "bicuriousgal" Might have to harden the fuck up myself :) Bel

As well as the various methods mentioned by other above, some people with a preference for the backroads use amyl nitrate as a way of relaxing the involuntary sphincter (the one that causes the problems usually, since the other sphincter is voluntary...) It can be sourced from some sex shops, usually by asking after "video head cleaner". It does need to be treated carefully though, since it does also drop your blood pressure at the same time, so don't use it standing up. If it is mixed with Viagra or Cialis (or other drugs in the same class) the combination can drop your blood pressure in a severe, sustained fashion that can be fatal (and has been for a fair few punters). Anyway, don't read this as an endorsement, and always know what you're about when trying anything with drugs, medicinal or recreational... Valium and other benzos aren't muscle relaxants per se, but they do relax people very nicely, and that's very helpful. The advice re DIY stretching and training is excellent IME, no one is better placed to push your limits while not pushing into massive OW! territory than you are. It also allows you to train yourself to accomodate bigger objects than your partner's cock, so that when it goes in you know that your anus can stretch that big. That not only helps with the physical side of learning to love anal, but also with the mental side, because you *know* that your ass can take even bigger toys it means you no longer have to worry about whether it'll fit or not. Less worry = more relaxed = more fun in the bum ;) On a personal note, the ludicrous size butt-plugs you see in some sex shops (often the same ones selling amyl, oddly enough ;) make a great warm up toy. Not to actually get some 12 inch diameter plug into your butt though, that's always seemed like it'd make the experience like the old hotdog down the hallway for your partner... Instead, for example, you can squat over it and lower your ass onto it while you give your partner head at the same time. It gets you very horny and wet, the smooth taper lets you really stretch your asshole for a moment or a minute without running out of girth, and since your controlling it, as soon as the stretch becomes too much you can back off a bit and let your ass get comfortable again. Boys always seem to love getting a bj while their partner is busy dilating her (or his) anus for his use, but that's hardly a surprise. And since you're both getting more and more turned on together, as soon as you're ready to have your ass fucked you can be sure that he is rock hard and dripping with saliva (especially if you've been deep-throating him too, he he he) so his cock can slide in smooth and slippery, and of course you can either keep your anus relaxed for that porn-style gape (though it is easier said than done), or you can squeeze tightly for the first few strokes for than tight feel (and since it is only the voluntary sphincter you can relax it as you like to avoid any pain but still get that feeling of your ass being invaded/owned/used :) Hmm, can you tell we like anal play? He he he Lisa & Finn PS: Even in the worst case scenario of having the muscle of the anal sphincter torn (as often happens during anal rapes for example) it doesn't mean you'll be wearing adult diapers for ever more. Partial tears heal, and even complete tears can be repaired with a gracilis muscle transfer. It's not ideal, obviously, but it does mean you are the commander of your bowels again :D

I agree, and if it works, great, if it doesn't, there's always next time

plenty of alcohol and vas i believe that works and take it slow baby no rush

love this

Yeah, I thin that the vasoline and alcohol trick may be useful. Smoke can be helpful, so can plenty of rimming and fingering. But I think the loosing of anal muscle control comment has some truth to it too. But, it's rare to finda lover that likes anal (for me anyways) so try try try, that would be my motto

Next time we get together, I'll give you all the advice I have at intermission (although....I don't ever remember there being any intermissions.....?!  hehehe...)  And I will always be there for you to lend a hand, on hand to pass the lube, spit on it, whatever.  I'm an anal slut....  You're definately missing out gorgeous girl, call me and we'll get onto it asap!?

And as per usual, I would be more than willing to step in and cop it for you if it's get's too much...X